Unhappy with life atm

LegacyUser

I am really unhappy with my life at the moment for various reason, like they aren't anything major but still lead me to being unhappy.

I dislike my course and have for a while now but I didn't know what else to do so I have stuck it out and I am in final year, I am just going to try and get a half decent grade at the end and do something different after I finish college but I find it hard to get motivated to do work thus results in me not getting good grades. I also dont get along with a lot of the lads in course though there is a reason behind it and its only this year. Its quite normal for people to defer final year and do a placement and has resulted in a good few I knew doing this and then lads the year ahead of me did the same and came into my year so I find myself just hanging round with 3 lads from my course.

I have no female friends any more like when I was in school a good 35% of my friends where female but because of the course I am studying and losing touch with my friends from school have resulted in me not having any female friends. This has also resulted in me never getting with women because I mainly got with friends of friends type of thing like I wouldn't be able to approach a random women in a club and start chatting to her. Like it has been over a year since I have gotten with someone and its really annoying me. I think about this 24/7 and that's the thing I tend to over think and not do. Like I should join clubs and all that but I said to myself at the start of the year that I wont join anything as I need to concentrate on final year.

About 2 months ago there was a big bust up in my group of friends and now a good few of them aren't talking to each other which isn't actually the first time this has happened but my course is a year longer then normal and the last time this happened I had other friends to hang around with but this time I don't have the same option. I like heading out to pub/club to blow off a bit of steam and have a bit of craic but I haven't been able to do this in a while and its really pissing me off like I might be able to get one of the lads out on one night and we go out and its just the two of us for the hole night which can be good sometimes but being stuck with one person for the hole night can be a bit too much. Like I know other lads going out but it feels like being back in 1st year where I have to make so much effort just to go out.

JuliusCaesar

It sounds like you opted for 'all work and no play' at the beginning of the year, not realising you need to keep your life balanced. All work and no play actually has a detrimental effect on your work, and being in any way depressed will impact on your motivation. Yeah, you need to put the effort in to meet people socially. Have you any interests or sports? Are there any college societies you could join or has MeetUp.com anything for you?

Your social life will need attention throughout your life - there are many times when friends move away or change. Many people think it should be automatic but a lot of posts here show that that isn't true. Hope this helps.

LegacyUser

Yeah I am very interested in sport and played at college level but opted to quit two years ago as my grades were suffering but still played it but not at competitive level but now I haven't played since September.

Overheal

Your life is revolving around Sex (or lack thereof), Going out on the piss, and the Degree you've become Jaded with.

I say time for a Trek, says I. When I felt like that I'd typically hop on the train from Carlow and get outta dodge for at least a few hours. Waterford or Dublin. Both are were fairly neat. Sometimes you just need to step back and take stock.