How to get just casual sex...?

Mr.Converter

Hi, I am 25 good looking guy and pretty much am after the perfect life. (Job, woman, friends, money, etc.)
I've told myself that I'm not settling for anything less than an absolute stunner 10/10, sound, good humoured, affectionate woman.
Ive had countless 1 nighters and was always happy enjoying the company of women until I'd eventually settle down with THE ONE.

However, lately (the last year or so) all the women I end up scoring (casually i think) want more of a relationship, even tho they don't let on at the start.
A few years ago i wouldn't have thought twice about telling them its not what i want, sorry. But as I get older I'm losing this asshole attitude of not caring and finding it harder and harder to fob them off.

1. Am i getting too soft?
2. Is there any way to get what I want while not pissing off women?

Look forward to your advice guys! :-)

Silverfish

Well, to be perfectly honest, it's not your problem if people are getting upset, really, if you are declaring your intentions from the start.

If you are after casual one night stands, there's never really a good time to bring up the fact that that's all its going to be. But without directly making them sign a waiver to all possibility of a relationship, do make it clear that 'You don't do relationships' or 'You're really not interested in a relationship, at all'. Keep dropping that in there.

Don't swap numbers. Don't lead them on. Make it clear, in any possible conversation, this is a once off. It's not going anywhere. But it sounds to me that you're not really doing that, that you are seeing people more than a few times, then dropping the bombshell of not wanting a relationship. That's not a good idea, as people will get ideas in their head, and be disappointed when it doesn't work out the way they planned it.

Wagon

just go for one of those internet sites for casual sex. that way youll have people who only want the same thing. easy.

scanlas

Mr.Converter wrote: »

Hi, I am 25 good looking guy and pretty much am after the perfect life. (Job, woman, friends, money, etc.)
I've told myself that I'm not settling for anything less than an absolute stunner 10/10, sound, good humoured, affectionate woman.
Ive had countless 1 nighters and was always happy enjoying the company of women until I'd eventually settle down with THE ONE.

However, lately (the last year or so) all the women I end up scoring (casually i think) want more of a relationship, even tho they don't let on at the start.
A few years ago i wouldn't have thought twice about telling them its not what i want, sorry. But as I get older I'm losing this asshole attitude of not caring and finding it harder and harder to fob them off.

1. Am i getting too soft?
2. Is there any way to get what I want while not pissing off women?

Look forward to your advice guys! :-)

This can be done and it's not as hard as you think. When first chatting with her mention that you are not a one woman man. Tell her that you love seeing women that you like again and doing stuff together but you will see other women and insist on her seeing other men.

JuliusCaesar

Mr.Converter wrote: »

Hi, I am 25 good looking guy .......

But as I get older I'm losing this asshole attitude of not caring and finding it harder and harder to fob them off.

I think this is called maturing.

Graham_B18C

scanlas wrote: »

This can be done and it's not as hard as you think. When first chatting with her mention that you are not a one woman man. Tell her that you love seeing women that you like again and doing stuff together but you will see other women and insist on her seeing other men.

But the chap is looking for casual sex, they won't give him what he's looking for if they know he has NO intention of taking it any further.

There are obviously like minded gals out there but I don't know where you'll find em!

Dragan

Mr.Converter wrote: »

Hi, I am 25 good looking guy and pretty much am after the perfect life. (Job, woman, friends, money, etc.)
I've told myself that I'm not settling for anything less than an absolute stunner 10/10, sound, good humoured, affectionate woman.
Ive had countless 1 nighters and was always happy enjoying the company of women until I'd eventually settle down with THE ONE.

However, lately (the last year or so) all the women I end up scoring (casually i think) want more of a relationship, even tho they don't let on at the start.
A few years ago i wouldn't have thought twice about telling them its not what i want, sorry. But as I get older I'm losing this asshole attitude of not caring and finding it harder and harder to fob them off.

1. Am i getting too soft?
2. Is there any way to get what I want while not pissing off women?

Look forward to your advice guys! :-)

Why would a chick tell you she wants a relationship right at the start? Maybe she just wants a lay?

It's all really on you man, just be open and honest, say you ain't in the relationship frame of mind whenever any questions like that pop up.

If your leading chicks on for pussy, it's largely a problem of your own devising though.

needhelpguy

Escorts? No strings attached sex. Sure you have to pay, but it's sex whenever you want it without all the mind games and work. You can choose who you want too

*May or may not provide sex

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needhelpguy wrote: »

Escorts? No strings attached sex. Sure you have to pay, but it's sex whenever you want it without all the mind games and work. You can choose who you want too

*May or may not provide sex

An apt username, considering that comment.

OP, I'm not sure what your complaint is. The women may not be letting on at the start [that they want a relationship] because, quite simply, at that stage they do not. After shagging a few times they are obviously happy enough with you in the sack and want to take your "fcuk buddy" relationship to a new level. Just move on and get another.

scanlas

Grahamo999 wrote: »

But the chap is looking for casual sex, they won't give him what he's looking for if they know he has NO intention of taking it any further.

If he can make her feel the emotions she needs to feel and turn her on well enough it usually doesn't matter that you have no intention of an exclusive relationship. Women need sex too.

Grahamo999 wrote: »

There are obviously like minded gals out there but I don't know where you'll find em!

Everywhere.

Mr.Converter

Thanks Silverfish, think I'll go with your advice and keep dropping it in as much as possible.

Needhelpguy - I'd prefer not to go with brazzers. It's not a moral thing, this guy just won't pay when its out there for free. :-) Cheers.