Major Crush

Libertewhite

I'm in a lousy predicament here.

Ok, so there is someone I see everyday in college and over the last few months I've been getting quite fond of this woman. But over the last week I keep thinking about her more and more, morning noon and night and quite frankly, I wish I wasn't so keen on her. I can't avoid her cause shes in most of my classes.

When shes in the class all I can do is stare and laugh, even if she says something stupid. We have a good banter in class (this is probably how it started) and shes constantly taking the piss out of me and I to her. And it doesn't help that when she smiles at me, I would smile back, then we would start laughing by smiling so much:p.I'm nearly obsessed with her smile...its so attractive and shes a very attractive woman. I know myself nothing will ever happen and if I tried (and of course failed) then it would be awkward for us both, plus probably really embarrasing:o
Also this woman happens to be 10years older, I assume. I would rather not say who she is incase, but if it would help, then ask.

How would you get over this? I'll be seeing her everyday untill the end of the year so want to get through this as soon as possible and get her off my mind.
Any help appreciated.

DubLass

I dont really understand what the problem is sorry, is she married or something or is it her age thats holding you back?

Libertewhite

DubLass wrote: »

I dont really understand what the problem is sorry, is she married or something or is it her age thats holding you back?

Shes a teacher...

DubLass

So is it a case that you have a crush? Is she as friendly with everyone? Im sure if she is a professional its not going to go any further anyway.

tony1kenobi

Libertewhite wrote: »

Shes a teacher...

Nice.

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Libertewhite

DubLass wrote: »

So is it a case that you have a crush? Is she as friendly with everyone? Im sure if she is a professional its not going to go any further anyway.

It is, and I feel really silly. Shes friendly with everyone but for some reason only takes the piss out of me.
Obviously since shes a teacher, its not going to go further and I can accept that.

I was hoping for some ideas to get her off my mind.

taram

Aww poor you, I think everyone's been there at some stage, I know I have!

Try focus on things outside the classroom, like start a sport, or new language. Ideally you'd meet other girls who would be your romantic focus, but important things are to (a) not compare them to your crush (b) use them to get over your crush or (c) drive them barmy talking about your crush non-stop. I'm guilty of those things.

You'll find another woman as great as this one when you least expect it! Until then, I know it's hard, but you can do it!

Libertewhite

Hopefully I'll start a club in the new year and meet people there! Thanks for the encouragement. Its a horrible thing to have a crush on a teacher, lets hope this other woman comes along soon:p
I appreciate the help:)

Satyr_The_Great

Libertewhite wrote: »

Hopefully I'll start a club in the new year and meet people there! Thanks for the encouragement. Its a horrible thing to have a crush on a teacher, lets hope this other woman comes along soon:p
I appreciate the help:)

Been there, its hard but it cant happen. The womans job will be at risk if something happens. Was in a similar situation myself a few years back, well more than a few years now, but with us it was more than a crush but we couldnt act on it as both me and her didnt want her losing her job over it.. If i was you i would just try and let it pass by and try and kep it at a teacher / student relationship and nothing more.

cafecolour

Def join a club and meet more people, to take your mind off this one.

And come end of the year, when she's no longer your teacher, you could ask her out of a drink/cup of coffee.

Until then, remember you're not the only one - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g0XLKcMoXRE

Libertewhite

Thanks for the advice peeps

Well so far its hard because I'm comparing every girl I see, to her. I'm sure it takes time to stop doing that, right??

I need someone to slap me silly because I see her becoming an obsession and I can't help it!! I have to say this is a first for falling for such a woman...and I do not like it one bit.