Where to go out for bi girl?

confusedgirl

I'm bisexual but want to explore it now. I was in the George and found a lot of the girls butch looking. I only like feminine girls. Where is good to meet femme girls?!! I'm in Dublin btw.

who do I go out on night out with then? (if I do want to meet a girl!) I normally hang out with straight girls and odd guy or two. Is online dating any good for les/bi girls? Can anyone recommend any good les/bi nights out etc?

I want to get more experience before I start telling everyone. I do want to tell my best friend but worried she and other friends may have bad reaction. I tell her everything except this so I think I should tell her eventually but really dont want to lose her as a friend. I don't want a relationship with a girl, more like a casual hook-up thing because I dont know what to expect! I'm kind of terrified but really excited at same time lol!:D

LegacyUser

why go to gay bars specifically? Its easy enough to meet women up for a bit of fun in a regular bar. Or at least, it is for me

azezil

gaydargirls.com I suppose?

Dwn Wth Vwls

There are also two nights as far as I know, Cake and Kiss. There's details of the upcoming nights here http://www.theladylist.ie/

shoegirl

I wouldn't immediately dismiss the George. The Irish scene is very strongly dominated by masculine-identified lesbians, but there is a HUGE number of femme girls around, they just are not so obvious and are often mistaken for fag hags. Kiss, Cake would be good, you will still get the butcher women but a big cohort of femme women.

Gaydargirls has declined a lot lately - the structure of the site isn't really conducive to easy communication. A lot of people complain that people don't answer their messages on it in particular.

The Front Lounge is a good place to go on the nights Kiss/Cake are on. Your straight friends, by the way, would be welcome in all of these venues, they might enjoy it too and it might be an easier way for you to make your way. I've been bringing straight friends and gay men to all of these places for years, and its almost always been fine.

batbaby

Come to galway...
(hee hee!)

Boston

Theres nothing in Galway bar afew very overpriced gay nights, didn't the only gay bar close for good a year ago?

boys

confusedgirl wrote: »

I'm bisexual but want to explore it now. I was in the George and found a lot of the girls butch looking. I only like feminine girls. Where is good to meet femme girls?!! I'm in Dublin btw.

who do I go out on night out with then? (if I do want to meet a girl!) I normally hang out with straight girls and odd guy or two. Is online dating any good for les/bi girls? Can anyone recommend any good les/bi nights out etc?

I want to get more experience before I start telling everyone. I do want to tell my best friend but worried she and other friends may have bad reaction. I tell her everything except this so I think I should tell her eventually but really dont want to lose her as a friend. I don't want a relationship with a girl, more like a casual hook-up thing because I dont know what to expect! I'm kind of terrified but really excited at same time lol!:D[/quote

Hi im bi myself and i think its best to just be up front just walk up to a girl in a bar and lean in.......... 66% of irelands population are by sure i'm sure you'll get one and girls are more likely to come back and are much more loyal......sure if you wanna e-mail me your phone number i'll be able to set you up with some fine birds.....

Tricity Bendix

Pimpin ain't easy.

rannerap

kiss/cake would be a good place to start,and as previously said dont immediately dismiss the george! prhomo in base bar on thursdays would be another good suggestion its mostly dominated by femme girls

Stargazer7

I'm in the same boat as the OP. I am quite shy but joing the LGBT soc at college to try to meet new people. First night out in the george ended up going out with 15 gay guys which, fun and all as it was, wasn't exactly what I had hoped for! For the few times I've been to the George I've found a lot of women go with their female friends/girlfriends and I find it very hard to mingle with them. I find it's very obvious I'm a newbie on the scene.

Living in Dublin so does anyone know of a place where bi/lesbian girls meet up to socialise, even if it's just for lunch? I know there's one in Cork as a friend of a friend is involved in the running of it.

Louisevb

Post me a pm.... I'm out in Dublin quite a bit and know quite a few people. We could maybe get a group together for Cake or something? I know all the girls who run it well...

rere

Stargazer7 wrote: »

Living in Dublin so does anyone know of a place where bi/lesbian girls meet up to socialise, even if it's just for lunch? I know there's one in Cork as a friend of a friend is involved in the running of it.

It's nice to know I'm not the only one with this problem. I've tried a dating site to meet other people but without much look.
I met a really nice girl a while ago and told my best friend who freaked out at me, we stopped talking as much as she started acting strange around me. We had a massive bust up and haven't talked since.
Now I'm scared to say anything to anyone else.

