Friend interupts when chatting with girls

Skuxx

Hi everyone, not sure if I'm in the right forum here as it's not exactly a "personal issue" so mods feel free to move....

Anyway, whenever I'm out in a bar, club etc I always get chatting to girls as I never found it hard like some guys do and I'm currently single so.........The thing is, there is one of my friends, lets call him Joe, and he always comes over, trying to take the spot light off me and onto himself. Where I'm from, if your mate is alone chatting to a girl, you stay away! Its fine if he is there talking with a group of her friends, by all means go and say hello, but a guy talking to a girl and I feel you should let them be! But he never does!
What do you think? Should I just tell him to piss off? Its not that when he comes over she goes with him or anything like that, but you can see that she feels more uncomfortable when there is 2 of us!

What you thinking?

Catari Jaguar

Hi! I think you need to get a new wingman! Stop inviting Joe out and if he asks tell him you were sick of his constant c*ckblocking.

kjl

I had a friend who did that, he isnt my friend anymore

JonathanAnon

Joe is piggy backing on your hard work. He obviously finds it easier to talk to girls when the ice has already been broken by somebody else. I dont think it's worth dropping him completely over this, but you need to tell him to f**k off cos what's he's doing is selfish. Does he ever go and chat up women without you being there?

Skuxx

JonathanAnon wrote: »

Does he ever go and chat up women without you being there?

Not really, on a very rare occasion like, but according to himself he is always with different girls, I've never met any of them!!

wylo

theres always one in a group of lads, Id a mate who did, eventually we told him to cut it out and he stopped

LegacyUser

There's just absolutely nothing worse. There's two in our group, one who will actually blatantly wander up and try steal the girl (he doesn't try it with me but with lads in our group who have less success with girls, cause he sees them as weaker targets. Basically he got a rep for it and is now slagged mercilessy to an extent he doesnt go up to girls anymore and serves him right!)

Another lad is a complete joke. He'd sit there for the night and do nothing, basically be a dry ****e and as soon as we'd attract a group of girls he'd be up on the tables, getting the shots in and be the life of the party. This pissed us off for two reasons
1) He'd rip the piss out of us, his mates to get a laugh out of a random girl
2) He'd blatantly sit there and use our own jokes, funny stories etc. to get a laugh out of a girl. Both are complete no-no's in my book.

Also you know when your friend is trying to get talking to a girl and a good buddy of yours would back up your stories, build you up, laugh at your jokes etc. He'd do the exact opposite.

Basically we called him on it cause he'd realised we all kept having individual arguements with him, told him he acted like a tosser and to be honest he still does it to some extent but mostly cause he's a bit of a lonely sad git in many ways we reckon.

But OP you've every right to be annoyed, and as always in a group of lads and something needs to be sorted just let the slagging commence! I assume you're not the only one he does it to?

wasper

alan1990 wrote: »

Not really, on a very rare occasion like, but according to himself he is always with different girls, I've never met any of them!!

Look go easy on the fellow. Tell him in a gentle way that if you saw him with a girl chatting, you wouldn't think on butting in.
Try not to dent his ego.

wylo

wasper wrote: »

Look go easy on the fellow. Tell him in a gentle way that if you saw him with a girl chatting, you wouldn't think on butting in.
Try not to dent his ego.

Im sorry but I really think merciless slagging and ego denting is the only way to get through the lads that carry on like that.
Not trying to be funny.

unhappycamper

It sucks doesn't it. I gave up in pubs there has to be an easier way.. Friends butting in is the worst thing.

Peleus

tell your mate to **** off if he tries that again. if a friend is alone with a girl you leave him alone. or the next time he tries it just pretend you dont know who he is and tell him to go away.

Colonel_McCoy

Worst wingman ever! Thing you need to sit him down and tell him about the rules suttely! NO C**K BLOCKING

Vain

Just don't tell him when your out some night, tell him before hand. Fights are easily started drunk.

LegacyUser

No Worries wrote: »

There's just absolutely nothing worse. There's two in our group, one who will actually blatantly wander up and try steal the girl (he doesn't try it with me but with lads in our group who have less success with girls, cause he sees them as weaker targets. Basically he got a rep for it and is now slagged mercilessy to an extent he doesnt go up to girls anymore and serves him right!)

Another lad is a complete joke. He'd sit there for the night and do nothing, basically be a dry ****e and as soon as we'd attract a group of girls he'd be up on the tables, getting the shots in and be the life of the party. This pissed us off for two reasons
1) He'd rip the piss out of us, his mates to get a laugh out of a random girl
2) He'd blatantly sit there and use our own jokes, funny stories etc. to get a laugh out of a girl. Both are complete no-no's in my book.

Also you know when your friend is trying to get talking to a girl and a good buddy of yours would back up your stories, build you up, laugh at your jokes etc. He'd do the exact opposite.

Basically we called him on it cause he'd realised we all kept having individual arguements with him, told him he acted like a tosser and to be honest he still does it to some extent but mostly cause he's a bit of a lonely sad git in many ways we reckon.

But OP you've every right to be annoyed, and as always in a group of lads and something needs to be sorted just let the slagging commence! I assume you're not the only one he does it to?

Why do you still hang around him ???
He sounds like a mate you could do without tbh.