facebook & friend requests

ciagr297

hi all,
just wondering what you think of this one....a guy i kinda know (in the biblical sense) sent me a friend request. i didn't expect to hear from him so i was surprised. it also gave me an expectation of further contact but nada.

i just find this really weird, what do you think?

now i feel a bit puzzled and a small bit let down

Kalashnikov_Kid

Just think about it a bit more and you'll be just fine...

liah

It happens a lot. I get a lot of adds from random people who... just don't say anything afterwards. I don't really see the point-- I don't ever add people myself-- but I don't really put too much thought into it.

A lot of people do it just to show that they have a bazillion friends. Majority of the time it means sweet fúck all.

minidazzler

Depends really. What does the Biblical sense mean?

He's probably just one of those people who need everyone they know to be a Facebook friend though.

I let people add me and If I like them and am not hiding from them, I will add them back.

ZzubZzub

Alot of people are just facebook friend whores! A friend of my brothers friend added me only because we've friends in common. Never message him, never anything from him. I have stopped accepting requests from people I don't actually know. I don't understand why people add people they have no intention of contacting!

ciagr297

Kalashnikov_Kid wrote: »

Just think about it a bit more and you'll be just fine...

seriously or sarcasm?

this had never happened to me before so i was wondering if anyone else had a similiar experience or is it some new trend i wasn't aware of

shellyboo

minidazzler wrote: »

Depends really. What does the Biblical sense mean?

She slept with him. Carnal knowledge.

No point reading into these things. Do you strategically plan every single Facebook action you make and carefully consider the implications of each click? Cos nobody does.

minidazzler

shellyboo wrote: »

She slept with him. Carnal knowledge.

No point reading into these things. Do you strategically plan every single Facebook action you make and carefully consider the implications of each click? Cos nobody does.

Well, I have a new catchphrase anyway!!!:D

ciagr297

shellyboo wrote: »

No point reading into these things. Do you strategically plan every single Facebook action you make and carefully consider the implications of each click? Cos nobody does.

no i don't but i've also never had it happen this way
just thought it was a bit weird. i mean, i wouldn't have bothered contacting him this way

shellyboo

ciagr297 wrote: »

no i don't but i've also never had it happen this way
just thought it was a bit weird. i mean, i wouldn't have bothered contacting him this way

Well... he did bother. *shrug*

I just don't see what the issue is really.

ciagr297

shellyboo wrote: »

Well... he did bother. *shrug*

I just don't see what the issue is really.

*shrug*
it was just a question

MissFlitworth

Facebook have a facility where they'll go through your entire gmail address book and send them all invites, he might have sent you an invite because he didn't go down through the list and untick people. I've gotten an invite from someone I was durned sure didn't want to be my facebook buddy (terrible, terrible blind date, followed by a night of drunken text stalking him, the lucky bunny) that way

*Makes mental note to find out if any past conquests have decent Mafias.*

LadyE

Moonbaby wrote: »

*Makes mental note to find out if any past conquests have decent Mafias.*

Do you have a decent mafia?

liah

Haha, if anyone wants to add me to add to their Mafia, I won't complain..

Handsome Bob

MissFlitworth wrote: »

Facebook have a facility where they'll go through your entire gmail address book and send them all invites, he might have sent you an invite because he didn't go down through the list and untick people. I've gotten an invite from someone I was durned sure didn't want to be my facebook buddy (terrible, terrible blind date, followed by a night of drunken text stalking him, the lucky bunny) that way

You don't want to do that. When I was working in a company back in 2006 IT were a bit slow setting me up with a e-mail account. So for a while I was using my own personal account to give details to HR. One night I signed up for a social networking site and without thinking I ticked the box of "Send invites to everyone in your e-mail address book?" I sent Bebo invites to HR, which in turn provoked mass meetings with staff about the proper use of the internet.

Snowie

i think you got say hello tho he might say well i like her so il add her if she accepts well Il reply kinda thing

Madame Razz

Face-Ache.

'Nuff said:p

LadyE

LadyE wrote: »

Do you have a decent mafia?

Ya interested? :pac:

pikachucheeks

shellyboo wrote: »

Do you strategically plan every single Facebook action you make and carefully consider the implications of each click? Cos nobody does.

I actually do, to an extent. I'm usually quite careful with what I post and what photos I'm tagged in, because of certain people on my friends list (my mum, friends of my parents I felt obliged to accept as friends, relatives etc...)
While I'm all for having fun on a night out, I don't want photographic evidence of me being a bit wild on Facebook the next day! Because it's guaranteed one of said "certain people" will see them - and leave comments!

