FB's brother

LegacyUser

Hi everyone ,
I was just looking for peoples opinion on the situation I'm in. Basically I have been seeing my f*ck buddy for the past couple of years in complete secrecy -absolutely no one else knows about us. Anyway about six months ago I met his brother and got chatting to him, nothing happened of course, and I have met him several times since in the pub with our mutual friends and had a great laugh together but the problem is now I really like him and fancy him like hell . So should I just forget about him or what do people think ?

PS I told my fb about it and he says he wouldn't say anything about us but I'm not so sure.

LegacyUser

Anybody?

Shelga

Your FB said he would be fine with you starting something with his brother and wouldn't tell anyone about the two of you? (that is, you and the FB) That's just...odd. Even if he says he's ok with it I would be inclined to steer well clear of the brother.

It's not like you and your FB only happened once or twice, you said you've been seeing him for years. Yes the brother may be attractive and nice, etc, but so are lots of other men, so why risk everything getting very messy?

If you want to continue sleeping with your FB, leave the brother alone.

If you want a boyfriend, end it with your FB and find a romantic relationship away from that whole family.

To sum up, IMO you should steer well clear of the brother under all circumstances.

wexford202

Unless you are going to be honest with the brother don't bother going there at all!

I'd leave him alone. He doesn't need that kind of hassle

SarahSassy

wexford202 wrote: »

Unless you are going to be honest with the brother don't bother going there at all!

I'd leave him alone. He doesn't need that kind of hassle

Absolutely - there is something very icky aboout the proposed set up.. Let the bro off in his innocence and do what you want with your FB....

Can imagine getting myself in a place where I am having sex with someone who cares so little that he is happy I cop off with his brother.... Are you happy with being in this place?

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies and of course you are right - its just that he is the first fella I have met in over ten years that I could see myself having a relationship with but I suppose it is just not to be, it would be far too messy and sordid.
Even though my FB said he didn't mind I think from the way he reacted he was probably a little hurt so I pretended I was only joking because he is a lovely and kind man .

SarahSassy

maryanne44 wrote: »

Thanks for the replies and of course you are right - its just that he is the first fella I have met in over ten years that I could see myself having a relationship with but I suppose it is just not to be, it would be far too messy and sordid.
Even though my FB said he didn't mind I think from the way he reacted he was probably a little hurt so I pretended I was only joking because he is a lovely and kind man .

I am curious.. You want a relationship and define your FB as a lovely and kind man so why not make a go of it with him?

LegacyUser

I agree with SarahSassy. What would be wrong with a relationship with your FB? It sounds like he might have feelings for you if he was put out when you mentioned his brother.

CDfm

If your FB was hurt when you mentioned it maybe he has feelings for you.

Are you sure that the relationship with your FB is not stopping you from making a commitment elsewhere.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Terrible terrible idea. Perhaps its the drama of it that's making you fancy the brother so much(human's are odd creatures)

Even if your FB doesn't mind the brother won't be able to block it out. And he already knows, no doubt about that.

You'll just end up not knowing either of them and messing with their brother relationship.