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Ladies advice

  • 27-10-2009 12:41am
    #1
    zaba123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    Hi all!

    I(male) was seeing a foreign girl during the summer months who was here to improve her English. She has had to return home because her stint was up and could'nt afford to stay more without an income.

    Now she is back living in her country, back with her folks, in a one horse town with no friends and little amusement and no job either. We are still in contact many times every day through the various media and are planning a holiday together soon, but I know she seems very down in herself these days mainly because of her current situation. Now she says she is fat because she has nothing to do everyday and feels ugly because of this too. Maybe she has gained a few pounds through inactivity( I think so what), depression and indulging in food to pass the time etc I dont know I havent seen her but I know she is far from ugly.

    Nothing I say to her to encourage her or to reconfirm that she is not what she is or looks like seem to work. She is a beautiful person both inside and out. Any advice ladies? Perhaps there is a good self help book out there for women unknown to men for her to at least help retrain her mind to believe in herself again and her wonderful appearance she already possesses.

    We are by no means in love, we both know and understand that especially in the context of our short relationship but care for one another deeply. I am worried for her current state of mind because I think ( correct me if I'm wrong) that any girl or guy for that matter who thinks they are unattractive feels somewhat worthless

    over to ye ladies?


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  • #2
    loalae
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 547 ✭✭✭loalae


    She needs to find something to do with herself. I know that when I have nothing to occupy myself with I scrutinise my body and face looking at the flaws. Being unemployed and living at home is a huge confidence knocker. When she gets a job or anything that will keep her busy she'll have less time to focus on what she doesn't like about herself. Right now she probably just likes hearing that you still find her attractive.


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