Personally, I don't accept people I don't know, with the exception of people from Boards, if I've spoken to them before. If someone I know who I don't particularly like adds me, I'll usually accept them... then delete them a week or two later!
None of them have ever called me up on it, but if they did, I'd just blame Facebook...

Professey Chin

pikachucheeks wrote: »

Personally, I don't accept people I don't know, with the exception of people from Boards, if I've spoken to them before. If someone I know who I don't particularly like adds me, I'll usually accept them... then delete them a week or two later!
None of them have ever called me up on it, but if they did, I'd just blame Facebook...

I KNEW IT!!!!:eek::mad::(:pac:

pikachucheeks

Ultimate Chin wrote: »

I KNEW IT!!!!:eek::mad::(:pac:

You're still on my friends list!

...only for another two days

I just set it up so that noone can ask me to be their friend. Saves the awkwardness! If I ask you to be mine - you should feel special :pac:

rannerap

i know everyone thats on my facebook,havent gotten too many friend requests from people i dont know,if i do i just decline,my whole family and a load of relations is on my friends list though so i sometimes have to take care of what i say,dont really care about them seeing awful drunken photos of me though,my mam and step dad just think theyre funny and leave comments,theyve come out on nights out before,love having liberal parents:D

Professey Chin

pikachucheeks wrote: »

You're still on my friends list!

...only for another two days

That sounds about right :pac:

pikachucheeks

Sarannewrap wrote: »

dont really care about them seeing awful drunken photos of me though,my mam and step dad just think theyre funny and leave comments,theyve come out on nights out before,love having liberal parents:D

My mum leaves comments on my pictures all the time!
"You're so vain" ... things like that! Makes me laugh!

She also texts me or sends me a mail message when someone of interest comments on my page.
"Who's he?" "That guy's not bad looking, what's the story with him?"

So hilarious, but so embarrassing at the same time!
:pac:

Clare Bear

pikachucheeks wrote: »

My mum leaves comments on my pictures all the time!
"You're so vain" ... things like that! Makes me laugh!

She also texts me or sends me a mail message when someone of interest comments on my page.
"Who's he?" "That guy's not bad looking, what's the story with him?"

So hilarious, but so embarrassing at the same time!
:pac:

lol That's cute. Thank God my mother hasn't discovered the wonders of Facebook, she'd disect every little detail on my page and have me pregnant in 0.2 seconds!

TimTim

The general rule for accepting friend requests is that I have to have met the person before. I don't buy the friend of a friend excuse.

stovelid

I use facebook as I find it handy for letting my relatives and oversea mates see and comment on photos of my family.

I do get the odd request that I can't fathom. For example, a brother of a friend. Last time I saw the brother he was 5.

I don't lose sleep about it though. So what? I usually put them on limited access (don't let them see photos etc.), and if they are really egregious and have millions of mates, just quietly delete them a few months later. They won't notice. Anybody with over 50 friends can hardly check them all.

Not a big deal really.

Dudess

stovelid wrote: »

just quietly delete them a few months later.

That's exactly what I do. I get quite a lot of friend requests from people I don't even know - mostly former schoolmates whom I haven't seen since the day I left school. Ignoring the first request often doesn't work, as a second one may follow. And to ignore that is really putting yourself on their radar - so the safest bet is to accept and delete a while later. There's never another word from them once they're added - they couldn't be more blatant about wanting to increase their friend count. :pac:
I did write a message on the wall of one of them - no response.

I need to do a major cull actually...

pow wow

You know you have too many 'friends' on your list when the total number goes down on your profile page but you can't for the life of you figure out who is missing

That email friendfinder thing is the work of the devil, many an ex has come up on my facebook radar because of it. For that reason I don't add anyone anymore...I let them come to me :P

Handsome Bob

stovelid wrote: »

I do get the odd request that I can't fathom. For example, a brother of a friend. Last time I saw the brother he was 5.

I've gotten friend requests from friends of my brother who I've never had a conversation with. Requests from people I went to primary school with but never actually hung around with. Requests from people who I didn't even get on with, and I'm sure the feeling was mutual! Facebook provokes madness in people. :P

LZ5by5

LZ5by5 wrote: »

I've gotten friend requests from friends of my brother who I've never had a conversation with. Requests from people I went to primary school with but never actually hung around with. Requests from people who I didn't even get on with, and I'm sure the feeling was mutual! Facebook provokes madness in people. :P

I did a research program with this highly strung physicist a couple of years back. I wasn't in the same institue, but we shared the same social group.
He was the kind of guy who would sit beside you and refuse to talk, unless you engaged him on the topic of quantum mechanics. At which point he would thank you for being capable of making intelligent conversation with him.

