minor dilemma

LegacyUser

so story is thus

kinda like someone i've known last two months. seems mutual. nothing has happened yet but its on the cards. i'd like to take it a bit further and see how that works. at the moment i don't see this as a huge big love story, but i've been single for a long while and i do like the girl enough to want to spend a bit of time with her. problem is she is a smoker. now normally i have a strict rule against that. i.e. smokers automatically get ruled out of my option list. but this time i'm inclined to be more relaxed about it - perhaps because i don't currently see this as being that serious in the long term but you never know

wondering what people think ?

writestoomuch

Personally I don't see it as much of a big deal. I'm a non smoker and my last couple of boyfriends have been smokers. I don't mind the smell or the taste, and as long as they don't smoke in my house it's OK with me!

Having said that, I'd by lying if I said I don't occasionally worry for my boyfriend's health. It's evidently not a good thing to be doing to your body. And I suppose if I was thinking really long term I might worry about him getting something nasty and cancerous and suffering horribly! But there really is no way to know how things will work out long term. Anything could happen. (You know, it's the old cliche that any of us may be hit by a bus tomorrow...)

So unless you have a major problem with the smell of it or something I probably wouldn't let it bother you...?

Just my two cents.

Weidii

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I used to share your attitude, but now that I've been with two smokers I really don't mind. I've been lucky enough to be with two who always brush their teeth or chew gum after a smoke, so didn't suffer any nasty tastes!

LegacyUser

have to say i don't like the smell or taste off someones lips after they've smoked. might have even kissed her by now if it weren't for this. but i'm not sure how much she smokes. i could handle light smoking but NOT chain smoking. in fact part of the reason i ahve this rule is that at least once in the past hooked up with a heavy smoker who would basically stop kissing to have a quick fag and it REALLY put me off smokers altogether

Any key?

This might not be the same thing

I used to smoke a bit but gave up for my OH cause I knew he hated it.
Three years on I always have a sneaky cigarette when I'm out havin a drink (even if he's there) so its a still a mini luxury every now and again.

I know he'd love me either way now but refrain anyway out of respect for him.

Maybe if you give her a chance you'll find she might cut back and you could have a big impact in her smoking habits.....

Contessa Raven

I am currently in a relationship with a smoker. I hate smoking, it's a disgusting, filthy habit. It makes everything in the house smell including other people. (Both my parents are smokers.) My other half is considerate though. He smokes outdoors only. After he has a cig he goes and brushes his teeth or eats a couple of XXX mints and vóila he can kiss me (but he won't touch my things with his smokey hands unless he washes them)! :cool:

It's only a problem if the other person doesn't respect your clean air and health and the right not to stink of cigarettes. Just make it clear where you stand on the topic. Don't force her to quit or to do x,y and z. But do establish rules for when you're in your home etc...

e04bf099

All depends on how much they smoke, where and why and is it a life-style or a casual vice.