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Never been in love.

  • 08-12-2009 7:27pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    This is wrecking my head and I need some advice, i've had numerous relationships, have got on really well with most of my girlfriends but the thing is i've never loved anyone, i've been close to getting married on a couple of occasions but didn't go ahead over this. I really don't know what to do, i only seem to reach a point where i get on really well but never fall in love, maybe it's just me but I feel awful.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Consider yourself very lucky! I'm not joking or trying to stir anything up but, I've loved and lost, and trust me on this, the hurt, the loss, the heartache, is far far worse than the love ever was, and the love was amazing, but, given the chance, I'd go back and never let it happen, as I said, its simply not worth it, just my own opinion, but, its a very honest one, think of love as being on top of the world, but loss and heartache is the bottom, theres only two extremes, do yourself a favour, keep a hold of your emotions and stay on middle ground.


  • #3
    greengiant09
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 237 ✭✭greengiant09


    the first thing you should do is panic!... i actually can't believe there's freaks like you still out there!....life must be so tough for you. try and grow a pair, that might help for a start.


  • #4
    XarcherX
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 87 ✭✭XarcherX


    No. the first thing you do is ignore the above poster. he/she is just being ignorant.
    Give it time OP


  • #5
    The Recliner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,630 ✭✭✭The Recliner


    greengiant09 wrote: »
    the first thing you should do is panic!... i actually can't believe there's freaks like you still out there!....life must be so tough for you. try and grow a pair, that might help for a start.

    Greengiant09 banned


  • #6
    Bottle_of_Smoke
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,770 ✭✭✭Bottle_of_Smoke


    Might be projecting a bit but what the hell...

    Have you been going out with women who tend to be "chasing" you, ie contact you first, you generally feel "in control" of the relationship?

    Do you avoid going for girls you really like because you think they might reject you?

    Maybe you're just not going for gold, part of being in love, at the start anyhow is some degree of fear they might leave you. If you bypass this horrible feeling by going for a girl you know is more into you than vice versa you're losing that


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    i have the same thing. i mean i think i love my faimly but thats after an entire lifetime.

    when situations arise where people should get angry or sad i have to say to myself this is how i should respond to this. but id be baseing this off other peoples reactions

    it scares me silly that im for the most part some kind of emotionless robot and that i have to base my reactions on what other people expect of me.


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