Tricky Situation

LegacyUser

Hi i am just looking for some advice on the following situation. Basically i have heard a story that involves one of my best friends girlfriend sleeping around with some other lad one night. I have no proof only the name of the guy she was with.

all i am going on is what has been said to me and the person that told me wants nothing to do with the situation, said they will deny it if it gets back to them. just really wondering what to do, do i tell him straight out what iv heard but cant say from who, it will kill him to find this out, but its killing me that i know something that he should, i dont know what to do????

Loopsie

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Hi i am just looking for some advice on the following situation. Basically i have heard a story that involves one of my best friends girlfriend sleeping around with some other lad one night. I have no proof only the name of the guy she was with.

all i am going on is what has been said to me and the person that told me wants nothing to do with the situation, said they will deny it if it gets back to them. just really wondering what to do, do i tell him straight out what iv heard but cant say from who, it will kill him to find this out, but its killing me that i know something that he should, i dont know what to do????

its a little suspect that the person who TOLD you this wants to stay out of it, they should have just kept their mouth shut.
Are you friends with the girlfriend? or do you know the guy in question??
Before you say anything i would have solid facts from people willing to back up their 'stories'
This is a catch 22 because if you say nothing and its true and it comes out and your friend ever finds out u knew you will be the worst in the world but if in fact its all bullsh*t then again you will look like a sh*t stirrer
My advice is find is their fact in this story and go from there. Good luck hun x

LegacyUser

thanks loopsie, it is a catch 22 havent a clue what to do, iv no more information and i dont see any means of getting more information, i am friends with his girfriend too, the guy she was with i know of but have never spoken to him, the person that told me is a **** stirrer but for some reason i believe it as the person who told me barely knows the 2 involved and really has no reason to lie, ugh, if i bring it out and its not true im ****ed, and vice versa if i say nothing it will be playing on my mind forever when im with the boyfriend and girlfriend, especially when my gut feeling says its true, its a long term relationship and this is supposed to have happenend recently.

CDfm

OP -all you have is hearsay from someone who will deny it.

I would file it away and say nothing at all as you have no proof.

Watch a few episodes of judge judy and see how she deals with evidence. You dont have anyway and if the person with the information wont do anything there is nothing you can do. It could also be malicious in which case you will invite a lot of problems on yourself.

kenbrady

If it's true he needs to know if it's not true he needs to know someone is going around badmouthing his girlfriend.
I'd pass on what you heard, give him all the info and let him decide. Don't give your opinion just the facts.

LegacyUser

ya i am kinda agreeing with ken, either way let my friend know what i have been told and then he can get the facts, as u say if its untrue well someone is spreading lies about his girlfriend. If it was me and my friend knew something or had been told something about my girlfirend i would want to know so i could get to the bottom of it.

The evidence thing is true CDFM my case def wouldnt stand up in the court of law but i cant just pretend i never heard anything that will do my own head in thinking about it