lost it

LegacyUser

So ive been going out with my girlfriend for a little over a year now and we have been living together for the past 3 months. Everything is going great and I couldnt be happier. Iv had relationships in the past but nothing like this...I just love her so much. We never even fight, its just too perfect.
Then twice this week I lost my erection during sex and I couldnt get it back again. I feel really bad about this as I dont know whats causing it and she thinks its her fault and that im not attracted to her anymore which couldnt be further from the truth! Shes asking me for a reason but I cant expain it. Im guessing its something phycological as im only 24 and I doubt I have a medical issue here....
Any ideas on what the problem might be?
Has this happended to anyone here before? And what should I do?

shellyboo

Could be any one of a million things, OP. Tiredness and stress are the most likely culpriuts. The thing to do is not dwell on it, or it will become a psychological thing for you and start to reoccur.

Your gf asking you for a reason is not helpful at all - there is no "reason". I'm sure she doesn't feel up to sex every single time you do, and I'm sure she doesn't orgasm on demand every time you want her to. Tell her that you don't know why it happens and that it doesn't matter - the important thing is focussing on enjoying being together and not letting it become an issue between you. The more pressure you're under to perform, the less likely it is to happen - she needs to back off.

lynnmarie

Lol for a minute there i taught you were my boyfriend! Been together a year living together 3 months, same thing happened last week...
Have you a lot on your mind lately?. Worrying about stuff could also be the cause..
In relation to your girlfriend talk to her outside of the bedroom and explain to her that it's nothing to do with how u feel about her..

krudler

Her asking for a reason is a bit insensitive tbh, do you demand a reason from her if you want sex and she doesnt? women can have double standards when it comes to this stuff

magneticimpulse

ive met 2 guys before and they had premature ejeculation. i never saw either of them after that. i really liked them, and i didnt say anything negative. to me it was not a big deal, but I think it was a big deal to them. if i really liked someone, this would not bother me in the slightest if it was just occassional. i would never expect things to be 100% perfect everytime.

LegacyUser

thanks for the replies guys. its not that i didnt want to have sex either cause i did, it just wasnt working for me. im trying not to make a big deal of it anyway and my girlfriend did apologize for questioning me, she said she realises it wasnt my fault.
i think it might be stress related alright, im out of work right now and im really struggling financially and that has been weighing on my mind alot recently.

opinion guy

had you had alot to drink beforehand. that can do it for some