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Awaiting test results - how can I be supportive?

  • 03-12-2009 7:27pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi,

    I just found out this morning that myy girlfriend of nearly 2 years is going in to hospital for a scan in 2 weeks time to see if she has an illness which could really change her life (without going into that much detail, this could also end up with her being diagnosed infertile which I know would kill her) in a lot of ways. I want to be as supportive as possible but this is the 1st time I've really had to go through this kind of thing and I feel a little lost.

    To be fair to her, she was staying very upbeat and positive and sticking with "It's probably nothing" and she's dead right. I don't want to do anything to change that train of thought for her but I want to be supportive to her also. I know it's a fair wait for someone to go through with such large consequences at stake and I just want to be as helpful to her as I possibly can. I've already told her I'm here if she needs anything and that she can talk about it etc etc.

    Has anyone here who has had any kind of similar experiences got any advice for me?

    To be perfectly honest I'm worried sick about her now. I won't show this to her but that's how I feel right now.


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  • #2
    Overheal
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    Think about it this way - should the worst happen, where do you plan to be?

    I'd start with that.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    Overheal wrote: »
    Think about it this way - should the worst happen, where do you plan to be?

    I'd start with that.

    I plan to be right by her side supporting her. I didn't think that was even a question. I wouldn't be much of a man if I did anything else now would I?

    I love her and this won't change that.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
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    worried bf wrote: »
    I love her and this won't change that.
    That's all she needs to know. There's nothing more you can do - just be there for her and make sure she knows how you feel.

    On a sidenote, I'm pretty sure I know the condition you're referring to. I know of a great website if she does get the diagnosis (presuming I'm on the right track here).


  • #5
    Victor
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    Nobody_ wrote: »
    On a sidenote, I'm pretty sure I know the condition you're referring to. I know of a great website if she does get the diagnosis (presuming I'm on the right track here).
    Bull.


  • #6
    Overheal
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    Nobody_ wrote: »
    That's all she needs to know. There's nothing more you can do - just be there for her and make sure she knows how you feel.
    Thats all I was getting at. I think you have your answer OP. When life throws you Complicated throw it back some Simple.

    Just remember if you start worrying, that everything is being done that can be done, Im sure. At that point you have to draw the line or youll worry yourself ill.


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