Does it ever work out?

LegacyUser

I'll try to be short and sweet. I was seeing a girl for 6 months or so on and off, She was a bit hot and cold with the whole thing after (the old chestnut) being just out of a 6 year relationship.
Now at the start she assured it was finished, that it was a really bad relationship at the end etc. and she would never go back.
Fast forward a few weeks and she seems to call a halt to the whole thing, no reasons just stopped answering calls etc. After me pestering (stupid) she says she is still in love with the ex and doesn't wanna lead me on.

So after annother 3-4 months of intermittant meeting up - her saying she only wants to be friends but us usually ending up together, it just sorted of fizzled out, I suppose I made the decision to try and give her space even though it wasn't that hard a thing to do as she was barely replying to anything anymore...

Then out of the blue having had no contact for nearly a month i get a text in the middle of the night telling me to "wake up, and not to txt her me again", Ihadn't in weeks so rang her the next day...what was that about, oh it was meant for someone else....this kinda crap, fine i said i'm out,

Couple weeks later we bumped into eachother got chatting and kinda cleared the air, she saying she just wants to befriends nothing more, i told her fine that i did want more but im moving away for a few months (work) in two weeks anyway so we could hang out a few times before i leave.

I just left at the weekend, we had a real blast the last 2-3 weeks, hung out had fun, enjoyed eachothers compan etc.

On my lst night we went for a few to many drinks, and i stayed over in hers, nadda happened as such but looking back if id read the signs i could ave made it happen, if ya know what i mean,

Then i get a cpl texts saying "of course i have feelings for you, i do like you but at hte moment i need to sort my head out" but youll be in ****** along these lines,

Now i know she is still in contact withthe ex, (a wrong un by the way, even hit her once, and this is a tiny little timid girl, who as she admits has only come out of herself in the last year or so, so as she grows in confidance what does this guy do.....dump her, IMHO he is a control freak but this is beside the point)

My Question really is can it happen that in a few months time things could work out btw us, I told her that where i am going to is not the end of the world and that it is probably a good thing at the mo as she needs her space, but if she would like to meet in a few weeks for a weekend somewhere that would be great...There was no reply to this, that was the last contact, (sunday), I know that the ex is sniffing around and prob always has been and i dunno does she have the strength to say no to him, or if she even wants to....

There is nada else i can do now but wait and see i just would like to know ppls opinions as to wether a situation like this ever works out....it seems to sck that she only realised that she has these feeling again when she let her gaurd down and we were able to hang out for a few weeks again, we get on really well have lots in common and always seem to have a great time together no matter what we do....My only regret was not being more "alpha male" when it came to the bedroom, and making something happen, looking back i think that is what she wanted me to do but i was afraid to because i was just thinking she was emotionally to fragile and didn't wanna push her......ahhhh the joys of it all

Wibbs

Kinda the same take I gave on another thread here, you don't want to be in an emotional triangle wondering what's what. You don't want to be a rebound and you dont want to be looking over your shoulder wondering if her ex is still in the picture.

Let her do the running now. Keep in very light contact if you feel that's right for you(though personally I wouldn't). She needs to work out what she wants. You or him. More to the point her and what she needs in life. You can't do that for her. It's tempting but usually pointless.