Marriage advice your mother never gave you!

alexscott

[FONT=&quot]Comprise that it takes a community to raise a child? It doesn't end there. Much of the understanding that we get all through life comes from our community - our group of contacts, friends and mentors that we trust. In the past days, marriage advice for young couples would come from parents and grandparents, most of whom would have had very old, flourishing marriages themselves. They were extremely qualified to give marriage advice, and the advice they gave was well taken and employed. Obviously not every marriage was flourishing, even back then - but most people concur that marriages had a better possibility a few generations ago.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]These days, it may be up to us to amass our own marriage advice from various friends, family members, professionals and books. The good news is that there's bounty of advice out there, and much of it is good. At the same time, it may also be time to question some of the customary marriage advice that we've all heard at one time or another. For instance your mom or grand mom might have told you that you should not at all go to bed angry. The opinion is sound - we shouldn't hold resent or hold onto anger. Although taking this advice too accurately may go amiss too; problems can look more severe when you're tired. At times going to bed - even if you're still angry - might be just what you need to regain viewpoint.[/FONT]

smelltheglove

My parents split when I was young so rather than follow example, if I find myself in a situation that reminds me of my parents when I was young, I do the opposite, i.e. arguing in front of the kids, walk away instead, its not a nice memory to have.

Its all well and good looking at couples with fantastic relationships, but appearances can be deceiving and you never know what is behind closed doors so I personally think its best to watch examples of bad relationships and avoid them. I know it sounds silly but I use the concept in marriage and parenthood and so far so good.

How Strange

alexscott wrote: »

[FONT=&quot]In the past days, marriage advice for young couples would come from parents and grandparents, most of whom would have had very old, flourishing marriages themselves. They were extremely qualified to give marriage advice[/FONT]

:eek::P
I had one set of grand parents who used to bicker constantly and their communication was made up of grunts and the odd string of curses!

OP, hallmark may be interested in this sentimentality but you're romanticising a past that didn't really exist except in Hollywood movies