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What am I playing at?

  • 03-10-2009 7:27pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm not sure what my question is yet so I'm just going to explain the situation to begin with.
    I'm in final year of college and I am 29 years old. I've alot of work to do this year so I did not want any distractions. I'm living in an appartment block with alot of students. On a bender about a month ago I ended up sleeping with one of the guys in my block who is 23. which has happened again twice since. I like this guy alot to hang out with, but he is definitly not someone I'd have a relationship with. I sort of thought it would be nice to have someone to sleep with to destress and maybe catch a movie or two with, but nothing serious. Turns out he is ok with this and likes the idea of it. Except now he is expecting sex and to hang out more often than I had hoped. I want to get into college stuff and not be distracted, but now I find myself shopping for sexy undies online. I was in a long term relationship before I was finding it difficult to get over. The best way to get over one man is to under another I was told. He hasn't tried alot of things sexually and we where talking about this after the last time we had sex. At the end of my last relationship I was reading up on tantric sex and sort of feel that I never really gave anal a fair trial.
    My question, should I take this final year to educate myself in more than course work? or should I save that for someone who I think I might spend the rest of my life with. This man isn't from Ireland and will be returning to his home at the end of the year. This would purely be light entertainment. I'm confusing myself, I think I'm looking for two different things simultaneously. What do you think?


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  • #2
    putock
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11 ✭putock


    Explain in no uncertain terms what exactly you're looking for out of it. Knowing yourself what you don't wantit to become i'd say stay out of it, you don't want to have a relationship with him but already you're spending more time together and what no, the final year of a degree is the one that counts, so if the 'fling' can't be exactly what you need then end it before it ends up messing your year up.

    In my second last year of college i had my ex break up with me a week before the finals, if it had been the final year then my degree would have suffered severely, don't leave yourself open to this!!


  • #3
    Bringthethunder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 197 ✭✭Bringthethunder


    You kind of went from maybe thinking this guy was getting a bit clingy to maybe trying anal sex with him....?.....Dont think just because your in college you feel like you have educate yourself more sexually you have your whole life to do that just get yourself a good education one thing at a time....:):)


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