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Tips on navigating the social scene

  • 16-09-2009 12:21pm
    #1
    indie09
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8 ✭


    Hi I've already posted in the personal issues section with my problem.I'm a 29 year old woman who feels like I havent a clue when it comes to going out on the pub/club scene.
    Looking for tips/books anything on how to be a pro in this area.
    I am quite shy (unless I've a few drinks at which point I'm out giving it welly on the dancefloor)but when it comes to men I feel like a hopeless case.Am grand talking to men ,it's just getting to that point.Feel like I give off the wrong signals that I'm aloof or something.


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  • #2
    stovelid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 ✭✭✭✭stovelid


    You won't really get many serious answers here. :)

    I think the personal issues forum is a far better bet.


  • #3
    CreepingDeath
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,015 ✭✭✭CreepingDeath


    Pics or GTFO ! (someone had to say it)

    And don't just focus on "pubs and clubs", there's various sports and outdoor stuff to do too. Mixed tag rugby, tennis, hiking / walking groups etc.


  • #4
    chin_grin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,808 ✭✭✭✭chin_grin


    Yeah After Hours isn't the best place for serious discussion. I'd say join a local activity. Would be a great way to meet like minded people, any place that you bring alcohol in to the equation is not going to bode well for a lifelong relationship!


  • #5
    Turd Ferguson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,193 ✭✭✭Turd Ferguson


    Wear a t-shirt with SLUT written on it...thats how I get guys


  • #6
    Rabies
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,258 ✭✭✭✭Rabies


    Moved to tLL.
    The girls there might be able to help if PI wasn't a success for you


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  • #7
    Rabies
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,258 ✭✭✭✭Rabies


    tLL mods, sorry. Didn't get to snip the AH style comments before the move.


  • #8
    Turd Ferguson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,193 ✭✭✭Turd Ferguson


    Rabies wrote: »
    tLL mods, sorry. Didn't get to snip the AH style comments before the move.

    Can't help but feel that you're talking about me :(


  • #9
    minidazzler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,739 ✭✭✭✭minidazzler


    Wait, so you are able to talk to men, but none ever go in for the kiss or something? Not sure I fully comprehend what you are saying but I will say, in this day and age it IS OK for women to make the first move.

    I'm not saying go all "He's not that into you" Style and jump him but after talking for a bit if you fancy him then, go in for the kiss.

    My own personal style is when it the conversation lull's for a sec and I look at her eyes I will know if she wants me to or not. So play it that way.

    Just read the body language, if he is attracted to you he should either be standing his tallest or leaning against something looking "cool". He should make regular eye contact and if you notice him lick his lips, that's the time to go. He may not necessarily go to kiss you first, but the licking the lips indicates that he wants to (or has dry lips, but usually the former when chatting someone up).

    As I said I am not 100% sure if I comprehend the question, but this is my style and all the signals I will put out there when probing I don't know if all guys do this, either consciously or unconsciously but I did notice myself repeating these patterns a number of times so I assume it is a natural thing.


  • #10
    panda100
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,551 ✭✭✭panda100


    Bets place to get chatting to blokes in a pub is the bar. Its very easy to strike up conversation when your both waiting to get served, thats where I do all my flirting!
    If you think your giving off an aloof vibe then just initiate the conversation yourself.


    I think if your intrested in meeting someone then stick to pubs over clubs.


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