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Gf & Facebook

  • 17-10-2009 11:56pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all. Regular boards poster, in a bit of a quandry.

    I've been going out with my gf for the best part of a year and things are, I think, going well. We argue, like all couples, but never anything serious and most of our squabbles are because we live so far away from each other. We see each other for, maybe, two nights a week but I always thought we were solid because we're great when we're together.

    When I saw her this week, we watched something on her laptop and while she was online, something popped up on her facebook. I didn't see much, only a picture of a guy I didn't recognise and her exiting out of it very quickly. I got suspicious so, today, I logged into facebook as her. I guessed her password.

    I read through the conversations that she's had with this guy, and from what I can tell they've had phone sex. At least. To be fair, he is more eager than her but she's not saying no to him either. He doesn't live where she does but I know she's spent time where he does live (she's worked there in the past).

    I know I shouldn't have done what I did, I know it's wrong, but something about her reactions the last night rang alarm bells. I know don't know what to think about us, at all. What should I do?


Comments

  • #2
    racheypachey
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22 ✭racheypachey


    You will have to confront her about it. It sounds very dodgy and you will have to admit what you did too, good luck!


  • #3
    Sephiroth_dude
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 81,083 Mod ✭✭✭✭Sephiroth_dude


    Yup,confront her and ask her whats going on.


  • #4
    ManOfMystery
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,394 ✭✭✭ManOfMystery


    No doubt the moral brigade will be along shortly to lambast you for daring to snoop on her Facebook, but the truth of the matter is that she blatantly and obviously tried to hide something from you - so IMO you had every right to take a look. People in committed relationships who are honest and loyal generally have nothing to hide. So +1 to the above posts, I would bring it up with her also.


  • #5
    Gone Drinking
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,811 ✭✭✭Gone Drinking


    I agree with everyone else, you'll probably get the "how dare you look at her stuff?" brigade in.. but in my mind, you had every right when you suspected something and were correct.

    Say it to her, see what her story is, decide from there.


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