Stargazer7

rere wrote: »

It's nice to know I'm not the only one with this problem. I've tried a dating site to meet other people but without much look.
I met a really nice girl a while ago and told my best friend who freaked out at me, we stopped talking as much as she started acting strange around me. We had a massive bust up and haven't talked since.
Now I'm scared to say anything to anyone else.

I can identify with the scared thing. Haven't been out with anyone in AGES and to add to that I'm trying to explore my bi side and I'm finding it really hard just to meet people for a chat and to take things slowly.

Stargazer7

Louisevb wrote: »

Post me a pm.... I'm out in Dublin quite a bit and know quite a few people. We could maybe get a group together for Cake or something? I know all the girls who run it well...

Thanks, I might pm you when I get back to Dublin after xmas if some people would be up for meeting up and having a chat

rere

Stargazer7 wrote: »

I can identify with the scared thing. Haven't been out with anyone in AGES and to add to that I'm trying to explore my bi side and I'm finding it really hard just to meet people for a chat and to take things slowly.

Yeah the friendly chat thing can be a bit of an issue, hard to make friends in a noisy club (well for me anyway).

xxlilyxx

Stargazer7 wrote: »

Thanks, I might pm you when I get back to Dublin after xmas if some people would be up for meeting up and having a chat

yeah id be up for that, im gay and find it very hard to meet girls, i've no gay friends so im never out on the scene and when i am out im jus mistaken for a straight girl ha. So id defo be into meetin up wit a few girls for lunch or a night out

rannerap

i think a big meet up sounds like a great idea:D

rainbow kirby

Sarannewrap wrote: »

i think a big meet up sounds like a great idea:D

Agreed, I'd be up for that

rannerap

rainbow kirby wrote: »

Agreed, I'd be up for that

yeah me too,after new years we should all arrange to go somewhere:)

xxlilyxx

Sarannewrap wrote: »

yeah me too,after new years we should all arrange to go somewhere:)

Yeah i so agree, im definately up for that

LegacyUser

Hi im trying to meet new people to go out dancing with very difficult i dont drink much. But i love to dance and love music.

ninalucy1985

rere wrote: »

It's nice to know I'm not the only one with this problem. I've tried a dating site to meet other people but without much look.
I met a really nice girl a while ago and told my best friend who freaked out at me, we stopped talking as much as she started acting strange around me. We had a massive bust up and haven't talked since.
Now I'm scared to say anything to anyone else.

I think your friends problem is that she prob felt betrayed more than anything. Im sure she will come around if not **** her(not literally)
:rolleyes:

ninalucy1985

confusedgirl wrote: »

I'm bisexual but want to explore it now. I was in the George and found a lot of the girls butch looking. I only like feminine girls. Where is good to meet femme girls?!! I'm in Dublin btw.

who do I go out on night out with then? (if I do want to meet a girl!) I normally hang out with straight girls and odd guy or two. Is online dating any good for les/bi girls? Can anyone recommend any good les/bi nights out etc?

I want to get more experience before I start telling everyone. I do want to tell my best friend but worried she and other friends may have bad reaction. I tell her everything except this so I think I should tell her eventually but really dont want to lose her as a friend. I don't want a relationship with a girl, more like a casual hook-up thing because I dont know what to expect! I'm kind of terrified but really excited at same time lol!:D

I would not reccommend dating sites, you have to be so careful so many sleezy guys on there !!! You wouldnt know who you are mailing..anybody can upload a fake pik... be careful .. i know tis scary at first but ul be flying it

hitlersson666

Sarannewrap wrote: »

yeah me too,after new years we should all arrange to go somewhere:)

can i come??? :pac:

Stargazer7

So ladies..any ideas...where and when to meet up?

LegacyUser

Hey, I'm 23 year old girl from Wexford and im super crap
at finding other bi girls.
I keep hitting on straight girls but they are all so damn flirty!
Does anyone know about any bi/lesbian scene in the south east?
I've never been to a Lbgt club or any groups cos I'm way too shy
to do it and I dont have the confidance to just walk over to a pretty lady
and say ' hi any chance of a snog!'

LegacyUser

I would definately come to a meet up! If anyone ever decides on one, please post details!

Laura_lolly87

I'm the exact same as the OP, hardly any of my friends know i'm bi. if there was a meet in the suth east i'd def go to it just to shy to go on my own and Dub is a bit far to go for a nite out with no money for a hotel.

rannerap

hitlersson666 wrote: »

can i come??? :pac:

of course, everyone is welcome!

