Sperm test

LegacyUser

Hi,
My so called girlfriend just arrived in to my bed tonight and we were kissing when I was playing with her vagina and I felt sperm inside her.

We hadn't had sex in over a day so I am really freaked out.

I pretended to go and wash my hands but I wiped some onto a plastic tray and want to get it tested a) to make sure it is sperm b) that it's not mine from 24hrs ago

I am feeling pretty bad right now, so any help is appreciated.

It's funny though, as much as I love (d) her, I had real issues trying to trust her, I guess I was right.

Nevyn

There are a a whole range of reasons she may be 'wet' from just natural lubriction or where in her menstral cycle she is, it could easily be normal vaginal mucus.

denhaagenite

I didn't know the feeling of sperm was distinguishable?

LegacyUser

I went into the bathroom and examined it carefully, this was semen 100%. I think it is distuingishable, compared to normal vaginal wetness it feels 'softer'.

shellyboo

How can you "feel" semen? As I doubt you were actually feeling sperm, since they're tiny. It was probably normal vaginal mucus, it can sometimes be quite thick depending on where she is in her menstrual cycle, as Thaed says. You're being incredibly paranoid, and clearly have massive trust issues.

LegacyUser

I appreciate your response Shellyboo. I am not looking to be labelled here. It was definitely semen, I know what it looks like, I know that much.

defence forces

for god's sake! dude you turned her on. you made her wet, sperm and vaginal secretion feels the same. If your having problems trusting her it's probably best you break it off before something bad happens, and maybe stop smoking hash or grass.

LegacyUser

Thanks defence forces, I hope you're right...ok I may be a bit mental, but I try not to be...I am going to speak to someone today about it. I am so confused by the thoughts I have, but I am trying my best.

defence forces

actually she might have a yeast infection the mucus from an infection like that can look like sperm.

kittenkiller

I'd say she's definitely cheating on you!
If you're 100% sure that it was sperm and not *yours* than there's absolutely no other explanation.

shellyboo

Sad guy wrote: »

I appreciate your response Shellyboo. I am not looking to be labelled here. It was definitely semen, I know what it looks like, I know that much.

You might know what semen looks like, but do you know what every single different type of vaginal secretion looks like? I'm going to bet no. Guess what? It can look like semen, too.

Unless you have other reason to distrust your gf, you are clutching at straws here, massively. MASSIVELY.

As an aside, you could have just tasted it - you'd have been able to tell if it was semen or vaginal lubrication then. They taste completely different.

LegacyUser

It tasted kinda saltyish.

denhaagenite

Surely the girl would have had a shower or something before you went at it if she was with someone else? Do you think she was walking around all day like this?

Apart from anything else, it would be uncomfortable. Just take a deep breath and think about the whole thing sensibly.

LegacyUser

I must agree with OP, semen actually feels diffrent then vaginal secretion! Especially if it tries on your skinn as semen gets sticky vaginal secretion not.

But my firths thought after reading your post OP was, don't you use condoms?

defence forces

shellyboo wrote: »

You might know what semen looks like, but do you know what every single different type of vaginal secretion looks like? I'm going to bet no. Guess what? It can look like semen, too.

Unless you have other reason to distrust your gf, you are clutching at straws here, massively. MASSIVELY.

As an aside, you could have just tasted it - you'd have been able to tell if it was semen or vaginal lubrication then. They taste completely different.

Hey steady on there you, the lad came onto this to discuss a personal problem somewhat openly, he's taking a step forward in trying to figure out what is going on and maybe learn something from it. there is no need for this sort of self righteousness here. Why are you getting so defensive? because it smells kind of fishy if you ask me.

shellyboo

defence forces wrote: »

Hey steady on there you, the lad came onto this to discuss a personal problem somewhat openly, he's taking a step forward in trying to figure out what is going on and maybe learn something from it. there is no need for this sort of self righteousness here. Why are you getting so defensive? because it smells kind of fishy if you ask me.

I'm not getting defensive at all, or self-righteous. There's no possible way he can know for sure it was semen. He's admitted to have problems trusting her in the past - it's pretty obvious he still does have problems trusting her.

LegacyUser

denhaagenite wrote: »

Surely the girl would have had a shower or something before you went at it if she was with someone else? Do you think she was walking around all day like this?

