Need advice on sex life

AnonHelp

Hi

I need a bit of advice. DH and I have been together for a number of years and everything about our relationship is brilliant (well nearly everything). We can talk for hours and hours, we get on great, we laugh over nothing, we enjoy the same things etc and I love him so much. The problem is our sex life. It is not like it used to be and when there is a bit of action it kind of feels like a chore. It wasn't always like this and I can't put my finger on when exactly it happened. I think the routine of life caught up with us and our sex life gradually took 2nd, 3rd, 4th place.

So anyway this had been on my mind for a while and on Saturday night after a few drinks in the pub I got a bit of courage when we got home and brought the subject up with DH. We had a bit of a chat and it turned out that he felt the same! So we started discussing ways in which we could liven it up a bit. One of the things that DH mentioned was that we should look into dressing up for each other and maybe getting some toys. My problem is that I have never done anything like this before and the more I think about it the more nervous I get! There is no way in the world that I could walk into a sex shop and ask to try on a nurses uniform or which of their vibrators is the best? So I think my only option is to buy something online.

I am clueless so can anyone recommend what would be a good to get? Or give me some ideas? Also recommend a website that is discreet and reliable?

Any help is greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance!

Oh The Humanity

Hey, Anne Summers, I know its corny but its a good place to start if you feel a bit intimidated by a Capel street type place.

The girls there are only too happy to show you the toys etc There is a sort of round section with loads of demo toys there, like in a phone shop so you can test them on your hand etc

The costumes are also quite pretty and there are good changing rooms. They are on the pricey side though I will admit!

Best of luck with it all !!!

Silversudz

http://www.annsummers.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/TopCategoriesDisplay?storeId=10001&rw.cm=google,ppc,ann+summers

Try their online shop first if your anxious about visiting the store in person.

AnonHelp

AnonHelp wrote: »

My problem is that I have never done anything like this before and the more I think about it the more nervous I get! There is no way in the world that I could walk into a sex shop and ask to try on a nurses uniform or which of their vibrators is the best? So I think my only option is to buy something online.

Nah, don't think about it just hop in, nobody will look twice at you. The girls in AS are lovely and will give you a hand and let you know anything you need.

Although if you and your hubby want to use the toys I think it would be a good idea to bring him along too. You can have a chat and figure out what looks fun together instead of bringing something random to the bedroom which the other might not like. Or look at the websites together, figure what looks interesting then head in.

good luck and good work on having the chat about it - that's such a major hurdle over.

Nevyn

tbh i hate ann summers.

I would suggest that if you have never had a vibe you get yourself into a chemist or boots and go to the condom section and pick up a 'durex: touch'. It's a mini vibe with a finger sleve attached to it, comes in a discrete sealed white plastic box and should cost you less then 20 euros.

Start there and dress up doesn't' have to be roleplay naughty nurses it could just be stockings and sexy underwear and the best thing you can do is learn to talk about it with your partner so that you are not ebrassed communicating about your sex life together.

The sex and sexuality forum can also be a good help.

Thaedydal

Thaedydal wrote: »

tbh i hate ann summers.

The costumes are lame, but the stuff like "rosebud" toys are brill

Start there and dress up doesn't' have to be roleplay naughty nurses it could just be stockings and sexy underwear

Yeah, no point overdoing it on the start.

Thaed is right though maybe you should try discussing it with OH some more to see what kind of dressing up etc etc etc