boys are confusing

xmegzxc

hey, I just started college, finding it hard to get to know people but I joined a few societies so it's a great way to get to talk to people! There's this guy in one particular soc that I like, the whole soc went out for a few drinks after the meeting and I got talking to him, we were talking for most of the night. A few headed to one of the local nightclubs after, including him. The following night we went to a house party, it didnt go on till the wee hours of the morning as we were supposed to head out. In the end it was me, another girl (a friend I'd made ) and said guy and another guy. Well the guy I like wound up disappearing after a while to go to the bathroom and never came back.....am I wasting my time liking this guy? I haven't seen him since but that's not unusal as we're not in the same course and the soc meeting isn't until wednesday, this happened last thursday night.......there is a trip being organised this weekend for this soc so if I go he could be there......I need to pay for this trip tomorrow or wednesday so any advice????

sorry for how long this is but I don't feel very attractive when it comes to guys....I'm a size 16, I've never had a boyfriend and don't feel that confident with them...please help!

thanks x

minidazzler

OK First off, what does this guy have to do with the Soc??? I know he's in it, but don't just go to it to get him. Go to make friends not particularily to get a fella.

I don't know what the guy is up to, it sounds like he may be avoiding you but I don't know!!! On Wednesday if he is there say to him in a JOKING manner, "Where did you diisappear to last night?" Just to probe. If he seems uncomfortable, I would bet that he is just not that into you.

You do understand that all guys don't go for the same type.

I am sure there would be a few guys that would not find you attractive.
But I am also SURE there are a number that would.

Just put yourself out there and don't be shy, you're in college, this is no time to hold back.

xmegzxc

i wasn't just going to meet a guy, its just that he happens to be there, and its to do with the soc because why i was out last week was at soc events. I'm not just going for him but its a good way to get to know him....I'm not sure what to do...if I "put muyself out there" I'm sacred of getting shot down...(its happened to me before) espcially if i have to see him every week! I don't want it to be awkward!

ReacherCreature

I got talking to him, we were talking for most of the night. A few headed to one of the local nightclubs after, including him.

Well the guy I like wound up disappearing after a while to go to the bathroom and never came back.....am I wasting my time liking this guy?

To be honest, there isn't much to go on there. He's talking to you one night and disappears the other, you've only met him twice, give it another go.

the soc meeting isn't until wednesday,

Try get to talk to him and see how it goes. If you think there's no signs etc. then move on.

this happened last thursday night.......there is a trip being organised this weekend for this soc so if I go he could be there......I need to pay for this trip tomorrow or wednesday so any advice????

You like the society and you've made a friend in it. Paying to go on the trip just so he might be there is streching it for a guy you just met in my opinion. Go for the fun with the people.

sorry for how long this is but I don't feel very attractive when it comes to guys....I'm a size 16, I've never had a boyfriend and don't feel that confident with them...please help!

You were talking away to him for a good bit of the night, as mentioned above. You sound confident. Keep talking away and you'll be confident soon enough.

minidazzler

xmegzxc wrote: »

i wasn't just going to meet a guy, its just that he happens to be there, and its to do with the soc because why i was out last week was at soc events. I'm not just going for him but its a good way to get to know him....I'm not sure what to do...if I "put muyself out there" I'm sacred of getting shot down...(its happened to me before) espcially if i have to see him every week! I don't want it to be awkward!

Aren't we all. But you might as well go for it if the signals are right.

No ventured nothing gained. Just don't let it be awkward if he shoots you down, laugh it off and keep going at the Soc.

Life and all things in it is only as awkward as you allow it to be.

dsmythy

minidazzler wrote: »

I don't know what the guy is up to, it sounds like he may be avoiding you but I don't know!!! On Wednesday if he is there say to him in a JOKING manner, "Where did you diisappear to last night?" Just to probe. If he seems uncomfortable, I would bet that he is just not that into you.

Pretty much that's what to do.