So Cross

Elbi

Ok I’m posting here because I’m very annoyed and I can’t see why im so bothered about this is,

I was going out with a guy for 5 years but for the last two years we have been finished, in that time he made many attempts to get us back together and even tried to ruin other relationships I have had by constant ringing and texting. Anyway we made friends and stayed on a friendly basis until he met another girl (about a year ago) he then text to say he met her they were going out and he wanted nothing more to do with me, No skin off my nose but was a bit cross by his attitude.
Anyway they had been off and on for the year but about a month ago he got in contact with me and told me they were finished, he realised that he only loved me and couldn’t be with anyone else because he can’t get me out of his head blah blah blah. I took no notice just sent a few smart ones back so after about 2 weeks of telling me he loved me and me ignoring me he texts and said he really loved me and was there any chance so instead of being smart I said straight out “I don’t have any feelings for you, not even as a friend there is no way we’d ever get back together”
Next day he texts me saying himself and the ex are back together and they are ENGAGED. I obviously was shocked and text saying I was shocked that only the night before he was texting me asking me to give it another go and all he text back was “but you didn’t”. . . . .

Ok im mad over this and I don’t really know why. Its not that I wanted to get back with him or that I have any feelings whatsoever for him so I can’t understand why im so cross.
Any ideas?

Sorry for the long rambling post.

ManOfMystery

You're cross because you've realised deep down that this guy meant nothing he said and was only trying to play with your feelings. I would be angry too. Good for you for not giving in to him. From now on, I would just ignore any texts/calls from him completely and don't answer - he'll soon tire of trying. He obviously gets some kind of kick out of trying to manipulate people.

MizzLolly

He sounds like a rotten, horrible man. Well done to you for telling him where to go, not many women would do that. Just completely ignore him. You can rest assured that this fella is not getting married any time soon and that you've missed out on nothing worth having. What an absolute pig!

I think the reason it hurts you is because he's shown such little regard for your feelings. Telling someone that you love them and then getting engaged to someone else the next day shows that the man is incapable of really loving anyone at the minute. It's making you angry because he's been lying to you and trying to make you trust him again, even though he doesn't have your best intentions at heart.

Keep ignoring him. He's an absolute idiot. Just go focus on your own relationships and don't let this fella ruin anymore.

kittenkiller

If someone tells you they love you it's flattering, even if you don't reciprocate.
In this case you were probably a little flattered if you push past the annoyance.
Now that you've discovered what a loser he is by his blatant attempt to get even with you for rejecting him, there's a lot less flattery in his declaration of everlasting love.

I'm a right cow sometimes, if it was me in your situation, I'd call him all upset, tell him you never knew how much he meant to you until you thought you'd lost him for good, ask him out, get him to call off the engagement, possible get some textual or video evidence and then tell him it was all a hoax. But like I said, I'm just a cow really!

Elbi

Thanks for all the advice and kind words, I thought maybe i was a mental case for lettin this bother me, im not upset about it or anything just cross,

Thanks Kittenkiller, sometimes you would feel like getting one over on him but I really couldnt be bothered, I did have all the texts saved in my phone but i decided to delete them the other day, there is no point in me causing any trouble for that poor girl, she obviously has her work cut out for her being with him.

Thanks again guys i feel alot better now,

Oh The Humanity

Aw God, what a twonk. Thats being polite.

You did right in sending him that text telling him he meant nothing to you.

I'd say you feel irritated he once again tried to invade your life with his bull$hit.

With these types (drama addicts) the one thing they hate is to be totally ignored so just never reply to any of his texts again, even if he sends 20 in one night and you feel sorry for him!

bronte

I wouldn't fancy being his fiance! You are well rid.

Elbi

Oh The Humanity wrote: »

Aw God, what a twonk. Thats being polite.

You did right in sending him that text telling him he meant nothing to you.

I'd say you feel irritated he once again tried to invade your life with his bull$hit.

With these types (drama addicts) the one thing they hate is to be totally ignored so just never reply to any of his texts again, even if he sends 20 in one night and you feel sorry for him!

He hasnt sent any more texts now or anything but i was shotting last night and himself, hte girlfriend and her kid were in the shop also and he passed me at one stage and waved (she wasnt with him) but i just kept on looking for my stuff i acted like i didnt even see him, then im wondering was that wrong...
see the girl he is with now is an old childhood friend (we havent seen each other in a long time, years) but when there were together only a few months myself and him were still on friendly terms, i saw them on a night out and as we were walking past i just said "Hi lads" and smiled to bothe of them like and in turn she gave the worst dirty look i have ever seen so besides the fact that he totally irritates the life out of me and he is acting like a right ape I wouldn never acknowledge him or her ever

Oh The Humanity

Elbi wrote: »

He hasnt sent any more texts now or anything but i was shotting last night and himself, hte girlfriend and her kid were in the shop also and he passed me at one stage and waved (she wasnt with him) but i just kept on looking for my stuff i acted like i didnt even see him, then im wondering was that wrong...
see the girl he is with now is an old childhood friend (we havent seen each other in a long time, years) but when there were together only a few months myself and him were still on friendly terms, i saw them on a night out and as we were walking past i just said "Hi lads" and smiled to bothe of them like and in turn she gave the worst dirty look i have ever seen so besides the fact that he totally irritates the life out of me and he is acting like a right ape I wouldn never acknowledge him or her ever

Awkward but worth it.

Its a pity you see them round and about. But you are doing right.