Depressed in Relationship

LegacyUser

Everyday I wake up and do not want to get out of bed. I am depressed about being in a long term relationship. I feel it is too late now to get out because we have been going out for a long time. I have been unhappy since the beginning. I am so used to her now that I would not know what to do if we did break up. Why am I depressed? She is a really nice girl, very good looking etc. I feel Ive missed out in so much.
I am scared that if I do break it off now that I will have made a mistake and will not be able to get her back.
I just want to be able to smile and laugh and not be angry.

modest_marie

jhgkkkj wrote: »

I feel Ive missed out in so much.

You are feeling held back. This unhappy feeling isn't going to go away. There must be things you want to do but you can't because of your relationship?

HermitHorace

First things first is the big one - Do you love this girl?

There is a big difference between not wanting to hurt because you care for her so much and being in love with her.

Once you decide this then you will either fight for the relationship or walk away.

Walking away at this point will cause plenty damage but it's better in the long run and the worry about being on your own or regretting walking away is overtaken by the realisation that you simply will not be happy in this relationship.

Or else you'll decide that this is what you want and you'll get off your arse and change things.

Best of luck.

Wibbs

How long are we talking here? Would this seriously upset your life in a practical way because of so much shared stuff, friends, housing etc? Even so, no matter how long or short, or how much it may affect you, being depressed and having your emotional life affected this much is not good and you may be better out of it. Is it definitely the relationship though, or is it a general thing within you and the relationship is the focus?