Would you be offended....

The Flipside

If you were out in a nightclub and a guy came up to you and said you had a really hot body?

metrovelvet

No but I wouldnt take it seriously. Id assume it was the beer goggles talking.

Yes.

Why what did she do?

Nervous Wreck

What's offensive about that? Apart from the possible intonation of butter-face syndrome...?

The Big Red Button

I wouldn't be offended, but it wouldn't particularly make me want to continue a conversation with him.

Faith

No, I'd probably just take the compliment and be flattered. If he came up and leered "Great rack!", I might give him a dirty look, but still wouldn't be offended.

The Flipside

Moonbaby wrote: »

Yes.

Why what did she do?

She said thanks and kept walking. She wasnt impressed as she felt that the comment made her feel like a piece of meat in a butchers shop.

I discussed it with other friends too and we all had different responses so it would be good to get a more wider opinion.

Nervous Wreck

Nervous Wreck wrote: »

What's offensive about that? Apart from the possible intonation of butter-face syndrome...?

It sounds sleazy, lazy and liney.
Most women have or have had body issues, so it just raises hackles.
I personally don't like compliment from men that imply that you could be a valuable bit of arm candy.
Your hawt works much better, it implys that they personally find you attractive.

Ickle Magoo

Would I be offended if someone came over to me & paid me a compliment? Erm, no.

Would I have preferred he had the cop on not to share his overtly sexual thoughts on my body with me - yep. :cool:

JohnCleary

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pQ7MZVKPfq8

Ickle Magoo

JohnCleary wrote: »

YOUTUBE

I've had that line a couple of times, it's so cheesy & beer-goggly it's guaranteed to invoke rolly eyes and a sharp exit.

minidazzler

The Flipside wrote: »

If you were out in a nightclub and a guy came up to you and said you had a really hot body?

The Flipside wrote: »

She said thanks and kept walking. She wasnt impressed as she felt that the comment made her feel like a piece of meat in a butchers shop.

In fairness, ye were in a night club it basically is a butcher-shop. Lads have nothing to go on in there except looks so that has to be what we use. He could have had some tact though.

LaMortis

See, if someone came up to me in a nightclub and said that to me I would get freaked out and walk away. I get nervous and self-protective in situations like that.

irish_bob

one thing you notice abroad is how foreign women differ to irish women when it comes to compliments , be it gentlemenry or somewhat naughty

Ickle Magoo

Maybe they just don't understand the "compliment" - being foreign & all, and just go for the nod & smile technique of dealing with strange men approaching them in a club?

LaMortis

irish_bob wrote: »

one thing you notice abroad is how foreign women differ to irish women when it comes to compliments , be it gentlemenry or somewhat naughty

Oh yeah! I'm originally from Russia and I travel there every summer and men treat women like ****. If they come up to you they won't leave you alone for ages, trying to ride you and grope you. Ugh.

LaMortis

LaMortis wrote: »

If they come up to you they won't leave you alone for ages, trying to ride you and grope you. Ugh.

Exactly as how they behave in my local "The Swinging Donkey".

LadyJ

I wouldn't be offended but I'd think the guy was a cock-knocker.

rainbow kirby

I would just assume it was the beer talking.

iguana

I'm not that impressed by people who feel the need to state the blindingly obvious.:D

Warfi

I wouldn't be offended, but as a conversation opener, it's crap. Look at it from the girl's point of view-some randomner says she has a hot body. Two possible replies: if the girl's uncertain about her figure, she'll think you're taking the piss and be offended. If the girl can take the compliment, all she can do is say thanks. End of conversation. You've nothing in common apart from you saying she has a hot body.

It's the conversational equivalent of coming too soon.

minidazzler

Warfi wrote: »

I wouldn't be offended, but as a conversation opener, it's crap. Look at it from the girl's point of view-some randomner says she has a hot body. Two possible replies: if the girl's uncertain about her figure, she'll think you're taking the piss and be offended. If the girl can take the compliment, all she can do is say thanks. End of conversation. You've nothing in common apart from you saying she has a hot body.

