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how to feel more confident on the social scene

  • 15-09-2009 2:32pm
    #1
    indie09
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8 ✭


    Looking for advice /tips..good book suggestions even
    I am 29 and have been single for 2 years.I am a reasonably confident person normally but when I go out socially to pubs/clubs I can feel self-conscious .I dont know how to get out of this.I can imagine I come across as aloof/stuck-up when really I'm not.
    I want to meet someone.Please help


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  • #2
    fitz0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,753 ✭✭✭fitz0


    I have a friend who got into the pick-up artist scene and he's never looked back. Its worth a try anyway.

    Try the whole joining clubs/gym/etc thing to widen your circle of friends and maybe find a wingman to help you on a night out.


  • #3
    indie09
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8 ✭indie09


    Thanks Fitz for your advice.I am involved in clubs ,have no shortage of friends.It's more about tips about when I am out in niteclubs,pubs.
    I can feel quite shy and afraid to make eyecontact etc with guys unless I've a few drinks and even then I'm not great at it.
    I go out with my friends and feel like a wallflower.Please help.


  • #4
    fitz0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,753 ✭✭✭fitz0


    In that case try the PUA thing. I've never tried it myself (thought about it though) but those I know who have tried it have never looked back. Theres a book called "The Game" by Neil Strauss that should start you off.


  • #5
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    fitz0 its a girl looking for guys your talking to , I dont think the game will be of much use :pac:


  • #6
    fitz0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,753 ✭✭✭fitz0


    Whaaaaaaat?

    In that case I can't offer you any advice. How did you work that one out?


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  • #7
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    From this ,
    I can imagine I come across as aloof/stuck-up when really I'm not.
    I cant imagine a guy writing it for some reason, and I know girls that have that problem, genuinely nice people that are maybe a bit shy, and people that dont know them consider them to be stuck up or snobby looking.

    But here is the give away:
    I can feel quite shy and afraid to make eyecontact etc with guys unless I've a few drinks and even then I'm not great at it.


  • #8
    fitz0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,753 ✭✭✭fitz0


    Mayhap I should read posts a little more thoroughly.


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