Just using condoms, safe?

LegacyUser

I've recently embarked on my first serious relationship with a guy, and I'd like some advice on pregnancy-prevention options.

I have a lot of trust issues rooting back to a troubled childhood, and I have a hard time believing any relationship I ever embark on will last more than a few weeks, and yet this one probably has the best chance of any.

But... currently we're only using condoms when we have sex, and avoiding sex during my most fertile period. I don't want to go on the birth control pill if this is going to be over in a couple of weeks. I've never been in a serious relationship before and was never having sex, so I've never had to deal with birth control methods.

I don't want to do anything darastic to my body just yet, until I'm sure this is going to last for a while.

I believed this method was perfectly safe up to now, condoms and avoiding sex during most fertile time, but I read something the other day which made me worried. It said two methods of prevention are always necessary.

I'd like to know what other people out there do. Do you manage with just condoms and general carefulness?

We always try to make sure he pulls out just before cumming also, even though he's using a condom, just in case. Are we fairly safe like this for now?

minidazzler

Me personally I would prefer 2 methods myself.

But Condoms are plenty safe when used correctly. Condom's will rarely split when carried correctly, get some sort of Tin for them would be my advice.

Don't be so negative you are assuming that what you have will end in a number of weeks, this is no definite thing. Enjoy it.

There is a fantastic Thread in TLL if you wanna read through it. http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055235968

Condom's are fine as long as ye use them carefully.

But I am a proponant of 2 methods beat one.

Nevyn

There are many different types of birth control not just the oral contraceptive pill.
I would suggest that you look at all the methods there are an seriously using something in conjunction with condoms. There are just to many ways in which condoms can fail
with typical use the rates of pregnancy in a year are 10–18% and unless you have calculated exactly when you are ovulating using dection methods for your hormonal levels you can't assume that you are ovulating between day 9 and 14 that is if you even have a 28 days consistent cycle. Typical use of fertility awareness results in a pregnancy rate of 3-25% in the first year.

So I would consider those odds not really good enough if you really do not want to become pregnant.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barrier_contraception

There are more types of hormonal contraception then the pill there is the patch or the nuvaring and both methods are quickly and easily stopped if you decided to come off them.

muboop1

em a mate of mine gets the condom(s) after they are used and puts water in them to see it any potential leakage or small tear that went unnoticed?

Im sure its not 100% or whatever but seems to be grand.

Once they are used correctly there should be no problems.