Getting in contact with someone

LegacyUser

lame story but please bear with me.

i was out at a club a few days ago and got talking to an american who was new in the country and who is going to my college but in another faculty. we got on very well together and we ended up hooking up for a few hours. i walked her home and asked for her number, she didnt have one as she was so new in the country but she asked could we meet the next day and gave me her full name to add her on facebook and we could arrange to meet up. i said i would do so.

i searched for her name of facebook the next morning but it didnt come up so i assumed that shed given me the wrong name/wasnt interested or something but i felt pretty bad for not contacting her when i said i would. however earlier today i was bored and browsing through facebook and ended up on the page of a friend of a friend of a friend. the american was tagged in a photo but her name was greyed out (when youre profile is on private)

id like to see her again but am a bit unsure as to how i could contact her. does anyone have any advice on what to do?

MissFlitworth

I dunno, that sounds a bit dodge. Why give you her full name to find her on facebook when she could just have given you her email address?

Only think I could think of is mail someone in the friend of a friend of a friend chain and see if they have contact details for her

LegacyUser

op here

neither of us is irish so we'd been talking about facebook earlier on as a great way to keep in contact with people from back home.

would feel a bit uneasy about contacting the friend of a friend , seems a bit too stalkerish.

Monkey61

I don't think it sounds that dodgy. I'd often tell someone to add me on facebook, as opposed to giving out my email purely because I would use facebook to contact people whereas my email address would just be for work or flight confirmations and stuff like that.

I would definitely send a message to the friend of a friend of a friend, explain who you are and ask for her email address.

Giving someone a fake name seems a bit ludicrous, especially as with facebook she was under no obligation to accept your friend request even if she wasn't interested and add to that the fact that there is clearly a friend connection between you if she's in the photos of someone you know...

ibarelycare

OP she probably forgot her profile was non-searchable when she gave you her name, FB can be a bit confusing with its privacy settings. I'd say try and get in touch with her through the friend of a friend, you've nothing to lose!

opinion guy

ok there's a techy explanation for this. Her privacy settings are so strict that strangers can't even search her name. she may not be aware that having settings so tight has this effect. Hmmm what you could do his message the person who posted the picture and ask them to pass on a message to her. just try to make it look non-stalkery and hope the intermediate helps.

alternatively you could post a comment on the photo saying "Hey its you Ms XYZ!! I tried to add you as a friend but your privacy too strict. message me!" - but she might never see that.

The_Conductor

If shes in your college in a different faculty- surely it would be reasonably straight forward to 'accidentally' bump into her again?

LegacyUser

OP here

its a big college with faculties spread across the city so i dont think my chances of accidentally bumping into her are high. also the photos are of a friend of a friend etc so id be unable to comment on them.


anyone have any ideas aside from asking a randomer for her contact details? not too big on that idea although it seems like the only possibility so far.