Cheating on Vacation

Long Onion

I feel cheated - saw the thread title and OP's user name, concocted a rant in my head about ugg boot wearing southsiders and their penchants for americanisms - then I read the first few posts:(

Here's a novel idea - don't get married/go into a long term relationship if you don't love the other person enough to keep the pants on. No-one makes you commit.

dan719

southsiderosie wrote: »

I live in Spain and I have noticed an interesting phenomenon - married Irish men looking for "flings" while abroad while traveling for a stag party or a lad's weekend. I've been hit on by married men in both Madrid and Barcelona; this has even happened to one of my married girlfriends. I've also chatted with married Irish men on vacation who have freely admitted to soliciting prostitutes when they come here.

I certainly am not trying to make sweeping generalizations from a few isolated incidents. But it does raise an interesting question - how common do you think this is? Have you cheated on your partner/spouse while on holiday outside of the country? Is there something about Spain in particular that makes it the equivalent of a "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" kind of place?

I think that it is a bit rich of you to criticise cheating men, when your girlfriend is married. At least let him join in 'Rosie' (if that is your real name, which I doubt!).

Bonito

Never mind being on holidays, if they're going to cheat they'll do it, home or away, only difference about holidays flings is there's less of a chance of ever running into them again and getting caught

damone

me and the missus s were in spain this year and we went out cause i wanted to see a soccer match on the telly ,outside the bars we were drinkin in {there was five bars all together]there must have been 5 or 6 hundred people,we moved place three times ,twice because my gf couldnt listen to the shouted conversations that were goin on that to be honest i think the shouters wanted to be heard,but listening to a 55 year old bleached blonde overweight brummie woman roarin that she had a 20 year old goin down on her for most of that afternoon ,while there was 4 or 5 five year old kids runnin round was sickining,other time we moved was cause of family fighting which cudve developed into a riot.
two things i must stress 1, all nationalities were present and involved ,irish ,english,french,swedish,dutch, german and more 2,all social classes were involved!!!!!!!workin class and toffs!!!

KarmaGarda

This just reminded me of a similar debate to this appear on this forum a while back. I must go search for it. But, if I recall correctly, it was a research done on partners and cheating which showed that women and men cheat as much as each other. So where it's quite likely this will happen, it's not isolated to just men. Let me go look for it...

MikeC101

damone wrote: »

two things i must stress 1, all nationalities were present and involved ,irish ,english,french,swedish,dutch, german and more 2,all social classes were involved!!!!!!!workin class and toffs!!!

Succinct summary of the rich tapestry of modern socio economic groups. Wurkin' class and toffs!

Kinetic^

opinion guy wrote: »

so many versions of this

what goes on tour stays on tour
what happens in vegas stays in vegas
area code rules

never thought anyone actually took it seriosuly thou

Depends how they want to justify it to themselves.

southsiderosie

dan719 wrote: »

I think that it is a bit rich of you to criticise cheating men, when your girlfriend is married. At least let him join in 'Rosie' (if that is your real name, which I doubt!).

Why all the hostility? My point was, some of these men don't respect marriage to the extent that they would even make a move on a married woman. Just because a woman goes out in public without her husband doesn't mean that she is looking to cheat.

Also, if you read the original post, the question I put to the board was Have you cheated on your partner/spouse while on holiday outside of the country? Is there something about Spain in particular that makes it the equivalent of a "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" kind of place? I.E., the actual question is gender neutral, even though the anecdote is from the perspective of a woman being approached by men.

Finally I do not doubt that married women may go out seeking holiday flings as well - my brother certainly has some funny/terrifying stories about being propositioned by middle-aged married women while on a cruise in the Caribbean. That said, I can only speak to my experience as a woman. And, as I mentioned in an earlier post, I've lived in Ireland and never experienced this kind of thing so I didn't know if, for the Irish, Spain was the European version of Vegas/Miami/Cancun for Americans (i.e. a place to go and drink and act a fool for a few days).

southsiderosie

Long Onion wrote: »

I feel cheated - saw the thread title and OP's user name, concocted a rant in my head about ugg boot wearing southsiders and their penchants for americanisms - then I read the first few posts:(

Here's a novel idea - don't get married/go into a long term relationship if you don't love the other person enough to keep the pants on. No-one makes you commit.

Sorry to disappoint you...perhaps I should have thought a bit more carefully about my user name!

As for the second part of your post: AMEN.

This thread is a bit fishy

southsiderosie

rarnes1 wrote: »

This thread is a bit fishy

Don't worry, I haven't posted names and photos.

And as I am not 1) married or 2) Irish, I'm not trying to figure out why my spouse and/or his mates are up to. It's just sheer curiosity.

HollyEvans

since when did a holiday become a "vacation"?

southsiderosie

HollyEvans wrote: »

since when did a holiday become a "vacation"?

Since the OP is an American who screwed up and now can't change the name of the thread.

HollyEvans

southsiderosie wrote: »

Since the OP is an American who screwed up and now can't change the name of the thread.

She could just click on the title and then she could change it, or would that be too easy?

southsiderosie

HollyEvans wrote: »

She could just click on the title and then she could change it, or would that be too easy?

I tried that after the second reply to this thread and the edit function only lets you change the original text of the post, but not the title. This was the first thing I ever posted on the boards, and I'm still not sure how all of the functions work. If you know how, please share and I will change it.

HollyEvans

southsiderosie wrote: »

I tried that after the second reply to this thread and the edit function only lets you change the original text of the post, but not the title. This was the first thing I ever posted on the boards, and I'm still not sure how all of the functions work. If you know how, please share and I will change it.

Just go to the afterhours page, click on the space to the right of your thread title and it should let you change it.

But anyway, you say you are American. I did not take that into account, this country has an awful problem with people from the back ass of Sligo who start speaking like some clown from "the hills". I don't mind Americans using American terms.

southsiderosie

HollyEvans wrote: »

Just go to the afterhours page, click on the space to the right of your thread title and it should let you change it.

But anyway, you say you are American. I did not take that into account, this country has an awful problem with people from the back ass of Sligo who start speaking like some clown from "the hills". I don't mind Americans using American terms.

WHY IS 'THE HILLS' SO POPULAR IN IRELAND?!?!?!?!

Seriously, of all the tv shows...how embarrassing! Fake tan, fake boobs, fake hair, fake premise...Especially when there are some brilliant American shows (Mad Men, The Wire, etc.).

HollyEvans, you're not the first person on the boards to think I was a wanna-be Irish valley girl...is it really that much of a problem there? Maybe I just met disproportionately normal people when I was in Dublin, but my housemate from Sligo used to say "It's unbelievable, like!", rather than "It's, like, unbelievable!"

Bonito

I fukcn HATE the hills!!!

And just to keep on topic i hate cheats too

And open relationships, and group sex, and basically anything that goes on within or outside a relationship/marriage that really shouldnt be happening since one or both are in a relationship!!

If that makes sense?