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confusion

  • 15-10-2009 1:44pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    going unreg for this. Would value outside opinions


    I am a parent of 2 children and doing shared parenting for 18 months. Seems as amicable as can be.

    Had occasion to spend time with someone I have known for years recently while away with a group and i am now confused. Heres the story

    We got chatting one evening and the honesty was frightening. Spent time again 2 nights later and only we were interrupted we could still be there.

    When we got back we met up and basically spilled our guts out to each other about our situations. She is lone parenting and further down the road than me.

    We texted and hers were ending with an x but i thought nothing of it at the time. I had to move flat and there was a lot going on.

    Ran into her about 10 days later and my stomach summersaulted. First time I felt that in years.

    Asked her to lunch at short notice. She couldnt make it she said but another time. We kept texting and the x s dissappeared. I thought maybe the inital situation was calming down.

    Anyway last week enquired about a coffee/lunch. Got immediat reply as she always does( no game playing going on) and suggested the following day. Did meet up and seemed fine.

    Question is basically whats going on. She is a client of mine through her child( i am in education) and dont know what to do. Havent been in this type of a sitiuation for nearly 20 years.

    I know a number of very wise and sensible people who may be able to see the wood that i cant because of the trees. If you can I would appreciate your imput.

    Thank you


Comments

  • #2
    jellyboy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 615 ✭✭✭jellyboy


    Hi op
    ifs shes a client of yours ,is there anything to stop you from contacting her to ask her out,like ethics etc etc...

    My personal feeling is to tell her what you have typed here,stop reading into the txts, you are creating a false world based on your fear/s...


    it is allways a scary thing to do to be honest with yourself and put your heart on the line....but the rewards are worth it...


    Go for it ...life is a blink of the eye


  • #3
    themusicman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68 ✭✭themusicman


    jellyboy wrote: »
    Hi op
    ifs shes a client of yours ,is there anything to stop you from contacting her to ask her out,like ethics etc etc...

    My personal feeling is to tell her what you have typed here,stop reading into the txts, you are creating a false world based on your fear/s...


    it is allways a scary thing to do to be honest with yourself and put your heart on the line....but the rewards are worth it...


    Go for it ...life is a blink of the eye

    Reading this i dont think there is an ethical issue. she is the parent of a child the op teaches as far as I can see and thats not an issue. However it may be akward whatever the result is.

    IMHO the messages are indeed confusing. Straight up is the way forward even if it is the hard one. Better not to die wondering


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