Does he just want sex?

LegacyUser

So lately I've been scoring a guy in my class....we get together on nights out and are practically with each other the whole night. His friends all say he likes me. I've just recently gotten out of a long term relationship so I had mentioned to people before a while ago that I was really enjoying the single life. Anyways we've made out over 3 or 4 times now, but this is all when we're drunk, and he's always saying how much he likes me( when drunk). But when I'm talking to him in college, we seem to act like nothing has happened. Do you think he just sees me as an object?? Or is he put off by the fact that I'm just out of a long term relationship and still close enough to my ex? I'm not looking for anything serious but I find it strange that he hasn't asked me out to the cinema or something along those lines at least.....

Nevyn

Ask him out on a date, a proper date and see if he accepts.

kjl

don't ask him out, that's always a little weird. but make it clear to him that that, if he wants it the he has to work for it

martdalto

Why is it weird to ask him out?

OP, if you sense that he likes you, and YOU would like to go to the cinema, then ask him. Maybe he hasn't asked you because there's nothing on at the moment that he'd like to see!! Only kidding!

Seriously though, why are you sitting around wondering and waiting to be asked?

Gyalist

confused123 wrote: »

So lately I've been scoring a guy in my class....we get together on nights out and are practically with each other the whole night. His friends all say he likes me. I've just recently gotten out of a long term relationship so I had mentioned to people before a while ago that I was really enjoying the single life. Anyways we've made out over 3 or 4 times now, but this is all when we're drunk, and he's always saying how much he likes me( when drunk). But when I'm talking to him in college, we seem to act like nothing has happened. Do you think he just sees me as an object?? Or is he put off by the fact that I'm just out of a long term relationship and still close enough to my ex? I'm not looking for anything serious but I find it strange that he hasn't asked me out to the cinema or something along those lines at least.....

If you're really not looking for something serious, why are you bothered that he hasn't asked you out and that he seems to want to keep the relationship casual?

G-Money

Gyalist wrote: »

If you're really not looking for something serious, why are you bothered that he hasn't asked you out and that he seems to want to keep the relationship casual?

I agree.

I could never understand why people who are either just out of a relationship or "not looking anything serious" seem to be obsessed with getting into another relationship of some description with someone else.

LegacyUser

Ok I'm going to a bit clearer: I just feel extremely weird thats its always drunk hooking up....like if i go any further some time I think I'd just end up feeling used? Maybe I'm not made for casual relationships after all.....plus I never want to be known as easy or anything!

minidazzler

confused123 wrote: »

Ok I'm going to a bit clearer: I just feel extremely weird thats its always drunk hooking up....like if i go any further some time I think I'd just end up feeling used? Maybe I'm not made for casual relationships after all.....plus I never want to be known as easy or anything!

That's why Thaed suggested you ask him on a date. Then you will know if you feel used!!!! It's not a drunken hookup, it's a planned thing.

Then you should know if you actually like him!

SarahSassy

Stop hooking up with him when drunk and see what happens then.... Put the cart back behind the horse...

magneticimpulse

Yeah it is what it is. Drunken sex!! Multiple one night stands. You dont want anything serious so he is aware of this and enjoying the drunken sex.Who's using who? Your using him for sex and hes using you for sex! Its simple, nothing more to it. Dont bother going for a date with him, its too late now to go backwards. If yis were really any sort of couple material you would have gone for a date by now. Its gone beyond that stage. Enjoy the drunken sex with him or move on to find a proper relationship with someone else. You have to decide what you want.

martdalto

Actually I'm a bit confused.. have you actually had sex, or have you just "made out"?

Or has "making out" moved onto something more since my days of "making out"!!?

I got the impression that you haven't had sex.. yet. What makes you think he wants it?!