will i ever get over him?

LegacyUser

Me and my bf broke up after 3 years together in August and im just heartbroken ever since. I cant stop thinking of him and everything we had and all we had planned. I feel so weak that i cant accept its over and move on. I just cant see a light at the end of all this pain and heartache.

We had a great time together, had some issues but nothing really that bothered us. We were perfect for each other, our personalities were similar but with differences. Everyone said he was the perfect boyfriend and i was so lucky to have him.

Now we're over how long will it be before someone else snaps him up?? Im just heartbroken and in bits. He knows im having a bad time and so is he but he says there's no going back.

Will i ever get over this???

pistonsvox

Best find yourself a distraction...I find it hard even though I was with this girl for only less than 6 months then was on off from there and still gettin over it:rolleyes:

Its really overpowering i'd say for you at the moment, so just keep focusing on some other happy memory or book a trip away that you can look forward to.

Best of luck x

minidazzler

As long as you don't have contact with him eventually yes, you will get over him. I don't know how long it will take you though.

can i be frank

do you mind me asking whys you broke up?

hollis12

im sure you will, dont be stressing, first thing you need to do is get proper closure about it if you havent already!

LegacyUser

hi guys,

thanks for replies.

im abroad at the moment and we tried the LDR thing but it didnt work out, there were quite a few other niggly things also.. a bit of a trust issue also, and thats the straw that broke the camels back.

Thanks for your kind words sunflower but i really cant see a way out. Im absolutley miserable every day since (bar maybe one or two good days when he said he'd see how things are when i come home, now he's had the time to think he's only wanting friends nothing more with me) but im just heart broken.

I have two choices, 1) come home and cut the remaining 6 months off my round the world trip, give it a shot, accept it if it doesnt work out, move on and if needs be, move away. i feel i still have a little tiny bit of hope that if i come home it MAY work out and i think thats whats killing me. hes 100% sure that he wont change his mind and that this is over and all we can be friends.

option 2) cop the hell on to myself, im on a trip of a lifetime, i need to embrace this time, be selfish, do everything i've always wanted to do. enjoy it and just be free. worry about the future if it comes to that, when i come home.

now, obviously option 2 is the best and everybody tells me this and everyone i know is right,. but i cant shake my sense of loss. im actually making myself miserable and ruining my trip over this. i think i'd nearly be better off coming home so that i can sort myself out and maybe come back in a few years to come and finish the remaining 6 months.

were from teh same town, we have the same friends, he was a gentleman, everything i ever wanted, but i took him for granted at times.

i need him! i really do. im travelling solo - i need him for strength alone.

god im a mess

BraziliaNZ

hey OP. Heart goes out to you. May I just say that I went away a few years ago initially for a year, having left behind a girl I loved, and for the first few months I was working in NZ and it was winter and dark and I was alone and depressed and regretting leaving her etc. But eventually the darkness lifted and spring came and my mood lightened and I lived by the beach and life was never better. The worst thing I could have done was went home. I ended up away for 3 years. Now she's just a thing of the past, she's moved on, she is having/or has had a baby as far as I know, and I'm just happy she's happy, it would never have worked for us. Just try not to dwell on it, he's probably miserable too, but time will heal it always does.

AthAnRi

heart.hurts wrote: »

Me and my bf broke up after 3 years together in August and im just heartbroken ever since. I cant stop thinking of him and everything we had and all we had planned. I feel so weak that i cant accept its over and move on. I just cant see a light at the end of all this pain and heartache.

We had a great time together, had some issues but nothing really that bothered us. We were perfect for each other, our personalities were similar but with differences. Everyone said he was the perfect boyfriend and i was so lucky to have him.

Now we're over how long will it be before someone else snaps him up?? Im just heartbroken and in bits. He knows im having a bad time and so is he but he says there's no going back.

Will i ever get over this???

The Lord said When I am weak I am strong.

Of course you will get over it. It's a tried and trusted saying Time heals all wounds and it's true.

LegacyUser

hi op here again.

thanks so much for all replies, it helps to hear someone else has been through heartache and there is a way out the other end.

i know in my heart of hearts that i need to stay here, i need to appreciate what i have, i need to grow and be independent and on my own and start loving myself again. i just need it to sink into my brain!

going home now will do nothing for us, probably anger him and make me 10 times worse seeing him being ale to move on and me going backwards.

i hope so much that we get back together but he says it can never happen all we can ever be is friends..... i need to move on but im finding it impossible!

my friends have been amazing despite the time difference but they dont really know what to say to me any more, i know what i have to do im just not doing it.

im even annoying myself!! and im so tired, im so tired of feeling this way, of being weak and needing him and heartbroken!