That time of the Month..

LegacyUser

Hey,

So it’s the international brake in the footie..doom and gloom I tell you!

But that is a small aside in this case, the more serious problem I am having lately is a recurring one, a common theme since the start of our relationship I suppose that I figured would change with time. Also I was pretty happy with the arrangement in the dating phase.

Basically we see each other, about once or twice a week for spaces of two hours or so. Twice a week is doing well, maybe two proper nights out a month. Back in the day, this was fine. Now..

We both have spare time, just never at the same time it appears. To add insult, our sex life is non existent, or close enough.

On paper, we should have no problems seeing each other, but never seems to transpire somehow, even after we make an effort for a concerted time to see each other more. I reckon though, id be the better one at handling my time and spreading it out between friends, work and herself, where she would be more either or when it comes to doing things!

Now, to conclude, once every while, lets say once a month [ironic eh?] I can’t help but feel down about it all, where’s it going at this rate!? At the same time, I haven’t met anyone else I get on with so well, so I feel pretty much up the creak without a paddle.

Maybe it’s just my time of the month…?

Oh The Humanity

Crikey! I don't blame you being a bit disillusioned with that.

You're talking about 3 or 4 hours a week ?

And with no nookie?

Do ye live far apart or whats the story?

LegacyUser

-Yep, maybe 5-6 hours at a push some weeks.

-Pretty much.

-No, live in the same town and have no extraordinary circumstances really! Yet somehow, always busy at the wrong time or something comes up.

Oh The Humanity

Thats very strange.

Is it the case that you are the one making the plans but she remains vague or something?

eviltwin

Sounds a bit suss alright

I dont care how busy I was if I was really into someone I would make the effort to meet them even if it was just for a coffee or a walk or something.

The fact you live in the same town and she cant find even 5 minutes out of her time to see you is not a good sign. Sounds like she is hoping that by ignoring you, you'll get the message and leave her alone.

Just ask her outright does she want to be with you. If she does then she has to start making more time for you otherwise whats the point?

LegacyUser

To clarify, she also acknowledges [read moans] about the lack of quality time and makes plans some of the time! So not a one way street really, how we are like this? I don’t have a notion!

Oh The Humanity

Unreg No.100 wrote: »

To clarify, she also acknowledges [read moans] about the lack of quality time and makes plans some of the time! So not a one way street really, how we are like this? I don’t have a notion!

It's strange really. How long have you been going out and was it always like this?

I just find it strange because usually couples want to spend all their time together....at least at first anyway.