Friend issue

LegacyUser

Hey,

I have a friend who is going through a bit of a rough patch at the moment. She broke up with her boyfriend of 5 years about 6 months ago. He was an older guy who was from a differnet country. It didnt seem like the most stable of relationships to me from what she tells me.
In the last month shes gotten quite upset about it, thinking bout him constantly. Its gotten worse now since hes started communicating more with her.Shes studying abroad at the moment so she cant exactly meet up with him and try and talk things over. Its really getting her down.
I'm constantly trying to cheer her up but no matter how much i make her smile/laug, she always goes back into the same depressed mood, which can be quite frustrating. We have nearly the same conversation about it every night and i think she expects me to come up with some kind of answer for her but I don't have any..i'm only good at making people laugh and listening...not giving advice!
So i was wondering if anyone out there could maybe come up with a solution I could give her or at the very least some ideas on how to try and keep her smiling?

Thanks

That_Guy

Helpful Ned wrote: »

Hey,

I have a friend who is going through a bit of a rough patch at the moment. She broke up with her boyfriend of 5 years about 6 months ago. He was an older guy who was from a differnet country. It didnt seem like the most stable of relationships to me from what she tells me.
In the last month shes gotten quite upset about it, thinking bout him constantly. Its gotten worse now since hes started communicating more with her.Shes studying abroad at the moment so she cant exactly meet up with him and try and talk things over. Its really getting her down.
I'm constantly trying to cheer her up but no matter how much i make her smile/laug, she always goes back into the same depressed mood, which can be quite frustrating. We have nearly the same conversation about it every night and i think she expects me to come up with some kind of answer for her but I don't have any..i'm only good at making people laugh and listening...not giving advice!
So i was wondering if anyone out there could maybe come up with a solution I could give her or at the very least some ideas on how to try and keep her smiling?

Thanks

Unfortunately you can't do her grieving for her. 5 years is a very long time to be with somebody and of course she's gonna be upset having a big part of her life cut out.

This won't be what she wants to hear but the only way she can move on is to cut all contact.... that is if she wants to move on.
If she dumped him then why is she getting distraught over it? Have you asked whether or not she wants to get back with him?

If she does tell her to weigh out the pros and cons about him.

kittenkiller

Have you tried distracting her?
A night out
A long walk
Chatting about current affairs or celebs

I think your friend needs to keep busy and try not to think about it.
The poor thing, at least she has people who care about her around her.
That's what she needs most.

sorrywhat

Its going to be hard for anyone to get over a bf of 5 years.

Take her out on a girly night out
Or have a dvd night, bottle of wine - steer clear of bf talk

When somethings getting me down I try to do things rather then sitting around because then the mind wanders.

Also she isnt going to get over him if he is in contact with her.