It's the conversational equivalent of coming too soon.

Lol, there's no such thing, from my point of view it's right on time!!:P

But I agree with what you said. It takes a sap to open a conversation with that!!!

Warfi

minidazzler wrote: »

Lol, there's no such thing, from my point of view it's right on time!!:P

Keep that attitude mister and you'll never have to worry about coming too early

SeekUp

Nah, I wouldn't be offended if someone came up to me and said that (guy or girl!).

Now I would be offended if, after that, I made it clear that I didn't want to talk and he didn't leave me alone.

Oh, and it'd help if the person doing the complimenting wasn't slurry drunk.

pikachucheeks

I'd be pretty flattered, to be honest.
Think it's nice that someone would take the time to come over and say something like that.
Sure, it's shallow but it's nice to hear things like that from time to time, particularly when women can often be insecure about their looks and whether they look good on a night out or not etc...

As people have mentioned, it's not really the best basis to start a conversation with someone but I'd definitely smile if someone came up and said that to me.

Kudos to anyone who has the balls to approach someone and compliment them. Takes guts!

Pretty_Pistol

I wouldn't take offense but it's a sh!t way to try and start a conversation.

princess-lala

Depends if he had beer goggles on or not, if not I could be quite flattered

Dudess

The sentence said on its own by a stranger?

I wouldn't consider it offensive - it's a compliment after all - but it's (a) creepy, or (b) well intentioned but clumsy and too full-on. I'd view it in these ways no matter how attractive the guy was.

Sephiroth_dude

Your offended because some guy came up to you and said you had a hot body ?

rannerap

i wouldnt be offended,it can only be taken as a compliment really,not the best conversation starter but itd take nerves to say that to a complete stranger!

irish_bob

SeekUp wrote: »

Nah, I wouldn't be offended if someone came up to me and said that (guy or girl!).

Now I would be offended if, after that, I made it clear that I didn't want to talk and he didn't leave me alone.

Oh, and it'd help if the person doing the complimenting wasn't slurry drunk.

agree with you entirely

Johnnnybravo

What the hells offensice about that??:rolleyes: Or are ya just looking for some attention?:rolleyes:

A man said Im hot " Im offended"

A man said Im ugly " Im offended!" christ get a grip!:rolleyes:

Johnnnybravo

Johnnnybravo wrote: »

What the hells offensice about that??:rolleyes: Or are ya just looking for some attention?:rolleyes:

A man said Im hot " Im offended"

A man said Im ugly " Im offended!" christ get a grip!:rolleyes:

There is a difference between a man telling you your hot, and some randomer walking up and annouceing that your bod is the sexeh.

Warfi

Johnnnybravo wrote: »

What the hells offensice about that??:rolleyes: Or are ya just looking for some attention?:rolleyes:

A man said Im hot " Im offended"

A man said Im ugly " Im offended!" christ get a grip!:rolleyes:

If women aren't responding the way you want them to respond, maybe it's about time you started to look at how you approach them. All those women can't be wrong!!:)

Johnnnybravo

Warfi wrote: »

If women aren't responding the way you want them to respond, maybe it's about time you started to look at how you approach them. All those women can't be wrong!!:)

Well I wouldnt know how they respond as I have a sexy partner at home And thank god Im not single if this is how women go on nowadays or maybe its just the type of women that post in this forum

Wibbs

Johnnnybravo don't be telling other members to get a grip and if the other members don't fit with you, then don't post. No member here has to justify their take on things. Debate fine. Rile or bait not fine. Simple as that.

Johnnnybravo

Sorry forgot this was the man hating forum.

PS Warfi Sorry Im spoken for.

Dudess

Actually the general consensus here is it's not offensive.

But don't mind me - I'm just a man-hater.

abouttobebanned

In fairness, it is ridiculous. There are a lot of ways that men can offend women, and vice versa. To be offended by a man saying you look well, in any way, is hyper sensitivity. And hyper sensitivity from who I believe are the cruelest people in night clubs. I work in them about 4 nights a week.

