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should i be worried?

  • 08-11-2009 9:03pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    going out with my BF for 7 months. we were away together for a week and i think we got on fine. the trip back was 2.5 hours. he had drove all week and i offered to drive back. he got a paper and read it the WHOLE way back. we hardly spoke at all. i was concious that he wanted to read so didn't say much. but after was wondering was that rude or just that we'd been together for a few days and it was time out for him? we spent today together and he got a paper again and read it for a couple of hours. again we didn't talk much. i didn't say anything but read the paper myself too and we mentioned the odd article. etc.

    is this normal after having spent a lot of time together to just want time out? it was a bit odd for me but i said nothing as it's the first time it's happened. god, i hope it's not a bad sign that he has nothing to say to me so dives into the papers.

    like i said, it was a first. do couples just have times when they run out of stuff to talk about? is it a post -24/7 holiday thing?

    or is it a bad sign? i have this dread that the day we don't talk to each other is the start of the demise...


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  • #2
    Red Hand
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,986 ✭✭✭Red Hand


    Well, there's nothing at all strange to me a person doing that. Like, you can't be talking all the time, plus there ARE natural silences where you don't speak much when in someone's company.


  • #3
    ash23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭ash23


    I'm an avid reader. Books, magazines, newspapers. When I've my head stuck in a book a person could be talking to me and I wouldn't even notice.
    I hate trying to read and have conversations and would happily spend a sunday afternoon sat in a pub reading the paper with my OH (if I had one :D) in silence, just reading.

    I'm a nerd though :D


  • #4
    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,661 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    My OH and I both understand that there's no need to talk all the time. When we're together, we'll often just both have our laptops out and we'll barely speak. During car journeys, we're often quiet.

    I don't think you need to be worried at all. I'd just take it as a sign that he's comfortable with you.


  • #5
    shellyboo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    No need to be worried at all. Sign of a strong relationship that you can both sit in silence comfortably, making no demands of eachother. Enjoy it :)


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