would you mind?

LegacyUser

I'm just wondering what you guys think. Been with my BF for 2 and a half years. We're both in our late twenties/early thirties. The thing is he keeps email addresses and contact details of previous girlfriends and girls he just had one night stands with. Would you be ok with this if you were in my situation. I don't think he's in contact with them regularly, think he's keeping them in case something happens with us. Sometimes I think I'm being ridiculous but then other times I think that if he was truly happy with our relationship why would he keep their details?

Barracudaincork

Have you asked him why he still has them?

If i went through my phone i would find allsorts of numbers there, from my old dentist in London to an old shag in New York. Im just to lazy to delete them etc

You are with him over 2 years and you really shouldnt be feeling as insecure about these numbers and email addresses, he is with you, end of!

Keeping the numbers is not a sign he isnt happy in your relationship, but you asking that, may suggest you think he isnt happy in your relationship and you are looking for proof of his unhappiness, which the contacts list provides in your eyes.

Just ask him if you want to know why he has them and then deal with his answer once you know why.

XarcherX

i don't think it's anything to worry about unless he is contacting them behind your back, which you haven't seen any evidence of.
a lot of people do this for no particular reason, as barracuda said, he's probably too lazy to delete them. If you went through your phonebook you'd probably see numbers of old flames in there as well that you've no intention of using.
You've obviously asked him who these girls are?? seeing as you know they were ex's & one-night stands.
As long as he's being honest with you i wouldn't worry too much.

dublingal80

how does he have them kept? Like just numbers in his phone and the emails in his email account or would he have a book with all the details

I have so many old numbers in my phone and same with eamils. just couldnt be bovered to clean it all up

Red Alert

I've got pretty much all the numbers of people I've met over the years - perfectly normal.

magneticimpulse

yeah he prob forgot he even has them. i had photos of previous ex's on my laptop. wouldnt even notice if they were there are not...until ex found them. Its not something I would make a big issue about, your his girlfriend.

Arithon

I don't think it's especially out of the ordinary. I like to keep most/all numbers on my phone - not because I want to ring people, but because I want to know who's ringing me - Caller ID is great

AngryBadger

Stop being pathetic, your bf having friends who are also women doesn't mean anything, except that since you're obviously bothered by it you have major confidence issues.

Wibbs

AngryBadger less of the "pathetic" charges please. What troubles you could doubtless be construed as "pathetic" by some out there. I know some of mine could be. Vice versa. Thanks.

james.xix

amIsilly? wrote: »

I'm just wondering what you guys think. Been with my BF for 2 and a half years. We're both in our late twenties/early thirties. The thing is he keeps email addresses and contact details of previous girlfriends and girls he just had one night stands with. Would you be ok with this if you were in my situation. I don't think he's in contact with them regularly, think he's keeping them in case something happens with us. Sometimes I think I'm being ridiculous but then other times I think that if he was truly happy with our relationship why would he keep their details?

My gf has issues with me having ex's numbers in my phone.
We've only been together 8 months know, had a bit of a break-up and been back together 6-7 weeks.

I don't see the problem, I'm not longing for any of my ex's, just on good terms as friends.

I think he is keeping a lot of details though. I have phone numbers only and that's it. It's not of every girl either.

I would think after two years ye'd be in a good place in ye're relationship.
When I feel the time is right and I'm in secure in a relationship, I can imagine rermoving the numbers of ex's in my phone as it would feel right then.

If he was truly happy, commited and secure in your relationship, especially being over a year and a half to 2 years, I'd have thought he wouldn't have those details.

LegacyUser

The contact details he keeps are not from of his long-term exes, they're details of girls he would have had one night stands or short flings with. He's only recently added some of them to his address book, this is what set alarm bells ringing for me