Xmas Blues

LegacyUser

Hey all
just can't seem to settle myself.. am dreading the christmas.. simply because all my friends now in couples and dread feeling like a spare wheel when we are out socially..
im already fretting about where to go.. who'll be there..
I know this silly but really getting to me..
I know everything changes but just will be So different to last xmas and i seem to be the only one left behind..
don't want to dampen everyones happy mood either so want to sort myself before they realise im being selfish!!

dublingal80

why dont you get your friends to ask their partners to get their friends to come out too. It means there will be a load of people there, not just couples, and no one will know who is with who. And it means the couples wont be stuck to eachother all night if their partners friends are there.

Dont worry though. We all go through a time where our friends are all coupled up. It does suck!! but do get your friends to ask their oh's to bring out their friends too. the more the merrier

How Strange

OP, I don't think you're selfish at all. We've all been the single one amongst all the couple friends at some point. For me, it was almost 10 years of being the single girl. I can understand why you dread Christmas because it's the time of year when you think you should have a bf to share it with.
For such a happy time of the year Christmas can feel extremely lonely for a lot of people.

I don't have much advice really, just put a brave face on and go out and enjoy yourself. I think it's important to tell yourself that having a bf wouldn't necessarily make you any happier. Happiness comes from you. How about treating yourself to something nice this christmas. Buy yourself something indulgent or have a pampering day. It won't solve your problem but it may perk you up a bit and put a smile on your face.

LegacyUser

xmasblues wrote: »

Hey all
just can't seem to settle myself.. am dreading the christmas.. simply because all my friends now in couples and dread feeling like a spare wheel when we are out socially..
im already fretting about where to go.. who'll be there..
I know this silly but really getting to me..
I know everything changes but just will be So different to last xmas and i seem to be the only one left behind..
don't want to dampen everyones happy mood either so want to sort myself before they realise im being selfish!!

Know how you feel!

G-Money

I've been in a similar boat. One of the times I lived abroad a friend was having a dinner party and they were bringing some of our other friends along. We all worked together and hung out together so that was grand. Then two of them asked if they could bring their partners, to which the person organising said yes. They were bringing their partner also. So there I was, facing a night with 3 couples and me the only single person there.

I didn't really need reminding that I was single so I decided to make up an excuse and didn't go. I kind of felt bad not going but at the same time, I think I'd have felt worse being there with 3 couples and being the only single person. No matter how nice they all were (and they really are some of the best people I know).

LegacyUser

if i were you i'd **** off to some place like scandanavia or the the likes and hang around there for the week. sure flights will be cheap on christmas day when few people want to spend the day traveling. sure christmas itself won't be great but in the days after you will find plenty of single folk around the place