What is with her???

PaulPaysUpBig

Ok so i have been texting this girl non stop for months, recently things got a little bit weird... anyhow she stopped texting me on a wednesday last saying 'i hope we can stil be friends (",)', so we text for a little bit on the friday but she cut it short, during this i was a little annoyed and i decided to tell her i was going out for a few drinks with one of my (girl) friends. the next day i seen her but i had a major hangover on me and it was a brief meeting nothing said really at all. the following day i text her to say sorry for being soo hungover, she said it was ok and then after a few texts just stopped abruptly... this is very unusual as she would usually say somekind of goodbye...:(

I dunno wat to do... She had clearly stated lets just be good friends yet it seems like a little jealousy or somethin to me, i cant read this situation at all maybe she doesnt want to talk anymore...

Any advice or opinions much appreciated as im sooo lost...:(

:(im very sad we dont text as much anymore:(

LegacyUser

Call her. Remember why phones were invented? For actual conversations between two or more people. Texting is not the way to communicate. If I meet a guy now and he starts this texting malarky, I move right alond. Adults don't text, unless its to confirm plans or they are unable to talk. Pick up thte phone and dial her number and stop the texting nonsense.

Kimia

She has no interest! She has made it very clear, so move on man! What are you doing apologising to her for a hangover?

I'm sorry to be harsh but you sound waaaay too clingy and needy which is a real turn off. You've been texting her for months and nothing's happened???
Stop texting her and being so easy and MOVE ON!

kittenkiller

Kimia wrote: »

She has no interest! She has made it very clear, so move on man! What are you doing apologising to her for a hangover?

I'm sorry to be harsh but you sound waaaay too clingy and needy which is a real turn off. You've been texting her for months and nothing's happened???
Stop texting her and being so easy and MOVE ON!

+1

She didn't say good bye because she couldn't be bothered even treating you in a civil manner, because you don't even register on her radar.

Move on and forget about her.
Probably best to delete her number if you can't get her out of your head for the next while to ward off drunken texts!

XarcherX

sorry to say but i agree with above.. If she was interested in the same way then you would know it by now...the "i hope we can still be friends" says it all.
delete her number and move on, i know it's hard but waiting around hoping that she'll come round will make it worse for you and she won't appreciate it either..

LegacyUser

You say you have been texting her for months, have you ever asked her out or is it just a text relationship?
Maybe I am way off the mark but.... maybe she has been waiting for you to ask her out on a date, and all she gets are endless texts, she got sick of waiting for you to ask and decided to move on?

mood

Texting is ok at first but when you need to arrange dates etc but by the time you have had your second date you could be phoning someone. Anything else is childish.

What age are the two of you?

Were you actually 'seeing' her?

dirtydress

I agree with what people are saying above, I'd say she got tied of waiting around for something to happen. To those who say she is not treating you in a "civil manner"...she doesnt owe him anything! By the sounds of it they're barely friends anyway. If she was interested in him at first it sounds like that interest has dwindled and maybe she met someone else who is willing to actually have a relationship with her. I never got this whole waiting around thing that some guys have and then complain when they get nowhere.

SarahSassy

PaulPaysUpBig wrote: »

Ok so i have been texting this girl non stop for months

What does this mean? Were ye just 'text buddy's'?, if so, whats the point? Maybe she wanted more and nothing happened, maybe she met someone else and didnt want to be texting some guy, we dont know but why just text someone who isnt exactly a friend- dont get it.

kittenkiller

dirtydress wrote: »

To those who say she is not treating you in a "civil manner"...she doesnt owe him anything!

I never even hinted that she did.
Just trying to drill the point home.

S_88

SarahSassy wrote: »

What does this mean? Were ye just 'text buddy's'?, if so, whats the point? Maybe she wanted more and nothing happened, maybe she met someone else and didnt want to be texting some guy, we dont know but why just text someone who isnt exactly a friend- dont get it.

It also sounds to me that she probably got fed up...

I've been recently "texting" a guy I met a few weeks ago - after three weeks he hadn't suggested meeting up - I can't be bothered to text now - it's a waste of time imho...

camk

Kimia wrote: »

She has no interest! She has made it very clear, so move on man! What are you doing apologising to her for a hangover?

I'm sorry to be harsh but you sound waaaay too clingy and needy which is a real turn off. You've been texting her for months and nothing's happened???
Stop texting her and being so easy and MOVE ON!

totally agree with kimia, its time to move on.

PaulPaysUpBig

ok so between when i posted this and now she has started to text me again like before...

we were on facebook and talked til early hours, next day she started to text me again...

this is very confusing:(

mood

Ask her out or something. What age are the two of you?

dsmythy

PaulPaysUpBig wrote: »

ok so between when i posted this and now she has started to text me again like before...

we were on facebook and talked til early hours, next day she started to text me again...

this is very confusing:(

Seriously just send her a text asking if she wants to meet up and do something. Surely even you will get fed up just texting someone all the time with no progression.

PaulPaysUpBig

we are in our early 20's...

i have asked her out and she said shes glad to know how i feel, but that it wouldnt work coz were jus good friends thats all she wants...:(

camk

PaulPaysUpBig wrote: »

ok so between when i posted this and now she has started to text me again like before...

we were on facebook and talked til early hours, next day she started to text me again...

this is very confusing:(

sorry paul its time to walk away from this one, i get a strong impression shes only interested in you when shes at a loose end. dont be a fool thats what shes treating you as, just let it go

mood

Now you know you can move on. Nothing worse than not knowing!

banquo

Sounds to me like it was her little way - by dropping the niceties - of widening the gap between you.