Single women

doc_17

Where's the best place to meet single women, 25 - 30, excluding discos and pubs.

minidazzler

Probably online or in clubs/societies.

At least those are the easiest places to meet people with similar interests.

MIN2511

Everywhere.... If you see a girl you are attracted to on the street, stop her and ask her out.....
I am dead serious, i am sick and tired of people saying; join a course, sports clubs, societies etc...

There are loads of single women out there, and unfortunately we women like to be sought after rather than seek ourselves..

fabbydabby

I'm sorry but if I asked a girl out at a bus stop or in the queue at Spar she would back slowly away, laughing nervously. As would I, in this situation as I had it happen to me (and I was single at the time and she was alright looking too).

I was caught off guard and thought she was a complete nutbar. My gf is always on about the perv's and nut jobs she meets on busses etc.

True there are single girls everywhere, but you have to get chatting and use your dazzling wit and charm on them before inquiring as to their prospective availability for drinks. Running round asking randomers out willy nilly is a great way to get locked up imo.

NickNolte

fabbydabby wrote: »

I'm sorry but if I asked a girl out at a bus stop or in the queue at Spar she would back slowly away, laughing nervously. As would I, in this situation as I had it happen to me (and I was single at the time and she was alright looking too).

I was caught off guard and thought she was a complete nutbar. My gf is always on about the perv's and nut jobs she meets on busses etc.

True there are single girls everywhere, but you have to get chatting and use your dazzling wit and charm on them before inquiring as to their prospective availability for drinks. Running round asking randomers out willy nilly is a great way to get locked up imo.

That pretty much sums it up. Irish people, as friendly as we like to think ourselves, are socially insecure. In the States it's considered normal to chat someone up and ask them out. In Ireland, you'd be considered a 'nutbar'. The only way for for Irish people to get together is 1) through friends or work, 2) down the boozer or 3) through 'clubs, online activities, whatever'.

In this country, there's no straight approach with strangers. We're too socially isolated and close-minded.

As for 'we women like to be sought after'... do you also like to stay at home, clean the house and mind the kids like a traditional woman? Didn't think so. And you shouldn't either! Traditional roles have changed. Women are just as obliged to chat men up as men are to chat women up. The traditional male persuing female role is dead in the water ladies. Sorry. You've got to make the effort now as well :eek:

MIN2511

Typical night out scenario

Boy sees girl, boy likes girl, boy smiles at girl and girl smiles back

Boy waits until he's so intoxicated he cannot spell his middle name and then approaches girl, at this stage girl couldn't be bothered and or is rude(wrong)

OR

Boy waits until it's 2.30am(Club closes @ 3) to start chatting girl up... Obviously looking for a quick shag...

LegacyUser

MIN2511 wrote: »

Typical night out scenario

Boy sees girl, boy likes girl, boy smiles at girl and girl smiles back

Boy waits until he's so intoxicated he cannot spell his middle name and then approaches girl, at this stage girl couldn't be bothered and or is rude(wrong)

OR

Boy waits until it's 2.30am(Club closes @ 3) to start chatting girl up... Obviously looking for a quick shag...

If girl likes boy but is too afraid to approach him, why doesn't girl make it really obvious that she WANTS to be approached ... why doesn't girl wave at boy, or catch boy's eye and smile a few times.

Instead of just smiling back, which most people with manners would do.

NickNolte

MIN2511 wrote: »

Typical night out scenario

Boy sees girl, boy likes girl, boy smiles at girl and girl smiles back

Boy waits until he's so intoxicated he cannot spell his middle name and then approaches girl, at this stage girl couldn't be bothered and or is rude(wrong)

OR

Boy waits until it's 2.30am(Club closes @ 3) to start chatting girl up... Obviously looking for a quick shag...

Might be worth girl chatting up boy instead of expecting boy to risk all the rejection as usual.

DagneyTaggart

Join your local Macra Na Feirme branch.

token56

NickNolte wrote: »

The only way for for Irish people to get together is 1) through friends or work, 2) down the boozer or 3) through 'clubs, online activities, whatever'.

In this country, there's no straight approach with strangers. We're too socially isolated and close-minded.

I'd have to agree with this sentiment, granted there probably are women out there who wouldn't mind if a guy randomly approached them and asked them out, but they are certainly in the minority in this country.

To the OP, I would also recommend doing some Volunteering activities, its good to do, but you are also more likely to meet someone who is similar to you. Best of luck and you're not the only one in your situation.

eviltwin

Just get out there and try and meet as many people as you can. Try not to look on every woman you meet though as a potential date..we can usually pick up on that and its looks kinda desperate.

