Seeking attention?

LegacyUser

Can some one tell me, would I be right in thinking some girls use social networking sites as a way to gain some attention?

I got talking to this girl once over the said type of site, its not something that I normally do. I noticed she didn't live to far and she looked great, I decided to contact her. After contacting her we got talking and this has carried on for a while. On her page she say she is "interested in meeting new people" but as much as I try, she wont meet. I even suggested meeting some night when we are both out with friends, just to "bump into each other" to take any awkwardness away. I have her number now and we text from time to time, I have also suggest making a call but as of yet I have not spoke to her.

I get the feeling she is only interested in attention, likes to see messages waiting for her, maybe gets a little buzz from it. She is a single mother, very attractive and seems to be very social with plenty of friends.

I am right in my thinking? If so, why would someone feel happy to only communicate via typing and nothing more?

kittenkiller

The concept of pen pals has been around far longer than the internet.

If you feel that she's wasting your time, stop contact.

Some people just like a distraction while they're working/studying/playing away.
Maybe this is how she views you?

You should ask her straight out.
Hopefully she'll be honest enough to give you a straight answer.

shellyboo

You're right, but I wouldn't say she's actively (intentionally) stringing you along. She probably likes talking to you, but doesn't want to lead you on by meeting and getting in deeper. Up to you to decide whether that's enough for you, or if you're better off without that in your life.

LegacyUser

Hey, thank you both. The penpal idea is interesting, I wouldn't be too happy being someone's penpal, its not my thing. I am also not interested in being someone's distraction. I've suggested a few times meeting up and I done it in a way we could meet up with no pressure. I've also rang her once after she agreed to talking over the phone, when the time came, she never picked up and never said anything about not picking up. Its fairly obvious I am interested in more than typing conversations and I am sure she know this, yet she pretty much turns it all down but continues to communicate via typing. Everything is telling me to stop but we get on great with the little we have, finding it hard to move on as it might hurt her.

All in all I don't think guys would be happy to just communicate via typing, you girls are strange! I guess that's what its all about. Thanks again.

mumto3

have you not thought that the reason she wont meet is because she is not who she says she is?
that would be the obviouse to me.Maybe shes not a mum,not from where your from,not even a woman!!!!!Theres also the possibility that shes underage and just living a fantasy grown up life tru the internet!!!
Or maybe this girl just wants to make online friends that stay just that.Everybody knows the dangers of meeting people you have met inline,especialy people with young kids.

LegacyUser

mumto3 wrote: »

have you not thought that the reason she wont meet is because she is not who she says she is?
that would be the obviouse to me.Maybe shes not a mum,not from where your from,not even a woman!!!!!Theres also the possibility that shes underage and just living a fantasy grown up life tru the internet!!!
Or maybe this girl just wants to make online friends that stay just that.Everybody knows the dangers of meeting people you have met inline,especialy people with young kids.

I am fairly sure she's who she says, she's not that far away and she's friends with some people I used to know from looking at her friend list on the web page thing. Yes I can see how it's not a good idea, its the first time I've attempted to contact someone in this way and already I can see the flaws in it. I am defo going to wind down the whole typing talk stuff, doing this might actually give her the incentive to make a move or something!

Thanks.

shellyboo

am I right? wrote: »

Hey, thank you both. The penpal idea is interesting, I wouldn't be too happy being someone's penpal, its not my thing. I am also not interested in being someone's distraction. I've suggested a few times meeting up and I done it in a way we could meet up with no pressure. I've also rang her once after she agreed to talking over the phone, when the time came, she never picked up and never said anything about not picking up. Its fairly obvious I am interested in more than typing conversations and I am sure she know this, yet she pretty much turns it all down but continues to communicate via typing. Everything is telling me to stop but we get on great with the little we have, finding it hard to move on as it might hurt her.

All in all I don't think guys would be happy to just communicate via typing, you girls are strange! I guess that's what its all about. Thanks again.

It's got nothing to do with guys vs girls... what if you met a girl online that you thought was nice, but weren't interested in? Would you want to meet up with her and talk on the phone? No, you wouldn't. That's the situation here... it's not about her being a girl, or things that girls do. She's just not as into you as you are into her and doesn't want to lead you on.

And I wouldn't worry about hurting her, either - she's not considering your feelings, you don't need to consider hers.