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I think I am really unfortunate

  • 15-09-2009 11:01pm
    #1
    TheGreenGiant
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 300 ✭✭


    Hey folks :) Just wanted to get opinions on this as it hasn't left my mind the past few days. Ok I have been txting this girl for over a month now. She is just such a cool, down to earth girl and we have a lot of things in common. I have only been in 2 relationships that didn't last very long and both of those ended up with me been really hurt. But when I met this girl, everything turned around for me. It got to the stage where we both said we really liked each other, but she said it was kinda bad timing for me as she was only out of a relationship and she was starting college. So I said grand, thats no problem, lets just take things slowly, we're both in no rush.

    have asked her out on many occasions, about 5 so far just to meet up, but on the day something else comes up for her and she can't meet. I have no problem with that. I mean if she can't make it, she can't make it. When you really like someone you don't mind...there is always next time.

    The thing is, I have realy grown to like her, and like the things she has said to me are just so heart warming. But I feel she's not on the same level of feelings as me and I fully understand that especially after her break up. What I'm wondering is should I keep my hopes up that she turns around one of the days and says you know, lets give this relationship a try or should I let my feelings for her dwindle down? I really hope that she does give me a chance!


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    To be honest I think you should lay off, If she doesn't have the same level of feelings for you at the moment.
    Was in a similar situation to this recently, fell realy hard for the girl, she told me she liked me too but having just come out of a relationship she wasn't ready for anything.
    Now there are two ways you can deal with this, 1) accept what she says, stay in the picture but give her space and hopee that she deals with her relationship fall out and begins to come around in time, i stress giving her space is a very imprtant part of this,
    2) do what i did, keep chasing (she says she likes me afterall) and end up alienating her and ruining any chance you have by panicing and coming on waaaay too strong ultimately causing her to think that maybe the ex wasn't so bad afterall and driving her back to him....

    Its different for every situation but i would urge ya not to make the same mistakes as I, it is a road to heart ache that you don't need, if she really does like you she will come around once she has sorted her head, and if she doesn't well maybe she didn't really like you to begin with and all you have lost is a lot of pain and wasted time..


  • #3
    TheGreenGiant
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 300 ✭✭TheGreenGiant


    Thanks very much for your reply. Yep, everything you said there I had thought over before posting and I completely agree with you. Just wanted to get another opinion on it to see if my thoughts were going in the right or wrong direction. Thanks again :)


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