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  • 08-11-2009 4:16pm
    #1
    Shutuplaura
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    The missus has her heart set on getting married in her home town which is natural enough. We travelled from Australia to Ireland to look at venues and all of that jazz and after seeing everything in the area I'm not convinced I like anything I saw. Its in the North East of the country and the problem is that there isn't really anything I saw that wow'd me there. all the hotels were fairly Same-y and if we go along with this we'll end up having our reception on a Hotel along the town by-pass or something like that. Money isn't really a factor but I know we'd get more bang for our buck abroad.

    Anyway, I guess my question, directed at the ladies is to whether its really appropriate for me to put my foot down and say 'No'. Yes it is my day too but at the same time I look at this more in terms of a life commitment and not a single event. So should I say nothing or insist we explore other options (preferably abroad)?


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  • #2
    How Strange
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,339 ✭✭✭How Strange


    Shutuplaura wrote: »
    The missus has her heart set on getting married in her home town which is natural enough. We travelled from Australia to Ireland to look at venues and all of that jazz and after seeing everything in the area I'm not convinced I like anything I saw. Its in the North East of the country and the problem is that there isn't really anything I saw that wow'd me there. all the hotels were fairly Same-y and if we go along with this we'll end up having our reception on a Hotel along the town by-pass or something like that. Money isn't really a factor but I know we'd get more bang for our buck abroad.

    Anyway, I guess my question, directed at the ladies is to whether its really appropriate for me to put my foot down and say 'No'. Yes it is my day too but at the same time I look at this more in terms of a life commitment and not a single event. So should I say nothing or insist we explore other options (preferably abroad)?
    Eh, I'd advise discussing it with your OH and see what she thinks of all the venues you've visited. Be honest and tell her your concerns. I suppose it depends on how important it is to your OH. I'm guessing if you two are coming from Oz then there may be some expectations placed on her by her family to have the traditional Irish wedding in the local hotel.

    I do think you have a right to have an equal say in what type of wedding you have (many men just go along with it and say nothing for an easy life) but it may just come down to you compromising for an easy life especially if her family expect the big wedding.


  • #3
    prinz
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    As long as your family and friends are around does it really matter? If the hotel wasn't beside a by-pass would it be better? Where would you go abroad - out of interest? Australia? You're right there is much more to marriage than a single event. You could have the do in a cow shed, who cares, at the end of the day you're still married.

    You give two options (a) say nothing or (b) insist..

    maybe try (c) discuss it with her, pros, cons, maybe make up a list.


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