Apart from anything else, it would be uncomfortable. Just take a deep breath and think about the whole thing sensibly.

Funny you should say that, she had a shower before bed.

I live with two other guys, I was up in my room for a while before she joined me, she showered before getting into my bed.

I did taste, it as embarassing as that is, and I had tasted my own semen a few days ago, and it tasted pretty similiar. It was sperm.

We had a huge amount of sex over the last few weeks, like 5 times every day. Then we had just had a 24hrish break. I am unfamiliar with the female system, but I am hoping this was my semen, I don't know if it stays in the vaginal area for 24 hrs?

Darthhoob

defence forces wrote: »

Hey steady on there you, the lad came onto this to discuss a personal problem somewhat openly, he's taking a step forward in trying to figure out what is going on and maybe learn something from it. there is no need for this sort of self righteousness here. Why are you getting so defensive? because it smells kind of fishy if you ask me.

NOT semen then :pac:

defence forces

shellyboo wrote: »

I'm not getting defensive at all, or self-righteous. There's no possible way he can know for sure it was semen. He's admitted to have problems trusting her in the past - it's pretty obvious he still does have problems trusting her.

Yes you are getting defensive and self-righteous, futhermore irregardless of the fact that he trusts her or not past, present or future. it's not up to you to say it so vindictively, he asked a question about vaginal fluid during sex and is worried that it looks like sperm, maybe try to be helpful and alay his fears about this, and then possibly add in a quieter tone that he needs to have more trust in his relationship with said girlfriend. he's asking a question about biology not for a psychological examination or attack.

anyway I don't think anyone should be in a relationship till they are 36 and ready to settle down. till then we should all just be lover's in open relationships.

Victor

Sad guy wrote: »

It tasted kinda saltyish.

Now, before anything else is said, can I point out that this isn't the smartest route to take if you think you have someone else's semen. You have no idea what infections that person could have.

shellyboo

defence forces wrote: »

Yes you are getting defensive and self-righteous, futhermore irregardless of the fact that he trusts her or not past, present or future. it's not up to you to say it so vindictively, he asked a question about vaginal fluid during sex and is worried that it looks like sperm, maybe try to be helpful and alay his fears about this, and then possibly add in a quieter tone that he needs to have more trust in his relationship with said girlfriend. he's asking a question about biology not for a psychological examination or attack.

anyway I don't think anyone should be in a relationship till they are 36 and ready to settle down. till then we should all just be lover's in open relationships.

I didn't say anything vindictively, if that's how you picked it up, then the report post button is right there, dude. I didn't attack him, if you don't like my posting style that's your opinion.

shellyboo

Sad guy wrote: »

We had a huge amount of sex over the last few weeks, like 5 times every day. Then we had just had a 24hrish break. I am unfamiliar with the female system, but I am hoping this was my semen, I don't know if it stays in the vaginal area for 24 hrs?

Yep, it's entirely possible that it's yours. Also, if you had sex five times a day for a few weeks, do you really and truly think she'd want/need to go get some more after that? Poor girl was probably exhausted!

lifelonglufc

OK I'm sorry now but...are you for real here?!

Now it's fair enough that you feel you may have an issue with her trust before and now again and you've come here to discuss it and get opinions and I respect that but...

I think a bit of an over reaction here OP. Trust? Did you ask her anything about it even? If you've had that much sex lately then it probably is you'res.

Personal Issue with you here maybe and not her?

I'm trying not to be harsh here, but this is all a little bit fishy! (no pun intended )

CathyMoran

defence forces wrote: »

Yes you are getting defensive and self-righteous, futhermore irregardless of the fact that he trusts her or not past, present or future. it's not up to you to say it so vindictively, he asked a question about vaginal fluid during sex and is worried that it looks like sperm, maybe try to be helpful and alay his fears about this, and then possibly add in a quieter tone that he needs to have more trust in his relationship with said girlfriend. he's asking a question about biology not for a psychological examination or attack.

anyway I don't think anyone should be in a relationship till they are 36 and ready to settle down. till then we should all just be lover's in open relationships.

36, eek, noy good if you want kids...too bad if you meet the love of your life at 21, it happens.

OP - if you have been having a lot of sex then it can sort of stay for more than 24 hours as far as I know.

