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Struggling with everyday life

  • 12-10-2009 8:17pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm a female in my early 20's. All my life, I've struggled with my moods, I've had huge family troubles...death, abuse and other physcological things that have gone through my family.

    I feel as if everything has got on top of me...I've been to various different councellors and doctors but I still don't feel as if my mood has lifted in any way, I've been seeing these professionals now for almost two years and have been on various meds for 18 months.

    In the last few days, I feel as if in some sense that I've slipped into old habits...well not as such old habits but things I havn't done in a few weeks. I've started to cut myself again. It has also got to the stage where I have passed out on a few occasions and I've been told it's down to stress!!

    I have had a few weeks where I really tried to avoid doing this to myself and it worked. But all of a sudden everything just got on top of me again....

    I have tried various things like exercising, dieting (I never had an adequate B vitamin intake, or any intake for that matter!) In the short-term this worked, but I feel as if I've lost a grip on things completely.

    I am not here to look for medical advice, I know it's against the forum charter. But, I was wondering if anybody has been in a similar situation and how did they get past this.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    Ye Ive been there.
    There is so much you can do and so much chance of you feeling much better in a surprisingly short space of time.
    One book I recommend is 'depression for dummies'. Ive read quite a view books and stress, depression, CBT, meditation. I really found this book good. It is written with a very positive slant.
    Ultimately what you need to do is pretty basic. Exercise, diet, talking, spending time with friends or with people, talking about your problems, CBT, meditation, aware meetings. Give it the whole blast and you will improve and be so proud of yourself. When you do all these things depression just doesnt stand a chance. Let me know how you get on.


  • #3
    Fiend-Foe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 481 ✭✭Fiend-Foe


    Unregistered wrote: »
    Ye Ive been there.
    There is so much you can do and so much chance of you feeling much better in a surprisingly short space of time.
    One book I recommend is 'depression for dummies'. Ive read quite a view books and stress, depression, CBT, meditation. I really found this book good. It is written with a very positive slant.
    Ultimately what you need to do is pretty basic. Exercise, diet, talking, spending time with friends or with people, talking about your problems, CBT, meditation, aware meetings. Give it the whole blast and you will improve and be so proud of yourself. When you do all these things depression just doesnt stand a chance. Let me know how you get on.

    +1 CBT

    I was in the same boat for most of my teens, early 20's. I had lots of problems. I had a rough time with family problems, confidence and self esteem issues. Cognitive behavioural therapy really helped me, its the only thing that really worked. I tried all the meds etc, never found one that fully worked, just made things bearable. I self medicated with alcohol and drugs and abused these, which of course caused a vicious cycle. Lost jobs because of depression. Now I'm medication free and doing great. Haven't felt depressed or had low moods in a long time, my entire outlook has changed. I've stopped allowing my past to affect me. Seriously speak to your GP about this, it really does help. Best of luck.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thank you for your replies. I though for a while there I was on my own!
    I feel it's a case of being able to control my day to day mood, thats the part I'm struggling with the most...If I get that in order I should be fine.

    I have read one or two books, but I find my concentration level is very poor for reading. So I try and stay away from that completely.

    I have already been out for a few walks today, 6.30am this morning, again at lunch and I also walked home from college. I can feel a bit of a difference, I have had actually time to process my thoughts, something I don't get to often.

    I think I might try and go to a different councellor, then again maybe I just need to speak up and stop wasting their time and my own.

    How have ye all got past this? Is there anything in particular I should do?


  • #5
    Fiend-Foe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 481 ✭✭Fiend-Foe


    stressedwoman wrote: »
    Thank you for your replies. I though for a while there I was on my own!

    You're not on your own, most of the population feel this way at some point in their life.
    stressedwoman wrote: »
    I feel it's a case of being able to control my day to day mood, thats the part I'm struggling with the most...If I get that in order I should be fine.

    Thats what CBT is all about, identifying the factors in your life which trigger depression and low moods and learning new ways to deal with them.


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