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  • 08-10-2009 11:48am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hello All,

    My BF is currently buying a house and has asked me to live with him. We're together about 9 months and I would stay at his place pretty much every night as it is. I love being with him and we have a great time together.

    He was looking at buying a house off the plans and it would prob be about 6 months before it would be ready. But now he's had an offer accepted on a house thats pretty much ready to go so it's looking like a matter of weeks.

    So now I'm getting a little bit worried about a few things and I don't know if I should move in.

    First off, I've lost my job recently and I'm really struggling. I'm living at home and I give what I can but I don't pay rent per say. I've told my bf that I don't want to move in if I can't pay my way. He says he wants me to move in anyway but I'm afraid that I could end up ebing out of work for months and he might get sick of me living in his house rent free, he might even grow to resent me.

    I'm also worried about what people like his family would think of me living off him or whatever.

    I've been in ltr's and lived with someone before but I've never felt as strongly about anyone as I do my current bf. We've talked about marriage and kids and he's the first person I ever really saw myself having those things with so I really don't want to mess it up.


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  • #2
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    moveinornot wrote: »
    I'm also worried about what people like his family would think of me living off him or whatever.

    Life is too short to care about what other people think of how you live your life.
    Stop caring about inconsequential stuff today!
    I've never felt as strongly about anyone as I do my current bf. We've talked about marriage and kids and he's the first person I ever really saw myself having those things with so I really don't want to mess it up.

    I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who considers straight up honesty a wonderful thing.
    Tell him all your concerns and what you are feeling.
    When you have done, tell him to think about what he is offering and come back to you after he does.


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