Sad guy

Sad guy wrote: »

Funny you should say that, she had a shower before bed.

I live with two other guys, I was up in my room for a while before she joined me, she showered before getting into my bed.

I did taste, it as embarassing as that is, and I had tasted my own semen a few days ago, and it tasted pretty similiar. It was sperm.

We had a huge amount of sex over the last few weeks, like 5 times every day. Then we had just had a 24hrish break. I am unfamiliar with the female system, but I am hoping this was my semen, I don't know if it stays in the vaginal area for 24 hrs?

Sperm can stay/survive inside a woman for DAYS depending on the conditions and circumstances.

You two have had sex for the past few weeks up to five times a day so you should not be surprised to find sperm inside her after a 24 hour break.

And I agree with you, you have real issues with trust.

RossFixxxed

Tasting what you believe is semen from your girlfriend is a little OTT mate. I mean come on that's taking things a little too far. You must have some serious trust issues. Even if i was convinced it was semen I'm not putting it in my MOUTH! If she's not cheating this is crazy and if she is, time for an STD test from swallowing a guys cum... Either is not a good thing.

Nevyn

Sperm will remain alive inside a woman for up to 72 hours, the vagina and womb is a cul de sac what goes in eventuall comes out.

dublingal80

im sorry, but IF you are actually serious about this issue, its definitely your issue and not hers. I dont know 1 guy, that, in the heat of the moment, would be wondering if what he is feeling inside a girl is the normal wetness and does it feel similar to sperm, and then to stop what you are doing, to then wipe it on something so you can get it tested! and to even taste it!!
honestly dude, if you are serious, you definitely have trust issues!! most people would know their partner is cheating on them by how they are acting, if they dont open up, if they dont want to get intimate, some wrongly check mobile phones, eamils... you check her vagina!

LegacyUser

Yes I have serious trust issues. Thanks for your responses, I just went to a therapist this morning for an appointment I made a few weeks back as I knew these issues would eventually raise their head. I also have a vivid, overactive imagination.

The reason I am here is not to be judged, but I just wanted to see if what happened was normal, it may seem off the wall but I have never felt so strongly about a girl in my life, ironically the more I love her the more intense my jealousy becomes, I try to hide it and just enjoy the moment. If you ever suffered from an irrational phobia you may be able to relate the lack of reality that occurs.

So it appears that it may well have been my semen, which is reassurring to hear. Thanks

LegacyUser

dublingal80 wrote: »

im sorry, but IF you are actually serious about this issue, its definitely your issue and not hers. I dont know 1 guy, that, in the heat of the moment, would be wondering if what he is feeling inside a girl is the normal wetness and does it feel similar to sperm, and then to stop what you are doing, to then wipe it on something so you can get it tested! and to even taste it!!
honestly dude, if you are serious, you definitely have trust issues!! most people would know their partner is cheating on them by how they are acting, if they dont open up, if they dont want to get intimate, some wrongly check mobile phones, eamils... you check her vagina!

Look, it was sperm, it felt just the way it would if we had sex then stopped for an hour or two and decided to have sex again. Any guy who has cum inside a girl, then had sex with her again soon afterwards knows what I am talking about.

It caught me by surprise, so did taste it, yes I appreciate that may be crazy, but I didn't expect it to semen. But I needed to know so I did what I had to. So keep your judgements on me to yourself please.

dublingal80

Sad guy wrote: »

Yes I have serious trust issues. Thanks for your responses, I just went to a therapist this morning for an appointment I made a few weeks back as I knew these issues would eventually raise their head. I also have a vivid, overactive imagination.

I dont mean to come across as so judgemental but you are saying you have a vivid and overactive imagination so maybe that is whats happening in this instance. From talking to anyone about this I can guarantee you that 99% of guys would not know the difference between semen and normal bodily fluids from within a woman and 99.99999999% of men would not notice this in the middle of messing around with a woman that they are crazy in love with.

Is she doing anything else that would make you think she is cheating in you besides that?

Herbal Deity

shellyboo wrote: »

There's no possible way he can know for sure it was semen.

Any guy who's been masturbating since adolescence will know exactly what semen looks like and feels like.