Its sometimes when you are least looking for or expecting to find someone that they appear.

Silverfish

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metaoblivia

Single women between the ages of 25-30 can be found in:
grocery stores, clothing shops, work, the gym, parks or hiking trails (on nice days), museums, art galleries, outdoor and indoor concerts, the beach, clubs, bars, pubs, crossing the street, bookstores, coffee shops, restaurants, and more places.

They're everywhere. Just start up a conversation with someone who looks interesting. The more you do it, the more comfortable it will become!

MIN2511

why ??? wrote: »

If girl likes boy but is too afraid to approach him, why doesn't girl make it really obvious that she WANTS to be approached ... why doesn't girl wave at boy, or catch boy's eye and smile a few times.

Instead of just smiling back, which most people with manners would do.

Most girls feel when they wave means they are screaming 'DESPERATE'

NickNolte wrote: »

Might be worth girl chatting up boy instead of expecting boy to risk all the rejection as usual.

Catch 22 isn't it...
Lol...
I dunno, from what i hear lads don't like women 'chasing' them..... It's a doggy dog world


OP; a few places come to mind...
Dicey Riley's on Thursday's is jammers! So many men and women

Fago!

MIN2511 wrote: »

OP; a few places come to mind...
Dicey Riley's on Thursday's is jammers! So many men and women

Ha I scored there last Thursday.

Yeah I can't agree more with the dude who said:

Might be worth girl chatting up boy instead of expecting boy to risk all the rejection as usual.

It's a joke. Women have the power. Men don't.

SoWatchaWant

MIN2511 wrote: »

Most girls feel when they wave means they are screaming 'DESPERATE'



Catch 22 isn't it...
Lol...
I dunno, from what i hear lads don't like women 'chasing' them..... It's a dog eat dog world


OP; a few places come to mind...
Dicey Riley's on Thursday's is jammers! So many men and women

Fixed your post there

Anyway OP, just break free of the shackles of superstitious Catholic Ireland and talk to anyone you like out of the blue if you like 'em.

scanlas

Street, shopping centre, waiting room at doctor's, gym, sauna, pub, club, DVD shop, park, snooker hall, bowling alley, STD clinic, any random office you could stroll into without ID, swimming pool, circus, zoo, the dentist, the vet., the dole office.

My point is you can meet women anywhere?

Ask yourself when you see an attractive woman walking by you on the street why you don't talk to her? Who's rules are you living your life by, yours or someone else's.

fabbydabby

I would be surprised if women in an STD clinic would be in a frame of mind where they are open to advances from a prospective partner. There's potentially a lot not right about this hypothetical situation.

Prove me wrong!

seraphimvc

NickNolte wrote: »

That pretty much sums it up. Irish people, as friendly as we like to think ourselves, are socially insecure. In the States it's considered normal to chat someone up and ask them out. In Ireland, you'd be considered a 'nutbar'. The only way for for Irish people to get together is 1) through friends or work, 2) down the boozer or 3) through 'clubs, online activities, whatever'.

In this country, there's no straight approach with strangers. We're too socially isolated and close-minded.

As for 'we women like to be sought after'... do you also like to stay at home, clean the house and mind the kids like a traditional woman? Didn't think so. And you shouldn't either! Traditional roles have changed. Women are just as obliged to chat men up as men are to chat women up. The traditional male persuing female role is dead in the water ladies. Sorry. You've got to make the effort now as well :eek:

+10000

god! how many times i ve told this to my friends!!!

but there is 1 thing for sure tho,after all these years,people have been improving,but,
still a long long long long way to go to the 'normal' standard.

as an irish,you get your wimmin in pubs/clubs,that's life here OP (oh i am dead serious when saying this!!)

RossFixxxed

I'm sure a lot of guys wouldn't object that a girl asked him out. Worst case scenario they're not interested but it's an ego boost.

No women don't have all the power, how many single women are out there looking for a nice guy? eh? And acting like that gives them all the power. There shouldn't even be a childish 'power' thing there, are you reading that PUA stuff? It should be two people talking to each other like... God people mire this stuff in such layers of stupid complexity. If you like someone and it seems like an ok time and place go for it! There's always 10000000 reasons not to, but they won't help when you're all alone. Everyone likes friendly confidence.

And yes there are exceptions where you wouldn't ask someone out (funeral, STD clinic above) but using those exceptions as justification for the cowardice to do it is just another cop out.

I never can get my head around the stupid soap opera stuff people come up with. It's just hiding. We're not writing a western here people. It's just asking for a date.