"Will you play a song for me?"
Me - "Sure"
"Now"
Well I'll play it shortly..
"play it now, im going soon"
"I'll play it when it's a bit busier"
"You fcuking useless fat, ugly Dj.."

etc..

happens a lot...I'm not totally ugly...im not particularly fat...but they'll throw anything at ya. And then get offended when you call them sexy.

Wibbs

Johnnnybravo take a weeks break for breach of forum charter and ignoring warning

Maple

Johnnnybravo wrote: »

Sorry forgot this was the man hating forum.

hmmmm what was it my mammy used tell me when i was younger??? oh yes, if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all.

Any further comments like this and you'll find yourself taking a nice little vacation from TLL.

Maple

Wibbs wrote: »

Johnnnybravo take a weeks break for breach of forum charter and ignoring warning

god damn it Wibbs, give me a chance.:p

minidazzler

maple wrote: »

hmmmm what was it my mammy used tell me when i was younger??? oh yes, if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all.

Any further comments like this and you'll find yourself taking a nice little vacation from TLL.

Wibbs really is a super fast ninja then:P (he got there first!! :P)

In fairness, it's not an offensive thing in and of itself, the way it is said could be construed as offensive though. So doesn't it depend really?

Nervous Wreck

minidazzler wrote: »

In fairness, it's not an offensive thing in and of itself, the way it is said could be construed as offensive though. So doesn't it depend really?

Agreed. It's about intent, honesty and intonation.

Any key?

I have friends who I would classify as having men issues and they are the only ones offended by that kind of thing

Warfi

abouttobebanned wrote: »

In fairness, it is ridiculous. There are a lot of ways that men can offend women, and vice versa. To be offended by a man saying you look well, in any way, is hyper sensitivity. And hyper sensitivity from who I believe are the cruelest people in night clubs. I work in them about 4 nights a week.

"Will you play a song for me?"
Me - "Sure"
"Now"
Well I'll play it shortly..
"play it now, im going soon"
"I'll play it when it's a bit busier"
"You fcuking useless fat, ugly Dj.."

etc..

happens a lot...I'm not totally ugly...im not particularly fat...but they'll throw anything at ya. And then get offended when you call them sexy.

That sounds awful. Can you not get them kicked out? After all, they are being abusive and it'd only be a matter of time before they cause hassle with someone else.

On a side note, why do you call them sexy after they've verbally abused you? They're probably not going to be the best audience for that line!

Novella

I think, like most things, it just depends on the situation. You can tell when a guy is genuinely trying to pay you a compliment as opposed to a guy who is actually just sleazy.

Personally, I wouldn't mind if someone said it to me but it isn't a line that'd make me in any way (more) interested. I'd prefer a guy to start a conversation with me about something a little less forward, what I do in college or whatever and then maybe later tell me that he'd started conversation with me because he thought I had a hot body!

Cadiz

I wouldn't care either way, it's not flattering coming from a randomer on the make in a club, I'd just ignore it.

The attempt to hold a conversation with my breasts, now that tends to tick me off.

Cheeky_gal

chatterpillar wrote: »

I wouldn't be offended, but it wouldn't particularly make me want to continue a conversation with him.

I'd say thanks now go f*ck yourself :rolleyes:

shellyboo

Cheeky_gal wrote: »

I'd say thanks now go f*ck yourself :rolleyes:

Why would you tell someone to go f*ck themselves just because they paid you a compliment?

I wouldn't be offended, I'd be flattered... but I agree that it's hardly the most original of conversation starters and it does kind of give the impression that the guy is only after one thing - so I'm not surprised that many women would be hostile if they were fed that sort of line. I wouldn't condone anyone being hostile, but I wouldn't be surprised that it happens.

stovelid

If you had the balls (or you were gauche enough) to walk up to somebody and say that out of the blue, I don't why you wouldn't just say something more dignified or conducive to conversation and make the body compliments when it was more tactful to do so.