He has trust issues, it's pretty likely that it is his semen, but to suggest that a guy wouldn't be able to tell the difference between semen and vaginal mucus is laughable. As a girl, you might think it's easily mistakable, but you haven't had to clean it up nearly every day since you were 12/13

shellyboo

Herbal Deity wrote: »

Any guy who's been masturbating since adolescence will know exactly what semen looks like and feels like.

He has trust issues, it's pretty likely that it is his semen, but to suggest that a guy wouldn't be able to tell the difference between semen and vaginal mucus is laughable. As a girl, you might think it's easily mistakable, but you haven't had to clean it up nearly every day since you were 12/13

And you haven't had to deal with vaginal mucus since you were 12/13 either. So how can you say it can't be the same consistency and texture as semen? I'm not saying he can't tell the difference, I'm informing him of the fact that it could just have been her natural lubrication - it's not always consistently clear and liquid. It can be viscous and yellowish, or whitish.


The point I was making was that jumping from "I think this is semen" to "my girlfriend cheated on me on the one day I haven't had sex with her myself in a month" is a massive and ridiculous jump, when it could easily be explained by many other factors.

dublingal80

Sad guy wrote: »

I live with two other guys, I was up in my room for a while before she joined me, she showered before getting into my bed.

so are you saying she had sex with one of your flatmates while you were in your room, and then came up to you, showered and then joined you?

Cheeky_gal

dublingal80 wrote: »

im sorry, but IF you are actually serious about this issue, its definitely your issue and not hers. I dont know 1 guy, that, in the heat of the moment, would be wondering if what he is feeling inside a girl is the normal wetness and does it feel similar to sperm, and then to stop what you are doing, to then wipe it on something so you can get it tested! and to even taste it!!
honestly dude, if you are serious, you definitely have trust issues!! most people would know their partner is cheating on them by how they are acting, if they dont open up, if they dont want to get intimate, some wrongly check mobile phones, eamils... you check her vagina!

I've never laughed so hard hahaha

LegacyUser

dublingal80 wrote: »

so are you saying she had sex with one of your flatmates while you were in your room, and then came up to you, showered and then joined you?

I am not saying anything really. I am just trying to get my head around this issue, we all have our flaws, unluckily for me this happens to mine. I am trying my best to combat it, and I am optimistic that I can, I posted here to get some information and alternative viewpoints which I think I have done.

Nevyn

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Thaedydal

Herbal Deity

shellyboo wrote: »

The point I was making was that jumping from "I think this is semen" to "my girlfriend cheated on me on the one day I haven't had sex with her myself in a month" is a massive and ridiculous jump

Of course it is, he's paranoid as hell. I just think it's unlikely that a guy would mistake semen for vaginal mucus, and yes, I know that it comes in a variety of consistencies and colours.

Your tone is really rather defensive... :S This is a silly point, so we'll agree to disagree.

shellyboo

Herbal Deity wrote: »

Of course it is, he's paranoid as hell. I just think it's unlikely that a guy would mistake semen for vaginal mucus, and yes, I know that it comes in a variety of consistencies and colours.

Your tone is really rather defensive... :S This is a silly point, so we'll agree to disagree.

I think it's unlikely that a rational guy would confuse the two... but someone who wants to think a certain way can convince themselves of pretty much anything they like. Which is why I wanted to push the point that it might not even be semen, never mind someone else's semen.

RossFixxxed

Dude it's not in an attempt to attack you or insult you but your thinking is not right. There's natural paranoia/worry/anxiety but this is blown out of proportion and you do seem to see that. It definitely isn't right. But I think you see that now, eating sperm is not a good start to a situation generally. Go for councelling or to someone, and look at your thinking, note it down and look at it later when you are calmer and reevaluate the situation... Reread your posts here... YOU TASTED SPERM?

konalavadome

My God this thread thing is full of morons.

Nevyn

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LegacyUser

Ok so we are clear now that I am sure it was semen.

Can someone tell how much would normally be in the vaginal area 24hrs later?, there was quite a bit. It was enough for me to notice,... (a few teaspoons maybe) of it in the sink when I rubbed if off my hands.

I am not looking for psychological evaluation here, just factual answers, thank you.

minidazzler

Sad guy. Go on to the website My Beautiful Cervix

Go to the pictures of the womans cycle.

Around halfway through the pictures there are a few pictures showing vaginal mucus during a womans fertile period.

