Cliché's and my grandmothers wise sayings lol

NightOwl91

Ok guys, call me stupid but.....
Is it true people judge you by the way your friends act?
I got this friend who Ive known for 8 years. Shes really great and funny.
But, everytime she is outside class and infront of people, she gets really hyper, loud and deliberately goes on about something I may have done that is embarassing in the past and goes on and on mocking and stuff lol..
But the thing is, its when ANYONE is within an earshot and she changes the subject and gets soooo loud.
We are in 6th year...I mean, I'm all for a laugh and a bit of slagging, but, everytime we are in the corridor? public? even on the train lol
I mean, Im not bitching about my friend but its really mortifying. And the thing is, she knows it.

It bothers me because our class mates have distanced themselves from engaging in conversation with her.
Including me when Im with her.
I often tell her subtly be quiet and she ups her volume purposely.
She gets dirty looks from people in our year, even people when we are out and about, when shes being loud, clearly wanting to be heard and I get weird looks too. I mean, I dont know what it is. Im like..is it because they think Im as loud? Im not really sure. Shes always been like this. I guess Ive gotten kinda used to it because maybe she wants to be noticed?. Even when we are out on a night out, she tells stories ABOUT ME??!! Im like...jezz get your own stories..Am I overreacting?
This is probably stupid but is it normal to be talking about my mishaps etc so loudly everytime someone is near.. ?
Is it attention shes after because seriously, ceiling loud. But shes getting the wrong attention as people avoid her. Maybe shes chatty but I have chatty friends and this is a bit..much.

My nan says "Show me your friends and I know what you are?"
True or false?
Its getting cringe worthy.
:eek: lol

Maybe Im being silly But I doubt this is the norm...or is it?
I know the difference between slagging and....just being...meh:P

NightOwl91

Am I overreacting?? 43 views? come on peeps!

minidazzler

It's a bullsh1t statement TBH.

I have friends like her, who tell my stories because they don't ave too many of their own. So they go to reliable old Mini who always has a stupidly funny story. TBH it doesn't bother me, as long as the story is mostly true. They do tend to embellish my tales of (mis)adventure.

TBH, if it doesn't bother you then Fcuk what other people think.

Next year you will be doing something different, probably in college? She most likely won't be in the same college so just go with it.

Does what she say actually bother you?

Skinfull

Sounds like your friends doesnt care what other people think but you do. Embarassing stories are there to be told and laughed at. Quit cringing and start smiling.

Nevyn

If hse is constantly showing you up and embrassing you and will not stop after she has been asked and will ont take your wishes/feelings into consideration then she is not much of a friend to you at all.

cafecolour

"I'm tired of you telling stories about me and embarrassing me in public. It's rude and they aren't your stories to tell. Stop telling them or we are no longer friends."

It's one thing to have a friend who acts embarrassing, but only gets people embarrassed at them. It's another to have a friend who tries to humiliate and slag you in public - that's a bully. Tell her to cop out or just drop her.

LegacyUser

Honestly? you'll probably have to lose her. She's not taking your feelings into consideration and she's going to find soon that she's got very few friends left unless she' changes.
She obviously doesn't care all that much since other people are already pulling away and it doesn't bother her all that much.
Sorry. It's probably not what you want to hear.

babyinacorner90

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Honestly? you'll probably have to lose her. She's not taking your feelings into consideration and she's going to find soon that she's got very few friends left unless she' changes.
She obviously doesn't care all that much since other people are already pulling away and it doesn't bother her all that much.
Sorry. It's probably not what you want to hear.

completely agree...sounds like shes dragging you down so no one else will want to be friends with you, thus, making you her..b*tch lol (sry i couldnt think of anythin else)
But I mean, sounds to me she wants to isolate you away from your peers......why would she though? And how is she doing this?
What info is she holding over you?
True we all have embarssing stories, but at what point does the embarssing turn into tarnishing ?
Sounds like she has no one else but you. And what better way to keep you..
Maybe she recognises you want other friends other then her and she knows, if you make them, they wont want her in the package.
People who use other people as a story have serious eestem issues..Why should you make your shine less sparkley to make her feel superior??

Q: Stand your ground? Or be a doormat?

6th yr? Good thing college is around the corner then..a subtle way of giving her the heave-ho right?:D

Sophsxxx

Maybe your friend is just one of those girls that doesn't know when to draw the line. Tbh though, she could just see it as harmless messing. My friends constantly tell stories about me and stupid things I've done...I just laugh it off!
Some people crave the attention...good and bad...I have a friend who's attitude is 'I don't care what they say about me, as long as they're talking about me'.
Personally, I don't get it but it's her lookout. If I were you, just say 'Make an ass of yourself all you want but don't be including me in it.' Brutal honesty is all that works in situations like these.

Good luck!:D

tbh

yes, it's true. What's also true is that the people in your school probably think that your mate is too much hassle to be mates with, so they just exclude her. If you're hanging around with her, they'll exclude you too. That'll happen in life. Sometimes, the group are right. Sometimes, they are wrong. You have to decide what the case is here. It seems your mate is causing you a lot of grief, and you're getting little in return. If tomorrow was day 1, and you didn't know anyone, would you be mates with this girl again, or are you just friends with her because you can't get away?

Stovepipe

Agree.confront her and tell her to stop.If she doesn't take you seriously, cut here off.Ditch her phone number, her email, don't answer the phone to her, etc.She'll soon get the message.
regards
Stovepipe