Anyways I tried to chat to him once, and he quickly ascertained I wasn't capable. So he blanked me, but we couldn't move seats. So it was a painfully awkward evening. This was the height of our social interaction and I never saw him again. (Touch wood)

A year and a half later I get a facebook addy. I thought he might want something so I added him. Nope....just wanted a "friend"

Alessandra

I only add people I know/or have spoken to before. When someone adds me who I know but don't like I'll accept but put them on a limited profile setting. Often friends of friends who meet on nights out will add me or I'll add them to swap pictures probably never to meet them again! One of my friends regularly has a "facebook cull" deleting people she doesn't really know/doesn't like. I don't care how many facebook friends I have to be honest. It means nothing in the real world. The guy probably added you to increase his friends list. I wouldn't read too much into it though.

Handsome Bob

Moonbaby wrote: »

Anyways I tried to chat to him once, and he quickly ascertained I wasn't capable. So he blanked me, but we couldn't move seats. So it was a painfully awkward evening. This was the height of our social interaction and I never saw him again. (Touch wood)

A year and a half later I get a facebook addy. I thought he might want something so I added him. Nope....just wanted a "friend"

Jesus, what a snobby git! I have no time for that kind of behaviour, you should have ignored his friend request just based on that interaction alone.

Alessandra wrote: »

I only add people I know/or have spoken to before. When someone adds me who I know but don't like I'll accept but put them on a limited profile setting. Often friends of friends who meet on nights out will add me or I'll add them to swap pictures probably never to meet them again! One of my friends regularly has a "facebook cull" deleting people she doesn't really know/doesn't like. I don't care how many facebook friends I have to be honest. It means nothing in the real world. The guy probably added you to increase his friends list. I wouldn't read too much into it though.

I feel really uncomfortable when it comes to friend requests from certain people. I wouldn't get on with them but they would be within my circle, if I ignore their request it might upset a mutual friend of ours. Or it might make for some uncomfortable nights when we are all out together.

Larianne

Dudess wrote: »

That's exactly what I do. I get quite a lot of friend requests from people I don't even know - mostly former schoolmates whom I haven't seen since the day I left school. Ignoring the first request often doesn't work, as a second one may follow. And to ignore that is really putting yourself on their radar - so the safest bet is to accept and delete a while later. There's never another word from them once they're added - they couldn't be more blatant about wanting to increase their friend count. :pac:
I did write a message on the wall of one of them - no response.

I need to do a major cull actually...

I think it's not really just to have more 'friends'. A lot of it is noseyness! I've had people from my school request me as a friend so I'd accept and send them a message and never get a reply. They just want to see what I'm at these days, that's it. I say feck that! I don't request any friends now either (oh except my new college buds)

Will

I knew something was wrong when i'd over 500 "friends" on facebook. Did a few culling sessions and have about 150 now. Probably need to do another cull. Out of all my friends on facebook I'd say I talk to about half or more.

I am very suspicious of facebook, like tinfoil hat suspicious. It tracks a lot of things you do within your browser if you have the facebook page open. I was on kongregate.com (flash game site) and had facebook open, it wanted to tell people that I was playing "Dolphin olympics 2" which is fine but just made me quite aware of it's powah! :pac:

One girl I have no time for anymore keeps sending requests to be my friend. She isn't getting the picture. I've all my security settings on it also so only people I'm direct friends with can access my page, pics etc

Dudess

Larianne wrote: »

I think it's not really just to have more 'friends'. A lot of it is noseyness! I've had people from my school request me as a friend so I'd accept and send them a message and never get a reply. They just want to see what I'm at these days, that's it.

Yeah, you're probably right - you'd think they'd send a quick message though if they're genuinely interested in what I'm up to...

Nervous Wreck

The only person on my friends list I'd be dodgey about seeing some things would be a work colleague.... Which is why I generally keep any work type talk vague (and don't blatantly slag her!). Apart from that, I've got my sister, brother and a lot of cousins on my list. My sis and bro know me really well and are generally really amused by my ramblings, pictures etc and my cousins... well I accepted them out of politeness and don't really give a fúck what they think cos they're mostly morons. Not that I don't love them in that mandatory, familial way.......

But yeah, I don't accept adds from people I don't know and the ones I don't like will generally be deleted soon thereafter....

shoegirl

liah wrote: »

A lot of people do it just to show that they have a bazillion friends. Majority of the time it means sweet fúck all.

