what will i do?

LegacyUser

Both of my parents died this year and I come from a big family of 7, I’m the youngest and my next oldest sibling is 12 years older than me so I guess I was a surprise, anyway, since their death, I’ve never felt so isolated from my family, none of them have called me since my fathers funeral (he was the last to die) and I just feel its them and me, maybe the big age difference and I’m not married, all the others are, I’ve really tried to stay in contact but they just exclude me from their “click” and never bother returning my calls unless they want something ie lifts or favours coz I work in a retailers, should I even let this upset me or should I just change my number and let them get on without me, they probably wont notice it anyway, they don’t seem to realise I’m really hurting too, I’m just 25 and finding myself with no parents and being on my own doesn’t help, thank god for my friends and boyfriend, id really be lost without them

LegacyUser

I`m in exactly the same situation as you!
Both my parents died this year too and I am also the youngest with a 7 year age gap to my nearest sibling. I`m not married either, but I am older than you.
I am totally alone now and am finding it very hard to get on with things as i cared for them giving up most of my life caring for them.
I hope you can get your life back on track soon and their uncaring treatment of you will come back to bite them in the future.
Best of luck anyway.

snowy2008

look out for yourself, your an adult now, and someday you will have your own family, look forward not behind coz thats not the direction your moving!

Warfi

usernameuser wrote: »

Both of my parents died this year and I come from a big family of 7, I’m the youngest and my next oldest sibling is 12 years older than me so I guess I was a surprise, anyway, since their death, I’ve never felt so isolated from my family, none of them have called me since my fathers funeral (he was the last to die) and I just feel its them and me, maybe the big age difference and I’m not married, all the others are, I’ve really tried to stay in contact but they just exclude me from their “click” and never bother returning my calls unless they want something ie lifts or favours coz I work in a retailers, should I even let this upset me or should I just change my number and let them get on without me, they probably wont notice it anyway, they don’t seem to realise I’m really hurting too, I’m just 25 and finding myself with no parents and being on my own doesn’t help, thank god for my friends and boyfriend, id really be lost without them

I'm very sorry for the loss of your parents.

With both your parents gone, it's much harder to see where your foundation is. Maybe you're looking to your siblings for that support and you're finding them lacking? They wouldn't realise that you view them as a replacement foundation, they're trying to come to terms with what happened this year much the way you are.
It takes a while for everyone to find their new position after the death of a family member, give yourself and your brothers and sisters a break. Get in contact with them and see if they'd all like to meet up for Christmas for a few drinks to commemorate your parents. It's been a tough year for all of you.

Good luck

LegacyUser

I am so so sorry to here.

Life never waits for anyone, I lost my parent when I was just 16 I was the only child anmd I have no other family around. I know it is hard trust me but you have to be strong, you have to focus on now. We are all born alone in this world and at the end of the day you have to look out for yourself.

Now that am 21, I have a job, renting a house and am in college. You can do this, raise your head up high and be focused on your goal. We are being watch over by some being so don't be too down.

Tell yourself you can do it and I believe in you that you can. There is help out there and I know you will make it.

I am here.