do i have a problem???

chucky82 · 06-10-2009 4:46pm #1

i have a gf but we have had alot of up and downs. I am also currently dating 2 other women... Im 27 male and altho I have no problem getting a gf. I just seem to want more. I have tried to cut it down to one. But for as long as I no myself I have always been doing this???

I broke up with a girl 6 months ago and told me and my friends no more women 4 hrs later i was with someone else... have i got some problem???

Madame Razz · 06-10-2009 4:48pm

No but your girlfriend does. She's dating somebody like you.

Sleep around all you want and have yourself a good time, but stringing a girl along simultaneously really isn't on. You're 27 not 17.

Grow up.

chucky82 · 06-10-2009 4:50pm

Madame Razz wrote: »

No but your girlfriend does. She's dating somebody like you.

Sleep around all you want and have yourself a good time, but stringing a girl along simultaneously really isn't on. You're 27 not 17.

Grow up.

ah like i said ups and downs mainly downs in fact havent seen her in over a week... so prob off but ammm my main prob is how can i stop?

ManOfMystery · 06-10-2009 5:42pm

So you're dating 3 women, and I presume none of them know about each other. Do you not feel the least bit guilty about cheating??

chucky82 · 06-10-2009 5:50pm

ManOfMystery wrote: »

So you're dating 3 women, and I presume none of them know about each other. Do you not feel the least bit guilty about cheating??

i do feel guilty yes, i think i have a problem?

ManOfMystery · 06-10-2009 5:53pm

In that case, are both the problem and solution not blatantly obvious?

chucky82 · 06-10-2009 5:55pm

but i have explained this i did break up with a girl 6 months ago andv ever since then i cant get enuf???

Lollipops23 · 06-10-2009 7:20pm

Get. Therapy.

Yes, you have a problem.

martdalto · 06-10-2009 7:38pm

Yes you have a problem/addiction.

Get thee to your GP.

I take it these 3 women don't know anything about each other? So why do you even need to ask if you have a problem.. you know you do. As another poster mentioned it might be "acceptable" (?wrong word) "understandable" (possibly) from a 17 year old.. not a 27 year old.

Terodil · 06-10-2009 7:59pm

You already know you have a problem.

Additionally to the advice already given here:
I assume you also haven't used condoms while sleeping with these women, so you better get yourself tested for STIs, and fast. If you have contracted anything, there's a chance you have infected the women you slept with as well, so you'll have to tell them.

eviltwin · 06-10-2009 8:22pm

The fact you even have to ask if you have a problem speaks volumes.

Its bad enough having two women on the go at once but three? Its not just a total lack of respect for the women involved but a lack of respect for yourself.

Do you have some kind of self destruct button? Do you actually WANT to get caught? Or do you just have an addiction to the danger and the variety of three girlfriends at once?

I think you need to end it with the extra two, take a break from the girlfriend proper ( if there even is one ) and take a good long hard look at what it is about exclusive relationships you find so scary

There is nothing wrong with casual sex as long as you are careful and take the right precautions but most people have the decency to be single while they do it

seanie2 · 07-10-2009 12:16pm

abstain completely for a week!

opinion guy · 07-10-2009 6:38pm

ok right.
what are you expecting people to say ?
Cause what I think, I think you are looking for people to come on here and say - yes you have a problem go see a shrink and basically just justify your behaviour without you having to take responsibility for your actions (i.e. being told you have a sex addiction to blame it on or some rubbish like that).

Bull. Your only problem is you are not accepting responsiblity for your own actions. don't feel guilty - thats self-indulgent. Just stop doing the behaviour that is prompting your guilt.

Of course, what is an interesting question is what drives you to do this. you say you can't help it. Why ? Whats driving this behaviour ?

LegacyUser · 07-10-2009 10:19pm

Yes you have a problem, you are selfish. Sorry to be blunt, but I have just been on the receiving end of treatment from a guy like you, and it hurt so badly when I realised how little regard he had for our relationship. Behaviour like that is fine when your single, but in a relationship it really hurts people and destroys their confidence and faith in relationships! Sorry I am aware this is more my own issue, but guys like you should really remain single and go for girls with similar morals to themselves, that way everyones happy.

LegacyUser · 07-10-2009 10:51pm

At the very least dude, how can you afford to date three women?
and where do you get the time?

Fiend-Foe · 08-10-2009 1:22am

bbbb wrote: »

Yes you have a problem, you are selfish. Sorry to be blunt, but I have just been on the receiving end of treatment from a guy like you, and it hurt so badly when I realised how little regard he had for our relationship. Behaviour like that is fine when your single, but in a relationship it really hurts people and destroys their confidence and faith in relationships! Sorry I am aware this is more my own issue, but guys like you should really remain single and go for girls with similar morals to themselves, that way everyones happy.

Yeah, its guys like the OP who give the rest of us a bad name and mess up girls heads so that they are untrusting and afraid to enter a relationship etc.

Plenty of lovely girls have been ruined for everybody else they get with by d1cks like that in their past.

Don't go around ruining people's lives and messing up their heads and future relationships.

do i have a problem???

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