It looks a little like Semen IMO.

It is most likely that.


EDIT: I would link to it but that is probably against the charter or some such.

LegacyUser

minidazzler wrote: »

Sad guy. Go on to the website My Beautiful Cervix

Go to the pictures of the womans cycle.

Around halfway through the pictures there are a few pictures showing vaginal mucus during a womans fertile period.

It looks a little like Semen IMO.

It is most likely that.

Minidazzler, thank you so much...my girlfriend is on around that stage of her cycle. I feel like such a maniac, it's terrible....The picture showing the gelatanious vaginal mucus is very semen like, it was that property of the fluid that made me convinced it was semen.

I had a very productive talk with a therapist this morning, and I hope I haven't hurt this girl to a point beyond repair. Thank you again minidazzler.

Acoshla

Semen can stay in the vagina for up to 72 hours, if you've been having sex 5 times a day without a condom it is very likely that there could be some there.

If you look at it from another point of view, if she's having sex with you up to five times a day for a few weeks then I sincerely doubt she'd sleep with someone else the *one* day you too didn't have sex, even from a physical point of view! If that was me I'd be glad of the break no matter how good the sex was. Also, even if she did sleep with another man with no condom, I doubt she'd come straight back to your bed knowing herself that some of his semen was in her.

But as I said, it is entirely possible and likely that it is your semen, combined with the fact that she was aroused it could've looked like loads of semen but was in fact semen and secretions mixed together.

minidazzler

Sad guy wrote: »

Minidazzler, thank you so much...my girlfriend is on around that stage of her cycle. I feel like such a maniac, it's terrible....The picture showing the gelatanious vaginal mucus is very semen like, it was that property of the fluid that made me convinced it was semen.

I had a very productive talk with a therapist this morning, and I hope I haven't hurt this girl to a point beyond repair. Thank you again minidazzler.

Are you finally convinced then?

LegacyUser

minidazzler wrote: »

Are you finally convinced then?

I'll be honest, I feel a lot better than I did earlier, much better. I am almost fully convinced yes. Sadly this event is not the real problem, it's my own underlying insecurities with trust issues. I had a rather tumultuous childhood, which has left me with some unresolved issues, that lay dormant until I meet someone I really like and then they raise their ugly head.

However, I am aware of this and I am actively trying to manage my thoughts...that said it's not easy, but this girl is worth it. It may appear that I don't care about her, but that is the paradox, it's because I care so much....a modern day Othello....

Thank you again for your help.

Gyalist

If you're for real I hope this woman has enough self-esteem to end the relationship.

LegacyUser

Gyalist wrote: »

If you're for real I hope this woman has enough self-esteem to end the relationship.

Look here Gyalist, let's not make any remarks about her self-esteem. Your post is really pointless.

Asides from this rather terrible issue, which seldom rares it's head, we have an amazing relationship. I have never felt so in love in my life, I didn't realise you could have such strong feelings for another person. I have never met another girl like her, that is why I am doing everything to overcome this, and I am optimistic that I can. She loves me also, and hopefully we can overcome this and have a long, healthy and trusting relationship.

LegacyUser

Ok dude I think you have realised by now that you were way overreacting. I hope the therpaist helped. Seems like you need to get to the root of these trust issues or they will make your life complicated in the future yeah?

I have to ask thou - what did you say to the girl? I mean did you stop and ask her or just keep going or what? I mean is she none the wiser or freaked out right now? That could be a situation that needs delicate treatment.


As to this:

RossFixxxed wrote: »

Dude it's not in an attempt to attack you or insult you but your thinking is not right. There's natural paranoia/worry/anxiety but this is blown out of proportion and you do seem to see that. It definitely isn't right. But I think you see that now, eating sperm is not a good start to a situation generally. Go for councelling or to someone, and look at your thinking, note it down and look at it later when you are calmer and reevaluate the situation... Reread your posts here... YOU TASTED SPERM?

Well whats done it done. I wouldn't be so worried about the fact you tasted sperm moreso I think its your paranoia that drove your actions to be concerned about. It occurs to me Rossfixxxed - if men expect their women to swallow/choke on/gargle their sperm when it comes from the mans body....its probably not that much to be prepared to at least taste his own emanations for himself.....:P