Porn Addiction Recovery without Jesus

LegacyUser

Hello,

I am a porn addict. Is there any secular online websites that deal recovery? I have been looking for a while and haven't found any that don't rely on Bible Quotes. I refuse to start believing just because I am at a very low point.

Thanks.

auerillo

Belief_gone wrote: »

Hello,

I am a porn addict. Is there any secular online websites that deal recovery? I have been looking for a while and haven't found any that don't rely on Bible Quotes. I refuse to start believing just because I am at a very low point.

Thanks.

I'm not sure that the internet (where I am assuming you find most porn) is the right place to find the solution. Often for people in your situation, the addiction is not a single one to porn, but also to the internet, and the soultion to both is to wean onesself off the net.

Like any addiction, it's not easy, and is easier if you are able to talk to someone face to face abouit what is, probably, compulsive behaviour.

Have you anyone you can talk to who might help you?

Or, if not, have you considered talking to a psycho therapist?

seamus

The problem is that the religion-based "recovery" websites you've found believe that it's as easy as "finding" Jesus and you'll be saved.

Anyone with a brain in their head knows that it's not that simple and so it's not as simple as putting up a website with helpful information.

If you trust your GP, speak to him/her and get a referral onto a counsellor who specialises in addictions. If you don't trust your GP, find one that you'll never have to speak to again and get a referral.

Best of luck.

Miss Fluff

+1. Go to a counsellor who specialises in addiction or try cognitive behavioural therapy. Online proabably not the best place to go looking tbh.

St James

Perhaps you could try to identify when you search for the porn, then try to find something else to do at that time. It if was in the late evening, could you join some club, go to pub, go for a walk, just to take your mind off the damn thing.

I would agree that there is no point in joining some cult in the hope of weaning off, as the damage that some these cults do can be more head wrecking.

you, as a human being have a certain dignity and have a right for that dignity to be respected. Jesus would not condemn you, but when and if you are ever ready to go to him, then you will not find him wanting.

in the meantime, try to occupy your time with something else.

You could also place some anti porn software on your computer. That would prevent you accessing it. It is hard, but you can overcome any addiction with willpower and support.

philologos

seamus, I'm not sure that that is true. This is a ministry involved in promoting awareness of pornography addiction worldwide, they provide accountability software, and provide realistic ways in which people can overcome such addictions. They offer help, live support, and offer different guides for different people in different age groups.

I'm not sure just because people emphasise a spiritual connection in helping people to get the motivation to step forward that that is a bad thing.

OP: I'd encourage you to set a calendar of days, and try to go as long as possible without doing it. If you do, try to go longer than you did the time before remembering the amount of days. After a while of going through this process it should be easier for you to eventually take your mind off it because it will not be a part of your life any more.

If it is a huge problem, get your wife / girlfriend or a friend to put blocking software on your computer with a password you don't know.

seamus

Jakkass wrote: »

seamus, I'm not sure that that is true. This is a ministry involved in promoting awareness of pornography addiction worldwide, they provide accountability software, and provide realistic ways in which people can overcome such addictions. They offer help, live support, and offer different guides for different people in different age groups.

Can't open the link in work but I'm assuming there's a religious slant to the site. Like AA, it might have a good ethos and a good methodology, but ultimately it fails to cater for those people who do not have a religious belief and have no interest in acquiring one.
It can be hard to take something seriously when it seems to be peppered with nonsense. For example, if you had a counsellor who seemed to know what he was on about, but throughout told you to rely on your belief in Santa to help you, that would cast doubts on the process as a whole.

I'm not going to debate any Jesus/Santa comparisons here, just illustrating to you how a religiously-slanted anti-addiction programme comes across to a non-believer.

OP: I'd encourage you to set a calendar of days, and try to go as long as possible without doing it. If you do, try to go longer than you did the time before remembering the amount of days. After a while of going through this process it should be easier for you to eventually take your mind off it because it will not be a part of your life any more.

Not a bad idea, but not a substitute for getting help. As an initial stage, perhaps - see if you can go for a week and judge your desire at the end of it. If you found the week very difficult or you find yourself wanting to go back to porn at the end of the week, then seek professional help.

If it is a huge problem, get your wife / girlfriend or a friend to put blocking software on your computer with a password you don't know.

Like any addiction, an addict will find ways to satisfy themselves. Change has to come from within, you cannot rely on the actions of others to restrict your access to your addiciton in the hope that you forget about it.