sick with worry

LegacyUser

i did an awful thing - i swore on my familys lives i wouldnt do something - yet i did it a while later. I swore as i thought i wouldnt break it as it was on my family but yet i did. I love my family to bits and never want anything bad to happen. I was (am) pretty messed up and i thought if i swore id never do it again. But i couldnt resist the urge. The problem is pretty much sorted now but im worried sick about my family. What kind of a person would do that to their family? Now im trying to repay for what i did - going to church - doing everything everyone asks me, being good and nice but its probably not enough. Im thinking of going to confession too but the nearest would be xmas. My brother is in hospital and now im worried he will be seriously ill and its all my fault. I did this swearing thing b4 and the perosn i swore on died! What am i going to do? Im sick to the stomack and feel like i betrayed my family. Im such a selfish bitch.

Elbi

Realx , im sure you are very sorry for doing what you did after swearing you wouldnt, but you swore you wouldnt because you really believed you wouldnt so just dont worry about it, it'l all be fine,
and i promise you your brothers illness is nothing to do with you.

extrinzic

sick with worry wrote: »

My brother is in hospital and now im worried he will be seriously ill and its all my fault. I did this swearing thing b4 and the perosn i swore on died! What am i going to do? Im sick to the stomack and feel like i betrayed my family. Im such a selfish bitch.

This is not your fault, it is a coincidence. Stop blaming yourself and be nice to your brother.

kittenkiller

I'm afraid that's not how the world works, if good or bad karma could change anything we'd all be in a better place!

Most churches have a weekly confession time, and most priests will hear your confession on the spot if you catch them at the right time. If that's really what you want to do.

Maybe you should try focusing on being actively good to those you love.
You don't have to turn into a doormat, just exhibit thoughtfulness and patience, no one can really ask for much more.

Oh The Humanity

'Swearing' something means nothing/ Its just superstition, relax.

Nothing that happens to your family is connected to you!

Penn

Personally I don't believe in the kind of stuff you're talking about, but you clearly do. So for peace of mind, perhaps you should try to go to confession as soon as you can, try to get the priest to hear your confession.

You'll feel much better afterwards. And who knows, maybe your brother will too

Peggypeg

No I don't believe in that stuff at all, I'm atheist but you seem to be religious, so ask yourself would God hurt your family coz you broke something you'd sworn on? No, it's just coinsidence sweetie but you're feeling guilty so confession could help alot.

Big HUg.

Richie

How old are you? 6?

tbh

I'm going to make a deal with the universe. If your brother gets better, I'll never use Bovril again.


Sounds stupid doesn't it? Relax, this is just an unhappy coincidence. You can't control what happens to your family, good or bad.

LegacyUser

Richie wrote: »

How old are you? 6?

Explain Einstein - 6 because i swore on someones life or 6 because im worried?

Mr Yellow

Oh The Humanity wrote: »

'Swearing' something means nothing/ Its just superstition, relax.

Nothing that happens to your family is connected to you!

Your 100% right there, SUPERSTITION BULLSWAX... Swearing can be like love, people make it what they want it to be, but in the end its still just a word!!

OP - get on with your life & be the good person you seem (i conclude that your a good person from your feeling of guilt!)

Nevyn

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Have a nice day.
Thaedydal

LegacyUser

Hi OP,

My family used to use this saying too to get to the truth of things, i remember when i was a kid my mum said to me was your sister drinking while you were out and she was under age, when she asked me to swear on my baby nephews life i was like Sh!t i have to rat on her because i couldnt swear on his life! Is this an Irish thing, dont know where it came from.

Looking back its is a stupid saying and of course god would not kill my nephew because i told a lie, you just couldnt have that much power. I think you must be upset that your brother is in hospital and now you are feeling anxious over the last person dying after you swore, words are only words and will not effect your families destiny.

What i would suggest is - instead of putting your attention on worry and anxiety, put that energy on love and healing for your brother and family, maybe if you said the rosary every morning, or meditated some positive energy this could counter balance you saying what you said, were saying things like that to try and help you not berate yourself and to get some comfort.

Best of luck.