little q

LegacyUser

ok with a guy.. hear from him the next day.. few texts..
then nothing for 3 weeks till yday. just general text again.. how's life etc.. any reason to do this apart from just "he not that bothered"??( i think i know the ans to this already)
is there any point replying..
sooo not in mood for messers right now!!
thanks in advance for thoughts:)

Overheal

I havent spoken to some of my irish friends in....years? gosh.

In contrast a few weeks is nothing.

Courtship as far as im concerned starts with friendship and to be honest if you like him just respond back. Its not a game, its real life.

LegacyUser

Listen to what your gutt tells you about this guy!! I had very simliar situation,where i met someone on a night out took my number sent a few txts the next day and then nothing.
Two weeks later i get a txt in the middle of the night saying how the night just wasn't the same witout me etc,i thought this too was out of the blue but i had a good feeling about him and it wasn't wrong txted him back and we are now madly in love !!! There are alot of guys out there who may mess you around but if you don't risk it you will never find the right guy for you.

Best of luck op

opinion guy

My thoughts are - he's not that bothered. And even if he is - you probably want someone who would make more effort (I would!)

Sorry!

can i be frank

are you definatly with him or just casually meeting?

LegacyUser

oh no just met once.. nothing def at all.. hence why im wondering.. why does he bother getting in contact now.. obv not pushed on it!?
no biggie just puzzled by it.. ta for reply:)

ash23

OK, few questions.....how did the first lot of texting finish up? Did you reply and then he didn't or was it an "ending" as in "have to go, talk to you soon".

What time did he text at? Pre or post match drinkies? lol

I guess no harm in texting him back but unless he arranges a date when you do then cut him loose. Otherwise you'll end up with one of those lovely-texting-when-bored guys who will fry your brain.

LegacyUser

Well it was earlier in week so don't think match drinking involved..
it just ended as in I replied but didn't get one back !!.. so just put it down to that's that..
yes i hear you .. definetly not getting into that.. bored i'll text them things again!!!

ash23

Ah yeah, forget it. Imo, if they only text on nights when they're drunk or not doing anything then they aren't all that interested.
Odds are they're sitting at home, kinda bored, looking for a self esteem boost and flicking through their phones looking for someone to talk to.

I could be totally wrong but in my experience, that's the usual :rolleyes:

dublingal80

little q wrote: »

ok with a guy.. hear from him the next day.. few texts..
then nothing for 3 weeks till yday. just general text again.. how's life etc.. any reason to do this apart from just "he not that bothered"??( i think i know the ans to this already)
is there any point replying..
sooo not in mood for messers right now!!
thanks in advance for thoughts:)

to me, if you were with a guy and he texts you the next day and then nothing for 3 weeks, whatever you did the first time you met, he is looking for that again or else he is bored.

I wouldnt read into it. It is what it is.

Hopefully you need a nice boy that will text you all the time and play no head games

themusicman

Agree with the two ladies above

Anyone with that sort of How is it going text is not interested in you, just interested in anyone right now. And that goes for both men and women.

Ignore, move on, and you will know if there is interest the next time because they will not wait until they are bored. and the text wont be general either, it will be very specific to you.

SarahSassy

He would not leave it 3 weeks to contact you if he was interested, in case you were snapped up by another man.... Move on. he is bored and lazy... NEXT!