And a lot of time in reality the "friends" are random strangers they hardly know, which means they are idiots for exposing their personal information to relative strangers.

Handsome Bob

shoegirl wrote: »

And a lot of time in reality the "friends" are random strangers they hardly know, which means they are idiots for exposing their personal information to relative strangers.

One of my friends has over 300 friends and I made a passing comment about her being popular. She responded by saying she went to a small school where everyone knew each other and that she doesn't even talk to most of them. :eek:

itac

I was getting that "randomers-from-school-i've-not-spoken-to-in-10+yrs" earlier this year, and went through all the privacy settings, so I'm pretty much invisible on there. The only way someone can add me is either by knowing my email address, or by me inviting them. Made life so much easier, because it stopped requests from all the people who wouldn't say hello to me on the street, yet wanted to "be my friend"! I'd seriously recommend it for anyone whose head is wrecked by people from years ago wanting to make friends!

LZ5by5, totally get your comment about mutual friends & not wanting to block/delete them-can make things kinda awkward, especially if you're from somewhere small/in a certain group....feels to me like it's replaced the old childhood thing of who to invite to your birthday party etc!

Creamy Goodness

i accept anyone i've met in real life, but i never really add anyone cause i always think about what that other person might be thinking when they see the request.

"like he wants to be friends, why the hell does he want to be friends etc."

Pinky Pixie

I recently accepted a guy, just out of curiosity, that I was dating on/off for a good while about two years ago! Had a boyfriend when I added him. I emailed him saying "blast from the past, are you stalking me again? How's life" and he emailed me back saying that "he has tanked up his big guns and life is super".

Randomer!! We don't have any friends in common and I couldn't even remember his last name. All a bit strange. Facebook is an odd place!:)

Larianne

LZ5by5 wrote: »

One of my friends has over 300 friends and I made a passing comment about her being popular. She responded by saying she went to a small school where everyone knew each other and that she doesn't even talk to most of them. :eek:

One of my cousins in America has 1,173 friends! :eek: I mean c'mon.

Dudess

Yeah, I've over 100 friends, and even with the impending cull, I'm feeling damn popular - but I'm a loner compared to many members... :pac:

It's a really handy tool for networking if you're in a media/sales type job, but otherwise... some peope presumably try to add everyone they've ever met.

Whatever about Facebook friend requests from people I barely know, is anyone getting constant adds from people they've never even heard of on Twitter? I really must delete my Twitter account as I've never once used it (and only signed up because I believed the hype ).

Gauge

Twitter is fun because you can sort of analyse what triggers people to follow you (if your tweets are public). I get a few random people adding me every time I tweet something with a word like "iphone". And I got a bunch of follows when Alan Carr responded to me. Whenever I get a few new followers at once, I like to figure out what caused them. It's pointless but it satisfies my inner data analyst

Twitter is full of spammers though, which is probably why there are so many junk friend/follow requests.

I have a "only people I know in real life" policy when it comes to friends on Facebook, and sometimes I'm amazed at the random requests from people I never spoke to or didn't even got along with from secondary school and occasionally primary school! I don't accept them usually and some of my friends are baffled by this- I know it's a bit contradictory to say that I like my privacy when I have a facebook profile, but I do, and I don't want absolutely everyone being able to check out my photos and whatnot.

Though sometimes I'm tempted to add strangers just to get more Farmville friends

Dudess

Gauge wrote: »

Twitter is fun because you can sort of analyse what triggers people to follow you (if your tweets are public). I get a few random people adding me every time I tweet something with a word like "iphone". And I got a bunch of follows when Alan Carr responded to me. Whenever I get a few new followers at once, I like to figure out what caused them. It's pointless but it satisfies my inner data analyst

That actually is kinda cool.
What did Alan Carr respond to?

Though sometimes I'm tempted to add strangers just to get more Farmville friends

What's the deal with Farmville?

Creamy Goodness

i had stephenfry reply to me, suffice to say i jizzed my pants.

for the record he tweeted that he had just finished recording the last episode in the upcoming G series of QI and i asked when was it on the air. he replied with around november/december time.

4zn76tysfajdxp

Dudess wrote: »

What's the deal with Farmville?

What's the deal is with any of those games on Facebook, I ask? Especially all the updates that come up on your Feed, I honestly couldn't less of a shit if someone else found a pheasant on their farm if I tried.

CoachBoone

Its all about lamebook.

Farmville, Mafia, "is a fan of", constant status updating, getting added by club nights/alumni politicians.

The joys.