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Love??

  • 14-10-2009 11:34pm
    #1
    qwerty2
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    Hi ladies, I've got three questions for you so please bear with me!

    1. I've been in a relationship for 3 months now, but don't feel like I'm "in love" with my boyfriend and I don't know what to say back to him without hurting his feelings when he says he loves me? I just don't want to say it if I don't mean it, but also don't want to upset him! Any advice??

    2. Whenever im talking to or texting my boyfriend, even when I'm just thinking about him during the day, I often find myself thinking "I love you". However, when it comes to saying those three words to him I always find myself restraining? Anyone else experience this or is it just me not ready to commit to saying it yet?

    3. How long did it take for you to feel that you were ready to tell your partner those special three words??


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  • #2
    Jules
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    Moved from tLL.


  • #3
    Nervous Wreck
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,115 ✭✭✭✭Nervous Wreck


    qwerty2 wrote: »
    Hi ladies, I've got three questions for you so please bear with me!

    1. I've been in a relationship for 3 months now, but don't feel like I'm "in love" with my boyfriend and I don't know what to say back to him without hurting his feelings when he says he loves me? I just don't want to say it if I don't mean it, but also don't want to upset him! Any advice??

    Perfectly normal to not be in love with someone after only 3 short months. Would find it awkward to have someone say it to me so soon if it wasn't totally reciprocal tbh. If you don't want to make a big deal about it, just kiss him or whatever when he says it. Personally, I'd find that awkward and would probably opt for the more honest "Look I'm not ready to say that yet but when I am...." etc convo. It'd weird me out otherwise.
    qwerty2 wrote: »
    2. Whenever im talking to or texting my boyfriend, even when I'm just thinking about him during the day, I often find myself thinking "I love you". However, when it comes to saying those three words to him I always find myself restraining? Anyone else experience this or is it just me not ready to commit to saying it yet?


    IME, thinking this but not being able/willing to say it is a sign of one thing and one thing only: wanting to be in love. You can't force yourself. If/when you feel like you need to say it, that's when you should (for me anyway) but tbh, I've felt like saying it to girls on the second date before. Not because I legitimately loved them; just cos I've been in love before and I'd love to feel it again. Sometimes the excitement at the prospect takes over and makes you feel like you want to say it. But you'd likely want to take it back hours if not minutes (or even seconds) later. It's just impulse really.

    qwerty2 wrote: »
    3. How long did it take for you to feel that you were ready to tell your partner those special three words??

    I reckon this varies not only from person to person but from one relationship to another. It's not by any means a requisite of a relationship, though people seem to treat it like it is. Sometimes it's okay to just really like/enjoy somebody. You don't love everyone you like, just like you don't hate everyone you dislike.


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