Weidii

This is a good idea, seems as though there is a meet going on in a different thread, but it's looking woefully male-dominated. Perhaps we should merge threads?

It would be great if there was some way to organise a group to go out every so often so that people who don't have a gay social circle had a chance to dip the toe in.

AvaKinder

Hey guys. I'm pretty much in the same boat ya'll are in. I've joined the Running Amach group on meetup.com which is for LGBT women and everyone there seems really nice.

I haven't been to a meet up yet but theres been a few on and they usually have a good mix of things to do. I also organised a book swapping club with drinks after thats on in Pantibar next friday. I highly reccommend joining the group theres nearly 300 in it already:)

Confusedgal

Hi girls, I'd be up for this as well. Not looking for a relationship with a girl either. Just a bit of fun/experimentation maybe.... any likeminded girls? (19 ish....) I also consider myself to be a feminine girl!

Confusedgal

confusedgirl wrote: »

I'm bisexual but want to explore it now. I was in the George and found a lot of the girls butch looking. I only like feminine girls. Where is good to meet femme girls?!! I'm in Dublin btw.

who do I go out on night out with then? (if I do want to meet a girl!) I normally hang out with straight girls and odd guy or two. Is online dating any good for les/bi girls? Can anyone recommend any good les/bi nights out etc?

I want to get more experience before I start telling everyone. I do want to tell my best friend but worried she and other friends may have bad reaction. I tell her everything except this so I think I should tell her eventually but really dont want to lose her as a friend. I don't want a relationship with a girl, more like a casual hook-up thing because I dont know what to expect! I'm kind of terrified but really excited at same time lol!:D

Pretty much in the same mindset! Only seem to find myself surrounded by tomboys and I'm just not into that unfortunately!
Not sure what to expect either but bored of just being curious!

rannerap

we should really try organise something soon ish this threads been going on for ages!

jess4887

Ok I am going to give this bi-curious thing a go! Only problem is I dont want to look like a sleeze coming on to a girl that might have no interest. I also have a boyfriend, who doesnt mind if I do anything with a girl but I suppose it makes things even more complicated! Ugh this is all so complicated, I tried gaydar girls, it was crap btw!

JayJay123

If yee are having a meet up is there room for one more!?
I would describe myself as feminine aswell and im not really into the tomboy look either as a previous post said!
Im from a sort of rural area in the south east so i find it hard,near impossible to find likeminded girls.
Dublin is a bit too far of a trek for me(thats saying i could find someone to come with me..) My friends dont know im bi.
Id love to meet up with likeminded girls if ye are having a meet up

Zwillinge

Think it's about time I threw myself into the whirl of things :o

claddagh1981

did this happen yet?? lol id love to go out with a group of like minded girlies

rannerap

still hasnt happened yet!anyone else in?

t4k30

Wax night club in Dublin !

rainbow kirby

Yup, I'd be in for it, but after my exams.

rannerap

rainbow kirby wrote: »

Yup, I'd be in for it, but after my exams.

yeah same!

rainbow kirby

Dates then... I'm finished exams on the 13th.

Friday 14th?
Saturday 15th?

Friday 21st?
Saturday 22nd? (Heineken Cup final and Champions League final is on though)

Friday 28th?
Saturday 29th? (Eurovision is on this day, and I already have plans involving the G and large quantities of booze)

Also, where? Might be best to meet up somewhere relatively neutral, but queer-friendly because people who aren't out to many people may be a little nervous about heading to a gay bar right away.

rannerap

not to sure when im done but we can just put up a poll to see what dates are most popular with people? and maybe if people started making some suggestions about where to go ?

rainbow kirby

Poll and thread here.

rannerap

rainbow kirby wrote: »

Poll and thread here.

nice one

JayJay123

I voted 22nd, but any of them are good really,

Paula10

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Paula10

Sarannewrap wrote: »

not to sure when im done but we can just put up a poll to see what dates are most popular with people? and maybe if people started making some suggestions about where to go ?

yeh i wanna meet a girly girl round my age,21,but dont like meeting up in groups and that kinda thing,just like txtin people n geting to know them 1st

Annasopra

Paula10 wrote: »

yeh i wanna meet a girly girl round my age,21,but dont like meeting up in groups and that kinda thing,just like txtin people n geting to know them 1st

well then look for a site with personals